My wife says "Yes", then says "No" to playing with friend

I ask you to advise me my story follows

My wife and I talk a lot that we bring in another man of the house to do my friend and I have sex with my wife talking to these matters we tallk about swinger just when we be making sex together and we bring movies swingers gangbang 4 some

and she always say yes to bring my friend to fuck her with me but

when i call him she refused!!

she always be happy when we tallk about the another man and somtimes she told me that she will be happy couse she want to get fucked more and more she like 2 en togather to fuck her

can any1 tell me whay when i call my friend she refused??

maybe she shy?

she ask me to bring him with e alot bit i scared if i bring him and she refused

what should i do to let her say yes and never refused

help me please

Hi and welcome. You have good questions, but only your wife can give you the answers you need.

Try talking about having a second man when you're not having sex and see what happens then.

Good luck.

Hi and welcome. You have good questions, but only your wife can give you the answers you need.

 

Try talking about having a second man when you're not having sex and see what happens then.

 

Good luck.

thanx for ur answer but i feel little bet shy we talk just when u making sex when we finish we stoped tallk

It is normal to be shy about having this talk when you are not having sex. BUT.. if you can't talk about it, it is probably not a great idea to do it

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Bite the bullet and have the conversation. The worst thing that can happen is she says no.

thanx for ur answer but i feel little bet shy we talk just when u making sex when we finish we stoped tallk

Until you both can talk about this and agree when you're not having sex, it won't happen. Or if it does, it probably will go very, very badly.

In chat I have suggested remembering that fantasies don't change our lives, they are perfectly executed, just the way we want them to happen. Reality can be intimidating, overwhelming and frightening to put together and experience.

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I ask you to advise me my story follows

My wife and I talk a lot that we bring in another man of the house to do my friend and I have sex with my wife talking to these matters we tallk about swinger just when we be making sex together and we bring movies swingers gangbang 4 some

and she always say yes to bring my friend to fuck her with me but

when i call him she refused!!

she always be happy when we tallk about the another man and somtimes she told me that she will be happy couse she want to get fucked more and more she like 2 en togather to fuck her

can any1 tell me whay when i call my friend she refused??

maybe she shy?

she ask me to bring him with e alot bit i scared if i bring him and she refused

what should i do to let her say yes and never refused

help me please

Some things are better left to the imagination... as reality seldom matches fantasy.

Anecdotally, it appears your wife's level of comfort stops at the imaginary. I'd recommend you just learn to enjoy it.

We have an understanding. If it's said in the bed then it's just pillow talk in the heat of the moment.

If you can't talk about it outside of the bedroom then don't do it because if you can't talk about it before you do something, you won't be able to talk about it after the fact if something goes wrong.

thanx alot all

i will try to tallk about swinger before we making sex we will go to beach for 4 days maybe there she will accept

i am sure she want swingers but maybe we shy hehe

any new advice?

I can get my woman to agree to almost anything during sex, but that doesn't really mean that she is really interested in pursuing whatever it is. We do have a rule about anything said during sex doesn't really count unless we talk about it more (and agree) later. There are fantasies and then there is making something into a reality. Some people just want the fantasy. Also, this can be a big risk especially if one (or both) people aren't completely secure and comfortable in the relationship. More importantly, if you can't talk to your wife about sex when you aren't having sex, then you should definitely not be moving ahead with this. Open honest communication is (IMHO) THE MOST important thing when considering something like this. First work on opening up the communication before going any further.

My wife is the same way even outside of the bedroom! We have sat and 'people watched' (it is easy for us as we live on the beach) and talked in depth about other people and what we'd like to see and just when I think she's ready to go ****WHAM**** FULL STOP!!! Like many have said guess it is just better to wish and wonder than fight waves in the ocean......

thanx alot all

i will try to tallk about swinger before we making sex we will go to beach for 4 days maybe there she will accept

i am sure she want swingers but maybe we shy hehe

any new advice?

Welcome Lilyan,

You've been given invaluable advice that will give you the best possible results...

Talk to your wife and LISTEN to what she has to say about the topic.

Sometimes when we want something as bad as it sounds that you want this we get caught up in tunnel vision and that extreme focus on making it happen figuratively blinds us to all other possibilities or outcomes... In this case you are caught up in what you want but you need your wife to be on board before it can happen.

New advice? Take action on the first advice that was given to you and don't pressure your wife... You may "get" her to do something but if she feels like she has been forced to do it; it's gonna be a bad time.

My wife and I had talked about doing something for years but it was just talk and I enjoyed just taking her mind there from time to time. It's been at least 5 years since we first brought it up and we just recently went to a swingers club for the first time. She doesn't care for other men or full swap and I'm ok with going at her pace... I get my pleasure from her having absolute pleasure.

I wish you good luck!