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Wife’s Desire Vs Actions

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My wife has had a desire to be with a woman for years. We thought finding someone would be difficult and it was. We found a couple on here that was willing to let the wives play as long as we were all there. No pressure by them and it progressed to the point that both women were starting to do things. My wife stopped it. She didn’t like that the husband was watching.

We finally found a Unicorn, a woman we know only from being at the same bar that she goes to also. She is divorced and has recently opened up to being sexually active including going to a lifestyle resort with another woman.

My wife and the friend had private talks about her desire. She told her about her first try at being with a woman. I’m sure she had the same reactions her first time.

We invited her to our place and she was more relaxed than us. My wife went further than our first time. We had fun playing and touching. It was my first time with a woman since we married too and I didn’t want my wife to think I was too eager. My wife loosened up enough to let our friend do things to her but when it came time to reciprocate she held back. That is when I got more involved.

My wife was fine with what I did, I think. She still wants to be with this woman again even though I don’t want her to get scared again. We haven’t seen the woman since but will most likely see her soon at the place we both go to.

We are hoping that meeting won’t be awkward.

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My wife was fine with what I did, I think.

 

You think?!! You should be talking to each other so that you KNOW. Don't think about anything when it comes to swinging, you should be doing it together and constantly talking about what has happened and what you hope to have happen in the future.

 

We haven’t seen the woman since but will most likely see her soon at the place we both go to.

 

How do you think SHE feels now that you two had your fun? You need to at least talk with her again and thank her for the great time...maybe you all can do it again? Don't scare off a unicorn by not thanking her and letting her know that everything was good between all of you. It shouldn't be awkward unless you wait too long to say anything...then it just becomes, well, awkward as she realizes that she was used. You all need to be communicating better.

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Congratulations on finding a unicorn. So many couples try and never have success. For you the most important person is your wife. If she went as far as you say she will do it again as long as there is no pressure on her. Doing something she wants to do and still having reservations is normal for many women. It might be a social taboo that is holding her back. We have met couples where the wife is open to kissing and touching, even enjoying oral on them and then stopping short of giving oral to me. Most are open to suck a penis and then stop when it come to putting their mouth on a pussy.

Did you leave your unicorn wanting or did you take care of that? If you had sex was your wife enjoying it with you?

I think you are both open and talking through your experiences and that is so important. Have your wife call your new friend maybe just to wish her a Merry Christmas. If the conversation about your time together is mentioned your wife may explain her hesitation. The woman knows more about her fear than you might think. Pretty sure her first time was fearful too. Keep the conversation going. Your wife will figure out if this is for her.

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You definitely need to be communicating. If she wants y'all to be with your unicorn again it sounds like she is OK with whatever you did but you need to be sure where that boundary currently lies so you don't cross it. The unicorn needs to know it too so there is no expectation of you doing more than your boundary permits.

Don't get impatient. Your wife is the one holding the brake but it sounds like she is lightening up. She's willing and enjoying it up to a point then she probably needs to back off most likely to process her emotions and your reactions. It sounds like she is gaining confidence to push her personal boundaries a little. It takes time. Everyone needs to proceed at her pace or she'll just slam the brakes on when things go too far.

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Toedipper you are a lucky man. You are only dealing with your wife wanting to be with a woman. Let her take her time and enjoy the experience. Looking back at our first swinging with friends I was much more excited watching the wives playing. Those first times my wife was horrible in giving oral to her girlfriend. I admit to not being as excited watching her being more enthusiastic sucking the husband. I understood that it was less foreign to her being with a penis rather than a puss.

We did plenty of talking about our first time. You need to talk too. Your wife needs to talk to your friend too. Let her know you had fun. Your wife might want to mention how scared she was. I’m sure she knows your wife was nervous.

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We saw our friend over the weekend and she said she had a great time with us and wants to know she wants to do it again.

I think I am as excited as my wife. As much as I loved watching the wife with this woman I got to fuck her and my wife said it was fine. I understand it was supposed to be about the women playing and I got the extra benefit of two women playing with me.

Think I like this attention.

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