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Do you play on the first date?

Will you play on first date?  

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  1. 1. Will you play on first date?

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Pro: you went to the trouble of meeting, you hit it off. When will you get together again. Con: you would like to have a private discussion with your spouse about it. It can be awkward if all 4 are not on same page, which is hard to achieve.

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The late Mrs. Alura and I were pretty quick to decide if we wanted to fuck a couple, based on a conversation. We had no rule on first-date playing. I'd guess we did about half the time. (Does meeting a couple in line in a self-serve restaurant count as a date?)

 

We never considered "First Date" an issue. If it didn't go well, we'd just make sure it was only once. That didn't happen often. It's sex. How bad can it be?

 

Like most things in life, the amount of care and effort a couple puts into swinging bears a direct relationship to the quality of fun you get.

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Having done this now, we'd say 'yes'. If we set up to meet a couple, we'd probably assume we're taking it to a bedroom that night.

 

If there was enough of an issue that we had something to discuss behind-the-scenes and there was no way to get some alone time, well, it just wouldn't work out that night.

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We have a 20/20 rule in that we know within 20 seconds to 20 minutes if we'll ever want to be naked with the other couple. If we do, our attitude is "why wait"?. If there is a connection/attraction, will we any of us get any younger, thinner, or sexier if we wait a week or two or three? Why waste an opportunity? Its hard to find a situation where all four people in 2 couples are doable. When it happens, infrequent as it is, we will definitely go for it.

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The four way match is elusive. It is difficult to even get people to show up to meet. If the sun and moon align, why not?

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We are meeting a new to us couple for dinner tomorrow night. Whatever we expect to happen won't happen. I guess that's part of the fun.

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I would say that we play on the first date the majority of the time. We do invest time in doing our homework before the first meeting, including online chats, to maximize the likelihood that it will be a good fit. In the end, we are looking mostly for great sex with new people, not necessarily a long term friendship or relationship.

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Not a yes or no type of question. Way too many variables in place.

 

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There should be a 'maybe' choice. We haven't played on the first date and make sure that any couple that we meet know that the first date is just to meet, but we know that there is always that chance of meeting just the right couple and we COULD (and would be willing to) play. It just hasn't happened yet and until then we like keeping the pressure off everyone when meeting for the first time.

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We played many times on a first date. We would meet in a bar or other public place and see if there was the requisite chemistry. If there was, one of us would use a code word (something that would fit in a normal conversation, but only if you brought it up.) The other would respond in a code.

 

Example

Me: You know, we like to go to the zoo. (This was the initial code.)

Her: Yeah, we really do. I love the elephants (if she was agreeable.) -or- I always get grossed out in the reptile exhibit, though (if she had no interest or wanted to think about it).

You can make up your own, depending on your interests.

 

If we both loved elephants, it was off to the races.

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Yeah we do. It's really annoying if you spend the time and then nothing. I have plenty of vanilla friends. I prefer to chat and get to know people, but we have definitely had a few let's just get tot he sex nights.

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