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Hi all,

 

My husband is interested in watching me be with another man (MFM)... I have never done it before but it is not out of the question...

 

I just have not figured out why a husband would want to watch his wife have sex with another man. :confused:

 

I just can't see how he is going to be satisfied just watching me.

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From personal experience...

 

I remember the unbelievable "conflict" i had over building up to the first time I watched my wife with another guy.. a incredible possessiveness.. a sexual thrill.. My heart beat incredibly hard for days leading up to the first time

 

And then actually watching it happen.. my mind was going a million miles a hour... confused.. aroused.. angry.. frustrated.. horny.. excited..There has never been a higher high then that experience

 

Now, to counter that, I know one couple where the actual experience was very bad... the anger and his need to "own" his wife overwealmed what else he was getting out of it and it turned out bad

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A man who is a good lover is a man who wishes for his partner's pleasure and fulfillment. His excitement is in seeing her pleasure, seeing her in response, watching her arousal, seeing her from, literally, a different perspective.

 

The first time I saw my woman guiding another man's cock into her was an incredible rush for me. If a man wishes to feed his partner's sexuality, then he wishes for her to have.

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wow..couplewanting50!!!!!!! was going to post a reply but you pretty much hit the nail on the head and drove it home!!!! not much to say now lol.

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From personal experience...

 

I remember the unbelievable "conflict" i had over building up to the first time I watched my wife with another guy.. a incredible possessiveness.. a sexual thrill.. My heart beat incredibly hard for days leading up to the first time

 

And then actually watching it happen.. my mind was going a million miles a hour... confused.. aroused.. angry.. frustrated.. horny.. excited..There has never been a higher high then that experience

 

Now, to counter that, I know one couple where the actual experience was very bad... the anger and his need to "own" his wife overwealmed what else he was getting out of it and it turned out bad

 

Otho described it very well. The amazing thing is all of those thoughts and feelings go through you over and over in micro seconds and in no particular order.

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here is the single male's perspective on it.

 

i have been with many couples, its actually my favorite and its enjoyment within the man seeing his wife let loose and have fun. you are everything to him and i am the one that for a few hours will give you pleasure and butterflies inside your stomach while feeling something new. it could be his desire to see you with a younger guy, a guy more hung, or whatever, but his desire is to see you roll your eyes back in your head, and thoroughly enjoy the moment. for some they prefer the eye contact between them to be constant and some the man just hopes to disappear in the room and watch as you are enjoying the moments.

 

ask him specifically what it is that he likes. does he want to see you kiss the guy? does he want you to scream his name while the other guy is inside you? does he want to slip away unnoticed while you enjoy? this event is yours. you need to seek the person that will abide by your rules and bring satisfaction to you both. talk to your partner about rules, desires, what you would like to happen or not like to happen.

 

most importantly enjoy. enjoy each others love and if it happens enjoy the bliss that a 3rd can add.

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tncouple; male here and you have asked the same question that I wish my wife would ask of me. I have, for some time, suggested to her that I think that we would enjoy her being with another man. Specifically, I would enjoy seeing her enjoy another man. Obviously it needs to be the right man.That is the guiding criteria for me. He would have to help her to enjoy the experience, not for me but for her. And by doing so, it would be for me too. That requires her to look at it as an opportunity. A chance to have a good time while providing gratification for both her active partner and her passive one. Sadly, she has not grasped the idea and until she does, I'll just read her about it here and try to find ways to help her get comfortable with the idea.

 

Thanks for the opportunity. Hope you enjoy when you're ready.

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You wonder if he's going to be satisfied with just watching you with another man?

 

Good question and I think it needs to be answered to your satisfaction.

 

Now, my first experience seeing my wife with a friend was something that I'll never forget. In fact, his wife was there with me watching and I was much more interested in my wife and him than his wife. And, she was cute too! :) We did have sex as well, and it was very good, but the sexiest thing in that first encouter was seeing my wife with him. And, after over 30 years, it's still one of my best sexual memories.

 

But, I do think that a lot of husbands use the MFM threesome as a way of getting thier wives to become swingers so the husbands can have other women too. If that's a problem with you then make it clear to him that it ain't going there!

 

And, some husbands use the MFM as a way for them to explore thier bisexual curiosities. Quite a few men find these things interesting as they get older. And, you just don't admit to a buddy that you've even thought about it. LOL! So, in a MFM threesome, well now! If this would be a problem with you then you need to address it too.

 

But, there are a whole lot of men who just want to watch their wives being attended to without anything for themselves. Well, nothing for themselves during the encounter! Afterwards..., well there are lots of rewards! I can see where it wouldn't make sense to you, but, being with your wife after she's just been with another man is really hot! After experiencing it first-hand, I just wonder why the term "sloppy seconds" ever had negative conotations! It's great!

