Are you a Swinger?

[VegasLee]

Over the years it seems that Swinging, wife swapping, recreational sex has evolved into being a “lifestyle” by the new definitions.

Many are encompassing many things in today’s current lifestyle so I thought it would be interesting to see what people think of the different types within the Lifestyle and what your thoughts are on it.

Swingers: Those that have recreational sex between consenting adults. They get naked and have sex with someone other than their spouse. (I guess this definition can change depending on how you define a sexual act. “I did not have sex with that woman.”)

Soft Swingers: People that get together, make out like they are in high school. Some include oral sex as soft swinging.

Voyeurs: This group goes to clubs and conventions where Swingers party so that they can watch others have sex. Many feel this helps their own relationships because it gets them all hot and bothered then they go home and have wild sex with their spouse.

Exhibitionists: Those that like to go to clubs and have sex in front of others but don’t swap or have any sexual contact with anyone besides their partner.

Flirts: (aka teasers) can be found at most any club. The women dances with other women, maybe showing her tits and attracting all the attention they can. Many of them keeping the interest of many of single men throughout the night with no intention of doing anything with them at the party or any other time.

I am sure there are many others that are now included within the “Lifestyle” that used to be Swinging.

All of us have our own views and ways we define the Lifestyle and our personal experiences within this Lifestyle. Does not make any of them right or wrong, just different and that is a good thing.

How do you define yourself within the Lifestyle?
How do you define the terms that are used in today’s Lifestyle?
Are there other “fetishes” that you believe are common within today’s Lifestyle?

[SCcpl40]

We're a full swap lifestyle couple.

[BiloxiCouple]

Recreational sex with others.

[two4youinswva]

We're Full-Swap, Venti, Half-Caf, Low-Fat, Soy Latte, Lite Foam swingers.

It does seem that we get lots of variety underneath the umbrella, doesn't it?

I agree with you Lee; there are a variety of views on what constitutes the Lifestyle, and I'm pretty open minded on what others decide defines it for them.

I don't know what fetishes would be considered common in the lifestyle. We've known some folks with foot fetishes, some into BDSM, as well as a few others, but I don't know if we've seen enough of these to call them common.

[avid]

We are a full-swap triad. We can either be friends with the people we're having sex with, or not. We get into all kinds of combinations and permutations because there are three of us in this committed relationship, but recreational sex is a part of it.

I don't pretend to define swinging, aka "The Lifestyle" for anyone but the three of us, but that's what WE do.

[DecaturAreaCpl]

Swingers! Recreational sex with other couples. Lifestyle doesn't apply--our lifestyle is defined in other ways. We are just a couple who like sex with other people.

[NewTemptations]

Over the years, I have had many different couples contact me on Yahoo because they are looking for a bi female to join them. They always tell me that they are NOT swingers, they just enjoy having sex together with another woman.

Seems to me that they are engaging in "recreational sex between consenting adults" and by that definition they ARE swingers.

So are they swingers or not? And if not, what exactly are they? Hmmmm

Laura

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by NewTemptations

Over the years, I have had many different couples contact me on Yahoo because they are looking for a bi female to join them. They always tell me that they are NOT swingers, they just enjoy having sex together with another woman.

Seems to me that they are engaging in "recreational sex between consenting adults" and by that definition they ARE swingers.

So are they swingers or not? And if not, what exactly are they? Hmmmm

Laura

Laura, totally sounds like swingers to me as well. They are only looking for females, and well, isn't that just semantics?

According to Lee's definitions, we're proud that we're swingers. We love that recreational sex between people! BTW... is there a difference between wife-swapping and swinging?

[socolais]

Full swappin party animals - anything less is just half assed


Your description of soft swappers strikes me as somewhat funny

[good times]

We are a full swap couple, both straight. Anything else, while they may be swingers, aren't what we are looking for.

On the down side, it sometimes gets discouraging wading through all of these different types at the club. On the up side, by adding to the number of people coming to the club, they keep the admission price down.

[TNT]

How do you define yourself within the Lifestyle?

Sluts

How do you define the terms that are used in today’s Lifestyle?

Confusing...the longer we are into this, the more we think like you Lee...KISS (Keep it simple stupid)...it's just sex.

Are there other “fetishes” that you believe are common within today’s Lifestyle?

I think that BDSM plays a part in swinging...we've met a few couples who are into this and search out others in swinging who are also into it.

Wannabes...I think this would fall under "flirts". We've seen younger couples at clubs/socials who do the flirting but have no intentions of ever playing.

Hot Wifers...we consider this a subcategory within the swinging world.

Teresa

[Tia Vampire]

We are full swap swingers and also flirts. She more than he. I also like the definition S&M (stand and model) Can't remember who said it, but it was a good reply. l usually S&M if there is no one at the swing party that we are interested in.

[WillieWonders]

We are swingers as well. More the 'recreational' type than the 'lifestyle' type now, though there have been times when it was all emcompassing. We ebb and flow like the tides

[CB_n_Red]

We're definitely swingers. Have been ever since we decided it was a good idea to give it a try. Never could figure out soft swinging - didn't seem a lot of point!

As for defining terms.... tricky!

[cocpl2007]

Nice post, Lee. There seems to be views all over the place on the lifestyle terms you identified. In our experience we’ve encountered some pretty judgmental folks who seem to have proprietary knowledge of the meaning and application of these terms.

To us:

Swingers: People who have sex, including sexual (non-intercourse) play, outside of their primary relationship. Many, many unmarried (i.e. Spouse) individuals and couples play sexually with others, so in our view Swingers are not limited to married couples.

Soft Swingers: People who only have sex with their primary partner in the presence of others who are also enjoying sexual relations with only their primary partner.

These two definitions get pretty cloudy when trying to define oral sex. Some Soft Swingers we’ve encountered believe that Oral Sex with someone other than their primary relationship partner constitutes Soft Swinging. Others maintain that conduct crosses the line into being a Swinger.

We are right with you on your definitions of Voyeurs and Exhibitionists.

We’ve been a full swap couple. However we have found our erotic niche playing within the boundaries of soft swinging and letting the sexual play evolve to where ever it may, within the closed circle of two married couples who have taken the time to know each other as friends prior to spicing things up by sharing body parts.

Mr & Mrs Co