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    Default What do men do to slow down their coming?

    Contrary to many men of my age, I find that I come rather quickly. Just some intense oral from a new partner can bring me close to the edge. I usually ask the woman to stop and we move on to something else. Condoms do slow me down.

    Any other techniques? I have heard something about pressing one's penis. I am happy that I can come. My wife has had multi-hour torture sessions trying to get other guys to come. She is attractive and skilled, so it is not her, IMHO.


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    Default Re: What do men do to slow down their coming?

    A casual acquaintance told me that he uses a distraction. He starts working through mathematical problems in his head. I am not able to confirm the effectiveness of this technique. Similar to men of my age, I have no need to prolong the time needed to ejaculate.
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    Default Re: What do men do to slow down their coming?

    I think about how I'd play the perfect round on a golf course . . .

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    I find it effective just to slow down and not pump so fast. Pushing in fully, "balls deep" as they say, is good too because a vagina is usually tighter at the entrance than way in. The woman likes it because your hitting her clit.

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    Default Re: What do men do to slow down their coming?

    Quote Originally Posted by njbm View Post
    Contrary to many men of my age, I find that I come rather quickly. Just some intense oral from a new partner can bring me close to the edge. I usually ask the woman to stop and we move on to something else. Condoms do slow me down.

    Any other techniques? I have heard something about pressing one's penis. I am happy that I can come. My wife has had multi-hour torture sessions trying to get other guys to come. She is attractive and skilled, so it is not her, IMHO.
    Just slow down.
    I don't like distracting myself from the moment. Squeezing or pressing doesn't work for me but I've heard that advice as well.

    I like to focus on what's going on, take it all in. My advice is pay attention to what you're feeling and back off the edge quickly if it feels like you're even getting close to it. Pull out and rub or slap her clit with your cock. Go back down on her for a quick break. Anything to ease that initial intensity even a quick position change. Do it in a sexy way to keep bringing her along. If she has any experience at all she'll know what you're doing, most likely she'll take it as a compliment that she's so hot(maybe you can even tell her that which will pay dividends) and she'll appreciate the effort. It only takes me a minute or two to get over that "oh shit this feels too good" feeling and I'm able to last as long as I want.

    You mentioned condoms. Extra strong condoms can help because they are thicker but stay away from the ones with the delay stuff in them. You'll put that on thinking it's works right away and go balls deep and finish before you get started. Best case is you'll get off the ledge by your own doing and then won't be able to cum. If you aren't using condoms ask her to taste herself on your cock.(I find many, not all, women like to have a taste but most don't like to suck a cock with a condom on) The time it takes to move to that position and back may be all the time you need to get off the ledge.

    If she's assertive I like to let her get on top because I rarely cum that way. Another position is jockey(man on top straddled the woman's closed legs). You may imagine this would be too intense but it is more like coital alignment, it limits the ability for long deep thrusts and is more of a grinding position that will stimulate the clit nicely but doesn't overstimulate me.

    Whatever it is you are doing pay attention to what your body is telling you and back off quickly. It usually only takes a couple of minutes and you can be fucking as long as you want.
    Also...Practice, practice, practice. The more in tune you are with that feeling the quicker you can learn to deal with it and get past it.

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    We feel that the ultimate goal of sex is orgasms and for us as swingers it's sharing orgasms. Mrs Doc enjoys when her partner gets off and if it's a new partner, she gets a bit smug if it happens quickly! She's only disappointed if the guy is done when he's cum and has no interest in hers. If you reload as quick as you get off, she'd wait. She says there's a fine line between a good boink and a mindless pounding. That line is usually defined by if and/or when the orgasms happen.

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    When I feel like I am getting close to cumming I'll pull out and persuade her to get into a different position. Doing it in different positions is fun and the few moments it takes to get there is enough to calm me down.

    If I do that enough times I'll get to the point where I can get past that feeling and go until she is satisfied.

    The one position that I can always stay hard after I've cum until she is satisfied is with her on top.

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    Quote Originally Posted by agreatguy View Post
    Just slow down.
    I don't like distracting myself from the moment. ----
    If she's assertive I like to let her get on top because I rarely cum that way. Another position is jockey(man on top straddled the woman's closed legs). You may imagine this would be too intense but it is more like coital alignment, it limits the ability for long deep thrusts and is more of a grinding position that will stimulate the clit nicely but doesn't overstimulate me.
    Everything you said is really good advice, but particularly this. Except I do find that the Jockey position, as you call it, doesn't slow me down, but yes the woman does like it.

    Another possibility, depending on the overall situation and how you perform is - just blow your load and go again. Whether playing in some really stimulating arrangement or just at home with my wife, when I'm really excited I can get it back up again in a couple of minutes, especially if I'm sucked. Then I can go for what seems like forever. I've even done three in a row. Great, but a real struggle and my balls ache afterwards.

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    Default Re: What do men do to slow down their coming?

    At my age of 60, it takes a good dose of ED meds to go for round 2. That has occurred to me and I’ve done it.


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    I'd drive the 250 miles to Oklahoma City!

    WHAT????

    As others posted above, distraction. I would drive to Oklahoma City in my mind. I would picture myself getting into the car, putting on my seat belt, starting up and driving away. I would picture every little town I would drive through. Every unique structure, lake, pond, etc. I would visualize the drive and therefore my mind was off of my weiner. I can last a long time that way. Not the five hours it takes for me to drive to OKC long, but long enough that some of my partners have asked me to hurry up.

    Get your mind lost in something besides sex and I bet you will see a lot of improvement.

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    Watch "There's Something About Mary"...they tell you in the movie how to do it, and how to keep your hair in place.
    If you donít have to lie about sex, you donít have to lie about anything. - John Williamson

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    Quote Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple View Post
    A casual acquaintance told me that he uses a distraction. He starts working through mathematical problems in his head. I am not able to confirm the effectiveness of this technique. Similar to men of my age, I have no need to prolong the time needed to ejaculate.
    Personally, I would rather be in the moment and pop and then doing math and last longer. Just my opinion..

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    Ronnie, of Ronnie and Linda, had a premature ejaculation problem. Laura discovered that he was quick to get it up again and could do some nice deep stirring the second time. She decided the next time we got together she'd give him a "no responsibilities blowjob" for the first time around, treating herself in the process to one of her favorite flavors: "Fresh Man Juice." It worked.
    "They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it." óWill Rogers

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    I agree, why stop? Changing positions does bring me down from an imminent cum though if it’s good timing enjoy cumming. I know people always say think about something else. If I’m going to think about baseball I will go to a game. If I’m having I want to cum.

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