 

Sure hope some of this has helped you, and I really, really wish you good luck in finding that perfect 'other' that can make both you and your husband's fantasies come true perfectly. Don't hesitate to be very picky and, enjoy the search. The search for the perfect 'other' can be about as much fun as the event. And, it gives you both a chance to really discuss what you're both wanting while deciding on who will be participating.

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First off let me say this; the Eskimo peoples took offense if they offered they're wife to a male visitor or friend. I find it a thrill to even think about seeing my wife with another man and after she was done with him, we would go home and have torridly hot sex. I for one, believe that this is the ultimate compliment and tribute a man can pay to his wife. Quite frankly, the best would be to have her do me and another guy at the same time. ::P:

 

Sorry, maybe I sound a little twisted. :D

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HotMoCpl said:
First off let me say this; the Eskimo peoples took offense if they offered they're wife to a male visitor or friend. :D

 

HotMoCpl - I thought I remembered seeing a movie when I was in my teens of one of the 1st white man to go north to visit the Eskimos in Canada. The movie had a lot of confusion then the husband offered his wife to the white male who had been invited to spend the night in the igloo.

 

I've just recently learned that there are some cultures that have had what is being called "sexual hospitality."

 

Maybe I remember the movie wrong, or the movie didn't really portray what the Eskimo's believed.

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tncouple1 said:

My husband is interested in watching me be with another man (MFM)... I have never done it before but it is not out of the question...

 

I just have not figured out why a husband would want to watch his wife have sex with another man. :confused:

 

I just can't see how he is going to be satisfied just watching me.

 

What you are describing is not a MFM threesome. A MFM is when you and your husband bring in another man and all play together. It sounds like your husband wants to bring in another man for a one-on-one experience that he can watch.

 

We have done this on many occasions, and I find great satisfaction just watching Carol enjoy another man. It is very voyeuristic, and really not for everyone. But for those of us who enjoy it, it is great! ;)

 

I also set up Gang-Bangs where I invite 4-6 guys to have fun with Carol. Again, I sit back and watch, and usually join in right at the end. We both enjoy this type of play, and find it very fulfilling.

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This very topic is what first brought me to the board. I am a healthy, sexually active male of 31 - the 1st time I ever fantasized about MFM was in HS; I was dating a girl & my new friend from HS and she hit it off, we never did anything but I found myself fantasizing about sharing her with him. I was confused, and took this confusion along with new fantasies about sharing my girlfriends' with others with me all through college. Never lived it out, and the fantasy fizzled out until I had an encounter with a very hot little number who told me not only had she fantasized about it but she had been with 2 men at once; this brought all the feelings back. After college I got into a relationship with a girl & though she was reluctant at first she eventually helped me live out this fantasy... many times over. I found myself fantasizing about sharing my woman with another man ALL THE TIME. My next relationship was with my wife - to my great surprise, she too had been with 2 men at once, many times & loved it. :D I felt like I had hit the jackpot.

 

After some time together my wife has changed her perspective - she now wants me and only me and feels uncomfortable about the fact that I am always fantasizing about sharing her. We have only had a few encounters and though I respect her feelings I still have my feelings and they are unchanged.

 

So, I came here in search of advice - which I found, the board members here are very helpful and insightful.

 

The short answer to your question - I do not know why a man wants to see or share his woman with another man. All I know is it is an extreme turn-on. I even considered that there was something wrong with me, then I realized this is just a fantasy that I have, something that turns me on and hopefully turns on my partner as well. If it does not turn on your partner on, talk about it.

 

Hope I was helpful, good luck!

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Otho said:

... And then actually watching it happen.. my mind was going a million miles a hour... confused.. aroused.. angry.. frustrated.. horny.. excited..There has never been a higher high then that experience. ...

Yes, same kind of first-time experience here. Details can be found on our thread.

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My wife and I so far have only had FMF, however she has mentioned she would like a MFM. I have been offstandish about this its not a homophobic issue because I am not bothered by the thought of another man I guess with me its more possesive which I know I shouldn't be. I want her to have what she wants I'm just not sure how comfortable I would be seeing her with another man. Any suggestions?

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My wife and I so far have only had FMF, however she has mentioned she would like a MFM. I have been offstandish about this its not a homophobic issue because I am not bothered by the thought of another man I guess with me its more possesive which I know I shouldn't be. I want her to have what she wants I'm just not sure how comfortable I would be seeing her with another man. Any suggestions?

 

I [he] think you should carefully examine in your own mind, and with your wife, if she is really with you. If you and her are really bonded, connected, committed. If you are, then she can desire and accept another cock and you are not threatened.

 

I think the other thing to consider is..... do you really want her to have pleasure? If so, give her this pleasure. She will love you for it.

