Ladies: How did you feel the first time with a woman?

We are more of a swap couple than a swinging couple. We have enjoyed swapping with friends in separate rooms. I, more than my husband have had a hard time in a group setting.

We were invited to a party at our first couples house. It is out of town for us and sort of a holiday weekend for us. We were told that the party would be in one room as a group and that the women do play. Our friends knew I preferred one on one and don’t play with women. I was assured that all are respectful and all know limits and the word No.

I wasn’t sure I wanted to go. We discussed and decided to go. There were four couples, we knew the host and had met one of the couples before. The other couples have played in a group before. My husband and I were like the outsiders.

I did have a good time. I am still not thrilled with playing with other women. The other three women were very open to playing with each other.

My question to the women is how did you feel the first time you were with a woman?

We are more of a swap couple than a swinging couple. We have enjoyed swapping with friends in separate rooms. I, more than my husband have had a hard time in a group setting.

We were invited to a party at our first couples house. It is out of town for us and sort of a holiday weekend for us. We were told that the party would be in one room as a group and that the women do play. Our friends knew I preferred one on one and don’t play with women. I was assured that all are respectful and all know limits and the word No.

I wasn’t sure I wanted to go. We discussed and decided to go. There were four couples, we knew the host and had met one of the couples before. The other couples have played in a group before. My husband and I were like the outsiders.

I did have a good time. I am still not thrilled with playing with other women. The other three women were very open to playing with each other.

My question to the women is how did you feel the first time you were with a woman?

 

It so happens that I just posted a blog a few minutes back about my first experience. You will find it in the stories tab.

We are more of a swap couple than a swinging couple. We have enjoyed swapping with friends in separate rooms. I, more than my husband have had a hard time in a group setting.

We were invited to a party at our first couples house. It is out of town for us and sort of a holiday weekend for us. We were told that the party would be in one room as a group and that the women do play. Our friends knew I preferred one on one and don’t play with women. I was assured that all are respectful and all know limits and the word No.

I wasn’t sure I wanted to go. We discussed and decided to go. There were four couples, we knew the host and had met one of the couples before. The other couples have played in a group before. My husband and I were like the outsiders.

I did have a good time. I am still not thrilled with playing with other women. The other three women were very open to playing with each other.

My question to the women is how did you feel the first time you were with a woman?

 

Meh. I have always thought it would be interesting. I have done some sort of activity with two. With 1, she wasn't into it, so it was just okay. With another-- sometimes she is into it and sometimes not. I think I need a more assertive initiator where there is no doubt that they are into it (this is true of men, too). Double dildo was fun.

My first time was with a woman that I had set my husband up with. I already liked her and was attracted to her, so there was already a positive attitude going in. The first couple of women hubby played with weren't interested in me watching let alone participating or playing with one another After they had played several times before, when I suggested to this woman, however, that I be there she was all for it. My husband was playing with her breasts and licking her cunt, so it seemed natural for me to join in. I was really drawn to eat her out after he ejaculated in her pussy and she was eager for me to do it too. She also went down on me, but since guys had already done that it was sort of a halfway new experience. Anyway, it was all great and exciting, and only got better. I would now classify my self as 50/50 Lesbian and hetero.

I felt confused, ashamed, excited, exhilarated. I was confused because I never even thought of doing it. Ashamed because I felt that I cheated on the man I love. Excited because it felt great and I wanted more.

That first experience opened up my mind and changed my life for the best.

Ashamed because I felt that I cheated on the man I love..

From the men and women who have shared such thoughts with me most men, including "vanilla" men, don't consider Lesbian sex cheating. Guys worry about other guys doing things with their woman, another woman is not a threat.

 

So what did the man you love say when you told him?

From the men and women who have shared such thoughts with me most men, including "vanilla" men, don't consider Lesbian sex cheating. Guys worry about other guys doing things with their woman, another woman is not a threat.

 

So what did the man you love say when you told him?

 

I know I posted my thoughts and problems before. My first time with being with a woman was a threesome, also a first for me. At first I wasn’t going to tell him what I did. I had guilt and told him and he left me. I think it was more that I had sex with a guy I just met or that I had sex. He actually left me. We have since made up and got married.

I don’t call myself lesbian. Though I never considered anything but being straight I am now bisexual.

I felt confused, ashamed, excited, exhilarated. I was confused because I never even thought of doing it. Ashamed because I felt that I cheated on the man I love. Excited because it felt great and I wanted more.

That first experience opened up my mind and changed my life for the best.

 

 

I think I felt ashamed too. I had never considered being with a woman. I didn’t consider being with another man either. Confused too.

 

The wife of the first man we swapped with made the first move. She lowered herself over my mouth. I could only bring myself to lightly kiss. I tried not to gag. She seemed to enjoy doing it to me. I know she was good at what she was doing even though I didn’t want to admit it.

I think it was more that I had sex with a guy I just met or that I had sex. He actually left me.

That's my point, it wasn't that you played with a woman, it's that you had sex with a guy that upset him. Credit to your husband for getting over it, marrying you, and joining you in nonmonogamy.

 

I don’t call myself lesbian. Though I never considered anything but being straight I am now bisexual.

Don't be tentative about it. Being bisexual is having a hetero side and a Lesbian side.