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Would you play with a couple both of whom are cheating on their spouses?

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Would you play with a couple that were both cheating on their spouses, and the cheated on spouses do not know about the affair or the swinging?

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It depends? Don't judge least yiou be judged, so while we don't cheat we don't judge others that do.

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What if the cheated on spouse judges you and shows up with a shotgun?

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In this case, we would (and do) judge and we would not be interested in either or both.

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No. I am not perfect and people have their reasons but one of the basics of swinging to me is operating honestly even as a single. Playing with cheaters is facilitating cheating and not good karma. If you are playing with cheaters what message are you sending to your spouse?

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And the cheated on spouses do not know about the affair or the swinging.

 

What if you don't know the couple you are playing with are cheating on their spouses and how would that kind of question come up in a normal conversation? If they would somehow volunteer that kind of information I would respect them for being honest.

 

Would we still play? Out of respect for their honesty, yes.

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What if the cheated on spouse judges you and shows up with a shotgun?

 

The cheated on spouses trigger finger better be faster than mine:)

 

Seriously?

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It's called a conversation, communication. I have only been to a few parties with different groups and different FWB and when meeting people from the parties later I have been questioned about my relationship status.

So out of respect for the fact that cheaters may be honest with you, but not their own spouse, you would play with them? :confused:

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We've always believed this lifestyle is about communication and connections, and enhancing the relationships all the participants have.

 

Playing with a cheating spouse is antithetical to the 'enhancing the relationship' of the cheated-on spouse.

 

So... No. We wouldn't.

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And the cheated on spouses do not know about the affair or the swinging.

 

My first question is how do you know it's cheating? Different couples in the LS have different rules for themselves. If this information came from the rumor mill, you can't guarantee its accuracy. Except in a few instances, it's likely that the cheated on spouse either knows or suspects something. It's rare that they are completely oblivious.

 

If this couple has a completely open relationship that they both agree to, it isn't cheating. Bottom line, we don't know what we don't know. Can't rush to judgment until wedo.

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A couple on a site contacted us to ask if we want to meet. Their profile says that they are a couple that are both married to other people. While I appreciate their honesty with us, their profile does not say that their spouses know about their affair. Our gut reaction is that we don’t want to get involved in this scene. We prefer couples in a primary relationship.

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HELL NO!

 

Swinging is all about trust and respect. That the other couples relationship is built on lies and deception, even though they were being truthful to us, would eliminate them from being potential play partners. Just like most, we want to avoid drama, and that means not taking the chance of being dragged into family court to testify on either parties side.

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