 

I recall the first threesome I was ever in, in a previous relationship. I was in a mouth open, transfixed kind of mode. It was so incredible to watch. When I really went nuts was when she started to suck his hard cock.

 

It takes nothing away from your relationship and brings much to it.

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This is our situation right now. I don't know much but I know my feelings and what I've been thinking about doing for the last 8 months or so. My husband has told me for several years while we are having sex that his fantasy is for me to be with another man. He gets extremely excited thinking about watching another man pleasure me. He talks about the things I would do to a man all the time and how much he would love to watch. He doesn't want to do this just for himself, he knows I would get alot out of it too.

 

I didn't have many sex partners before I married him and at times he just can't satisfy me. I'd just say that if your husband can talk about his fantasy then he can probably also open up and tell you why he feels that way. My husband tells me everything he is feeling always in that area. :)

 

I will say that if you are uncomfortable with it in any way then don't do it yet.It took me several years to get to the point where I wanted MFM like my husband has wanted all along. Now I can't stop thinking about it.

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sex is just sex and should be thought of no more than that.

 

If you have a lot of negative emotion about swinging then it's not for you. You should read a lot more and meditate about what you have thought and read.

 

the older I get the more I understand of controling my emotions and them not controling me. It has lead to a lot of great sex with endless possibilties.

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My wife is beautiful. She is really hot! Long shapely legs, beautiful feet at the bottom and a perfect ass up high. Her breasts @44 years old are likened to a 30 year old's. Her face looks much younger and still is her best feature. I am proud of her. I am proud when other guys check her out and lust after her.

 

I know what she does to me, and how much she excites me. I think when we're in the throes of passion she is the most erotic vision on this planet.

 

So I look in the mirror to watch her in action. I know she could do the same things to any man and he too would lose his mind for the pleasure. More erotic pleasure than he has ever experienced and she's my wife. She'll come home with me always and cuddle with me at night.

 

But the sight of her when she is getting off is too much to bear. I thrive on that erotic vision. I crave it. I want to see her hips rise to meet the thrusts. I want to see her inhibitions disappear. I want to see her become a wanton sex demander......with or without me. I like to watch this erotic scenario.

 

Her pleasure is my pleasure. Can I make it rise to a higher level? How? What would it take to make her cum 40 times? To scream in ecstasy and lost her mind? To go limp and begin to whimper and coo? I'm ready to do anything to see this happen.

 

I place myself in the mind of the other man. I know what he feels. That moment when it might happen is so erotic. The beginning of the sexual encounter when it is about to happen is always the fantasy afterwards when I recount the night's events. When they first embrace, or when their lips first meet. Or when she reaches down to feel his hardness and loses her breath and so does he. That moment when the barrier is broken. That moment we have anticipated in fantasy is now becoming reality.

 

I want her to want it. I want her to look at me with his cock in her mouth and then close her eyes to concentrate on her pleasure and goes to work.

 

When she presses her pussy into my face and moans through his cock my hard on gets harder.

 

Does this explain why a married man would want to see his wife with another guy?

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Bigdave,

 

You summed it up pretty well for Bud, too.

 

I adore seeing Su giving and receiving pleasure. I too have the problem(?) of having a woman who is distractingly beautiful to look at. Every straight guy instantly wants her and his wife/partner sees her as a threat (in the vanilla world). 5' high in her bare feet with a small frame and slim figure. Small but perfect 32A breasts and Long jet black hair and brown eyes. She has two sons (both married) from her first mariage and yet had to show her ID on the door of a over 21's disco last year (which was quite amusing and cracked her up as her sons and their wives got in without a hitch immediately in front of her).

 

To watch, as a third party, her lick and suck and tease another's cock and balls and to see both his and her facial ecstacy when he is inside her and to see her cumming around him and to catch her glance at me whilst I am watching them and give me a smile is above financial worth. Su has allowed me to photograph and film her with J on a number of occasions and I can view these over and over and never tire of them.

 

If only I could find a way to have a proactive camera operator when we are both enjoying her. I'd probably throw my naughty DVD collection away.

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Hi all,

 

My husband is interested in watching me be with another man (MFM)... I have never done it before but it is not out of the question...

 

I just have not figured out why a husband would want to watch his wife have sex with another man. :confused:

 

I just can't see how he is going to be satisfied just watching me.

 

I can't speak for Jay...but I saw him playing with another woman over this past weekend....WOW. I honestly was worried, because you really never know how you are going to feel until you really see your spouse kissing and playing with another woman. That stuff turned me on to a degree that you would not believe! I don't know why, but all I can say is WOWSA!

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Someone said that a man who enjoyed watching his wife being fucked by another man may have latent homosexual tendencies. Personally I don't think that applies to me but I love for my wife to be fulfilled sexually and I enjoy having her suck my cock while she's being fucked by another man.

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