Vacationing with swingers

In one week from today we will be going on vacation with a swinging couple. We haven't done it before however we have been talking about doing it. The wife keeps sending my wife pics of her and her husband having sex. So last night my wife sent her pics of my wife giving me head. So today she sent my wife a video of him and his wife fucking. Since we're new to this what should be our next step towards hooking up?

Well they are certainly overt in their wooing campaign. The key question is what do you and your wife want to do? Are you both ready and interested?

We're both ready, I'm hoping we hookup before vacation. My wife wants to hook up before vacation too. I can't stop thinking about it. One of the most exciting times in my life.

It sounds like all systems are go. I'd suggest hooking up before committing to a long period of time with them. Traveling with people can sometimes ruin the fantasy if you don't really know them. When you get together, ask a lot of questions about what they like to do on vacation. If their top priority is to have sex in as many cabs as possible, it might not be your thing. They definitely sound like exhibitionist.

I have a couple of questions, just so I understand.

So, you're going on a vacation with this swinging couple, and you haven't played with them yet. Are you going to a swinger-friendly location, or a vanilla destination? Are you already friends with this couple, or are you just getting to know them for this vacation?

It sure sounds to me like all four of you are ready to take this thing to the next level, and play before your trip! I say that plain-spoken honest is the best policy. Simply tell them what you've told us- that you'd love to get together and play before the trip!

Yeah, I definitely would prefer to hook up before, I'm not sure my wife wants to hook up prior to vacation though. Definitely exhibitionists, the video they sent my wife was from a Macy's changing room. We knew them for a couple years, but just found out they swing.

We're going to a vacation house my wife and I go to each year. We're already friends for quite some time.

Here's our suggestion: Ask them if they are interested, and, if they are, do it. It sounds like they are willing so get together (say for dinner to discuss the vacation) and tell them that you are interested and see where it goes from there. Good luck and don't forget to report back...

I'll text my wife, they come over for dinner once a week, but I'm at work cause of second shift. I'm sure she'll have no problem asking them. Maybe she'll get lucky and have a threesome.

I'd be interested to read the story related to what happens.

I'll post an update next week.

I know this is super exciting, and I don't intend to be a downer on it, but my personal opinion is it would be a good idea to be hoping for the best and planning for the worst in a situation like this. What if on the first minute of the first day, playtime comes and you (or them) discover the compatibility they thought was there in fact isn't there. I'd hate for the whole trip to be ruined over something like that, so I would just have in mind a way for you to extricate yourselves from the whole sexual aspect of this vacation (and also providing them a path to make a graceful retreat) if that part of it doesn't turn out like you want.

Another thing to keep in mind is swinging often elicits powerful emotions, especially the first few times, and having some time and space to process those emotions is important, and that may be a little more difficult to do in this scenario.

I know this is super exciting, and I don't intend to be a downer on it, but my personal opinion is it would be a good idea to be hoping for the best and planning for the worst in a situation like this. What if on the first minute of the first day, playtime comes and you (or them) discover the compatibility they thought was there in fact isn't there. I'd hate for the whole trip to be ruined over something like that, so I would just have in mind a way for you to extricate yourselves from the whole sexual aspect of this vacation (and also providing them a path to make a graceful retreat) if that part of it doesn't turn out like you want.

 

Another thing to keep in mind is swinging often elicits powerful emotions, especially the first few times, and having some time and space to process those emotions is important, and that may be a little more difficult to do in this scenario.

Thoughtful analysis and wise words.

I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that your vacation goes wonderfully and that all of us following this thread will be enjoying the tale of your delightful time with your long-time friends who have turned out to be swingers. But I can also foresee the possibility of a vacation go on a run over and even less happy outcome. But hey, if it all goes to hell, and 10 or 20 years the two of you will have a great story to laugh about.

I agree with you completely. In fact, my wife and I are just discussing the scenario as a what if. She's bringing toys just in case. We haven't decided toast if they want to swing or not since we really don't know exactly what to expect. Like you said hope for the best plan for the worst. I live by that saying as it seems nothing ever goes as planned. Swinging would just be a bonus if it works out. The one thing my wife and I have talked about several times is she said she'd get jealous seeing me with another woman. Me on the other hand want to see her with men and women, but have decided if the wife gets upset if I don't touch her, I will do it then. But we're fine even if swinging isn't even brought up. I'll keep everyone posted when we get back.

Yes I agree. Well even if nothing does happen there's always Secret Pleasures. Lol.

Wife told me she kissed her female friend last night. She said they made out, but that's as far as it went. I feel kinda bummed that I didn't get to see it and her husband wasn't here either. Still I'm glad they got that out of the way. I'm hoping my wife will decide to come on here and say it in her own words, I'm sure I'm leaving something out.

Glad to hear that. I agree with you, I would love to hear her side of it too. It sounds promising tho

My wife confirmed today that it's definitely happening. She said me and the husband are not going to be wearing condoms. Still can't believe it's finally going to happen, so excited. Sorry if I keep rambling on about it, this has always been a fantasy of mine and her's.

Easy peasy...remember to report back...

Absolutely will.Whether it's good or bad. Since it's a learning experience it could help.

Well we got back from vacation yesterday, and unfortunately bad news. They weren't what we though, lazy and never left their room. Almost had a few arguments, but it was still a great vacation. Just not the right time to have a foursome. Maybe next time.

But I'm sure it was a great learning experience. If I may ask generally where did you vacation? If it was a warm beach setting and they isolated themselves or to somewhere up north in the cold. Who first suggested the location? Maybe there were some home problems for them. If you are still talking to them it might be worth discussing what went wrong even if you know they are not compatible for swinging.

That's why we usually say to go into any situation with no expectations...that way you won't be disappointed. You had a great vacation...great. It's better to find out now that they were not a good match for you than finding out much later down the road. Find another couple that is a better match and start planning your next vacation...

I wouldn't go on a vacation with someone unless we had gone out on several "dates" with them and had played already. You might consider going to Hedo or Desire next time. You'll meet friends to swing with easily there.

I guess deep down we actually hoping nothing went on since they are already friends and it would have been awkward after that. It was still a great vacation anyway and we're still friends. So that's a plus.

There are more than a few threads about swinging with friends. It might be better that things stayed at just friends...

If you are already committed to the vacation, may as well wait for it tomstart the swinging experience. But if you arent committed, then a trial before the vacation would be a good idea. If you dont hit it off, then changing your vacation plans would be smart. There is never a guanrantee it works... But good luck either way.