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    Quote Originally Posted by Emt View Post
    Shifting focus to your partner is an excellent way to respond to struggles with ED in order to avoid awkwardness, anxiety, and a generally unsuccessful experience. However, for PE, it's important to really be in tune with you body so you can better respond to what you are experiencing.
    Huh? That seems exactly backwards.

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    Swingers Board Addict Emt's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ozzie+Harriet View Post
    Huh? That seems exactly backwards.
    From what you shared, yes it is. I'm a Male and a sex therapist. What are you basing your experience on?

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    Alex here. I can admit that 'math' works. I do a calculus problem. I also agree with focusing on your sex partner(s). Sometimes if I feel I'm going to cum and it's too early, per se, I'll go down on the woman and she's always been happy with that choice. Sometimes the surprise of fucking, then shifting to oral has been a huge turn or (or so they've told me). I admit that it's full mouth on pussy, tongue in her deep, moment. Then, perhaps retreating to something less assertive. Then, when we get back to fucking, it's all good.

  4. #29
    Quote Originally Posted by Emt View Post
    From what you shared, yes it is. I'm a Male and a sex therapist. What are you basing your experience on?
    Thirty five years of experience having sex and knowing from the outset that finishing too soon was not going to make a very good impression. If you think focussing on your partner doesn't work, your idea of focussing on something is quite different from mine. If you are focussing on something other than your own sensations, you will be distracted by what you are focussing on. If you had a sprained ankle, were at the beach and the person you were with was drowning, do you think you'd notice the sprain much while running to the water? If you are focussing on your partner, then you are going to be distracted by figuring out what she wants and trying to be creative which is no different in terms of shifting your focus, but more useful, than solving differential equations while having sex.

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    Swingers Board Addict Emt's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ozzie+Harriet View Post
    Thirty five years of experience having sex and knowing from the outset that finishing too soon was not going to make a very good impression. If you think focussing on your partner doesn't work, your idea of focussing on something is quite different from mine. If you are focussing on something other than your own sensations, you will be distracted by what you are focussing on. If you had a sprained ankle, were at the beach and the person you were with was drowning, do you think you'd notice the sprain much while running to the water? If you are focussing on your partner, then you are going to be distracted by figuring out what she wants and trying to be creative which is no different in terms of shifting your focus, but more useful, than solving differential equations while having sex.
    Thirty five years is a long time. But I've worked with individuals and couples that struggle far longer than that. While I understand the argument you are trying to make about ignoring pain, I'm not sure equating the same technique for addressing the ignorance of pain and pleasure is the best comparison. Additionally, in both cases, just because something might work does not make it a wise idea. Ignoring the pain of a sprained ankle is again the opposite of what you would do to fix it. Rest, Ice, Compression, Elevation....that may work better. You continue to put pressure on it and ignore what you're body is trying to communicate to you and you could end up being worse off.

    Here are two vids that help to explain some options suggested by other sex therapists. Neither of them even begin to hint at distracting yourself.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75tdUDY3c6o
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLEah6S0dvY

    Now if distraction works for some, ok, but it's not something I'd advise. Kinda like ignoring that fracture you think is just a sprain.

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