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About a week ago, my wife and I met a nice young black man of about 25 while traveling in Vegas. He was attending a meeting I was at, we met and talked, invited him to drinks with us, and one thing led to another. That evening after dinner and a few more drinks we made it clear that we were open to the idea of Kelly playing around with him, with me being present of course. We are a good bit older than him, in our late 40s. After some discussion, he expressed his interest in giving it a try and we went to our hotel room. We had a cursory talk about what we were looking for and our ground rules, namely that he would wear a condom.

 

Up in our room things started off great. He was a very charming man and clearly Kelly was interested in him. We had a few more drinks, and within maybe an hour she and he were making out on the sofa. Before long, we got up and moved to the bedroom (it was a suite). He and Kelly continued making out on the bed and she and he were both clearly turned on. I was also, and was loving the view from the chair.

 

As things progressed, he undressed Kelly, and before long both were making out fully on the bed, Kelly wearing only her thigh highs. It was so sexy. She was ready for him, and he was ready for her. He got on top of her after giving and receiving some oral and was about to have sex, and I noticed he had on no condom. So I politely reminded him that he needed to put one one. He gave me a look which in retrospect I should have paid more attention to. It was sort of a look that said "come on, man", not a look that implied he had forgotten in the heat of the moment. So they paused and he put one one, and then began having sex with Kelly.

 

By this time I was very aroused too. Kelly was really into it and loving it. I had my pants down and was masturbating. They had sex for a while and Kelly had an orgasm. The young man was getting close and so was I. As I was beginning to cum, I closed my eyes for just a little bit and came very strongly. When I regained awareness, The young man was cumming hard inside Kelly, and as he pulled out Kelly and i realized that he was no longer in a condom. It was lying on the bed next to his feet. At first I thought it must have broken or come off inside, but that was not the case. It was right there on the bed. Kelly was mortified and so was I.

 

Alarmed, I asked him about it, with Kelly realizing what had just happened. He just said something like "you know, man, it just felt so good"... and that was it. We didn't really want him in our room at that point, and I guess he could tell that and so he got dressed and just kind of left us with no further explanation. Kelly said she didn't realize the condom had been removed, and from her reaction I believe her.

 

Has anyone ever had this kind of experience with a wife's lover? It is our first, we are flabbergasted that we let this happen and that someone would do this.

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We've had a condom break or come off inside a few times, and in those cases, it was just the opposite, the guys felt really bad and were beating themselves up since they felt like keeping track of the how the condom was doing was their responsibility and they had failed. Mrs. cplnuswing didn't get too worked up about it...it happens. You'd prefer it didn't, but sooner or later, it will.

 

I've never thought it a good idea to try to make swingers out of non-swingers. Swingers know the score, and it's a shared experience and along with that comes sharing responsibility. A young guy you pick up in a bar...to put it bluntly, he just wants some pussy, and that me-me-me attitude is likely to manifest itself in a lot of different ways, one of which you had the misfortune of experiencing for yourselves.

 

It happened, no changing it now, so get checked to make sure everything ok, and then just use it as a learning experience and leave it behind you.

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You need a vetted swinger and nix the booze a Rama, as others said.

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Booze, hormones, and strangers...any two are a bad mix, you had all three in this situation.

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It's a hard lesson but one I'm familiar with. A long time ago when we started out swinging, we got together with a male acquaintance. Condom was the rule, but it slipped off and couldn't be used again. As there was only one condom (another mistake that never happened again), the guy said he would pull out if we let him go at it without condom. Well, he didn't pull out. Fortunately we're all clean and I was on the pill.

 

With that said, I've never had anything like this happened with anyone in the swinging community, be they couples or single males. I really believe that swingers practice better safe sex, and respect play partners more, than non-swingers. So I hope this unfortunate incident won't stop you from trying to swing again. Meet someone through the swinger sites or in-person meet and greet, get to know them, and keep the alcohol to one or two drinks.

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Wow lesson learned hey - pity so smuck did this to people willing to share - what's that saying, give a inch and they take a mile?

 

Put this one up to learning the hard way and make sure to vet playmates - there are many guys out there that will do want and how you want to do things - and when you find one or two you trust keep them lol.

 

As the others here have givin you some good advice take - have good fun

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Just wanted to update. After much thought and discussion we morally do not feel an abortion is something we can live with. Our due date is in mid January. We have had a long discussion with our doctor about our situation so she will be aware that the race of the baby will not match ours.

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Don't know what to say. I'm speechless.

 

I would hold that young man to child support obligations. That would teach him an 18 year lesson.

 

Is he aware of it?

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If they have his contact information. This is why we don't play with strangers in clubs. My wife can no longer get pregnant, but if we need STD news, we want to know our partners and where to find them.

 

Of course, hindsight is 20/20 and we've had some less than stellar situations in our swinging career. Not criticizing the OPs.

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To jaxyuppies, sorry for the situation, hope you have a healthy great child.

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To jaxyuppies, sorry for the situation, hope you have a healthy great child.
I can only echo this sentiment.

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Of course, there is still a respectful chance that the baby is from the two of you. We wish you the best and for a healthy child.

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Let me get this straight.

You're fertile,swinging, not on birth control and relying on JUST a condom??

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Sort of a "sperm of the moment" kind of a thing? I am a little distressed and a wee bit unsure of the validity of this. Sorry if it's true, but seems sorta bogus.

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Sort of a "sperm of the moment" kind of a thing? I am a little distressed and a wee bit unsure of the validity of this. Sorry if it's true, but seems sorta bogus.

 

Love "sperm of the moment." Maybe "spurt of the moment?" I am horrible at spotting bogus stuff, but you might be right. Let's see, late 40's, no birth control, stranger, etc., no Plan B? Lots of stuff adding up to??? Pregnancy?

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I didn't want to drop the accusation myself, but since someone did, I'll say it:

 

Clue #1: the author is providing all these pleasurable details about his wife's encounter, yet claims to be appalled by what happened? I'd be asking the forum for swinger-friendly criminal defense attorneys, not helping the forum masturbate to it.

 

Clue #2: the author provides no surprised/shocked transition to the fact that his wife is pregnant, a very unlikely result from one encounter in your late 40s, and he's certain that the baby is definitely the other man's.

 

Unless they never have sex and he's in a very extreme cuckold situation, none of this adds up. I think having a black guy inseminate his wife without his consent is just the author's fetish and he was hoping we'd tell him stories, too.

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I didn't want to drop the accusation myself, but since someone did, I'll say it:

 

Clue #1: the author is providing all these pleasurable details about his wife's encounter, yet claims to be appalled by what happened? I'd be asking the forum for swinger-friendly criminal defense attorneys, not helping the forum masturbate to it.

 

Clue #2: the author provides no surprised/shocked transition to the fact that his wife is pregnant, a very unlikely result from one encounter in your late 40s, and he's certain that the baby is definitely the other man's.

 

Unless they never have sex and he's in a very extreme cuckold situation, none of this adds up. I think having a black guy inseminate his wife without his consent is just the author's fetish and he was hoping we'd tell him stories, too.

 

Yeah, this is one of those "now that you mention it.." things....the more you read between the lines the more fake it seems..

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Snookered! Unless the original poster posts the birth announcement!

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