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We spent a lot of time with a new couple. Went out to dinner, hung out at beach, played and had a lot of fun. Seemed like a nice four way match to us. Very comfortable.

 

While at the beach, they asked us if we'd like to meet them at an out of state nude beach in August. We would like to go with them, but how do we bring it up? If the offer was just talk, we don't want to put them in an uncomfortable position. Thoughts?

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I'd just ask them.

 

Is the offer to meet up at that beach still okay?

 

We are very busy that week so not 100% sure if we can make it yet, what did you have in mind?

 

Perhaps they just want more social time with you as well which isn't a bad thing.

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You said that they already asked you so why worry about it. As Sun already said, just ask. 'Hey, you guys still thinking about going to that nude beach?'. This will kind of give them an out if they want it, but they already asked YOU to go. Don't overthink this, you're making it harder than it needs to be.

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I think that you are both correct. I have some self-doubt lately due to a few rejections in a row. I don't want to be too aggressive or come on too strong and enthusiastic. At worst, they say no.

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Ok, I know this thread is pretty much over, and congratulations njbm. I know exactly how you were feeling about the long line of rejections, flakes, and weirdos, we have been through the same thing same thing since getting into the LS (Feb 2017). Things seriously turned around this past weekend. We went to a local club we had never been to and it was awesome!!! Lots of great people and literally had to choose between two different couples to play with, it will turn around for you and then your confidence will soar.

 

Ok, now for a clarification on the OP. The way I read that was that they had invited you to meet them at the beach, but you were interested in riding there with them in the same car. Is that what you were asking? IF indeed that is what you were asking, I would have simply said something like, "Hey how would you guys like to ride together to the beach, we could save gas and have a good opportunity to visit." Then if yes you just have to work out who is driving.

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We live an hour away from our friends and the beach is in another state four hours from us. We'll be staying there for several days. So we will go separately.

 

Hope it still happens, I'll update with the results.

 

Glad to hear dan63 had a good time. Easy to get on a losing streak in the lifestyle.

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Glad to hear dan63 had a good time. Easy to get on a losing streak in the lifestyle.

 

Amen. I am starting to understand that success breeds confidence, and confidence breeds success. A vicious circle. LOL

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Hate those vicious circles...like how communication breeds trust which breeds more love that leads to more communication.

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The other couple said they would get back to us within a week. Radio silence. Now 2 weeks later. I think we were ditched. We thought things went well. I guess someone did not agree.

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Don't dwell on it, you never know what is going on in their lives that could be causing a delay. If it happens, it happens but don't sit around waiting for it to happen.

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100% correct. Very happy in our marriage and we have low expectations for our swinging encounters to persist. No biggie.

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