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We are going to visit lifestyle friends who used to live in Metro NYC, but moved to Florida. Friends and family ask how we know them and we are stumblin’ and bumblin.’ Does anyone use a good cover story?

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Our story is that they are old school chums who now line in NYC or wherever. Nobody is likely to catch on until the number of trips out of town exceeds the number of the graduating class.

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Our story is that they are old school chums who now line in NYC or wherever. Nobody is likely to catch on until the number of trips out of town exceeds the number of the graduating class.

 

This. Most cover stories work as long as they are simple and common.

We've used "Met at work", "Through mutual friends", "common interest group" and other similar lines. Don't forget to coordinate the story with the other couple. :)

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We met at a wine tasting or met them at a retirement party for a colleague.

 

Keep it VERY simple. One of the things they taught us at cop school is that a lie often has a TON of detail. Keep it simple, it is more believable.

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We met at a wine tasting or met them at a retirement party for a colleague.

 

Keep it VERY simple. One of the things they taught us at cop school is that a lie often has a TON of detail. Keep it simple, it is more believable.

 

It’s said that one advantage of telling the truth is that you don’t have to remember how the lie went. But this is the kind of situation where there’s really no good alternative to telling a social lie. As Padoc suggests, keep it simple. And I would say a bit vague and be sure it’s not easy to check the veracity of your story.

 

Also, I’d suggest, if the subject comes up again, either from the original questioner or someone else, be sure to keep the story consistent.

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We just say they are friends and offer no further explanation. My wife (I was divorced in 2010 and remarried in 2016) was never in the swinger community, but we when I was living with my a girlfriend and her husband and for a couple years I was in a committed relationship with both of them. So she knows all about my swinging past and isn't opposed to any of it. Some of our best friends today are couples I used to swing with that I introduced her to. We went on a completely vanilla trip to Vegas with one of those couple a few months ago. People also ask us how we know them and we just say that they are old friends of mine and don't offer any additional context or background. It's not important and people needing more info are being nosey and rude.

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Here's what actually happened at a party we held where both vanillas and swingers attended:

 

Mrs. Fundamentalist: "How do y'all happen to know each other?"

 

Mrs. Playmate: "Our husbands met in a bookstore." (True. It was an Adult Book store that had a Swingers Bulletin Board. We were both checking out the board when Mr. Playmate pointed to a 3X5 card and said, "This is ours.")

 

Mrs. Alura: "They had coffee together and made plans for the four of us to go out to dinner." (True. After dinner we went to our house, swapped mates and had sex.)

 

Mrs. Playmate: "We've been friends since."

 

Lies work better when they're (well, pretty much) true.

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The best story is always the true story with some parts overlooked. The couple that we have been dating...well, we met at a restaurant (after communicating with each other on SLS) and became friends from there. Done. If you tell (most of) the truth, you don't have to have a good memory (Judge Judy).

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Like Gold.

 

"Oh, we happened to bump into them in a bar and became friends." We leave out the part that we'd been chatting on SLS for going on two months, or that later that evening we were all in the same bed.

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Mrs. Alura and I liked to meet couples for coffee in a bookstore because "We met in a bookstore" sounds so innocent. It may have been the twentieth time we swapped but it was still (almost) true. We kinda left out that it wasn't for the first time.

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Introduced some friends of ours by their swinger group names...I didn't even realize it until my wife pointed it out.

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Personally I don't see why you have to tell anyone where your going or who your meeting, perhaps the best cover story is simply not to tell anyone anything.

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We met them in Hawaii. Easy to remember. Doesn't require elaboration. Lots of people traveling there, so it sounds plausible.

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Personally I don't see why you have to tell anyone where your going or who your meeting, perhaps the best cover story is simply not to tell anyone anything.

 

We agree. We don't feel we have to tell anyone what we are doing or where we are going. It's worked for us.

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