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Fantasy as a hint for reality

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Hi Guys,

 

New here and lots of good info to read. Hopefully this is in the right forum area.

 

My wife and I have been married for nearly 20 years. We have a good sex life and are both attractive people. I have an above average cock size and know how to use it. My wife loves my cock and I satisfy her nearly every time. So, sex life is good, relationship is good. She is very happy with me as a person etc etc.

 

She has always shared her fantasies with me to some degree, but lately she has become much more open and I have then asked her more questions about her fantasies. A really strong and consistent theme is me and other guys, 1 - 10 or so, all fucking her. Taking turns fucking her, being fucked and oral sex. Even DP has now come into it. She tells me she loves the thought of guys wanting her so badly and me desiring her so badly when other guys are fucking her (no jealousy issues from me). She loves the thought of guys finding her so hot that they cum in her. She also really loves thick cock (or dildo) in her pussy and gets so turned on by the thought of being fucked by a number of guys with thick cocks.

 

So, with the new detail of the fantasy and really telling me a lot more detail about them, with the corresponding increase and desire for sex, does she really want a threesome or more with other guys (and me). She says they're only fantasies etc and she only wants me (how sweet of her) but I'm wondering if I should let her know a bit that we can pursue that angle? I encourage her with the fantasies and she thrives on that.

 

My concern is her feeling guilty and bad about actually having a threesome or more. When we first started using dildo's, especially thick ones where I introduced a lot of role play, she got upset over it and felt bad. I reassured her and she seems okay now, but I don't want to upset her as she can be fragile at times.

 

Your thoughts and experience about what she really wants, now that she is telling me all about multiple guys fucking and cumming in her?

 

And she is not interested in the cuckolding aspect only the Hotwife type scenario.

 

Thanks in advance.

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It can take a lot of male reassurance that female sexuality is ok.

 

My wife is very concerned with my thoughts and feelings regarding her desires. Letting her know it was OK, to tell me that watching her favorite TV was close to watching porn was a major step. There is a lot of societal conditioning that says, a)women's sexuality is her power role b)She should keep it to herself. So now at least you know what you are fighting against.

 

Have you tried baby steps? Watch porn together that has the scenarios she is interested is in? Play with you and dildo? Peruse some swing ads or website together? Just a few idea's.

 

Good Luck have fun.

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Hi Kikonkrome,

Thanks for that - yeah, that seems to be the key - reassurance that her sexuality is okay. I've been trying really hard to increase her confidence in herself over time and she has become bolder with a lot more detail about her fantasies and desires.

 

We write or talk up group sex scenarios with each other. Role play with a few dildo's really getting into the story etc and it makes her as horny as anything. I've told her how she can tell me anything without fear and she expanded even more on the scenario's.

 

She is very conservative naturally and sometimes starts second guessing herself afterwards, feeling self conscious. That is fading as I've told her that her fantasies turn me on. Originally I never had a thought about sharing her with another cock and it would have turned me off, but after hearing her tell me her fantasies and how hot it makes her, it has been a major turn on.

 

She is getting more confident in her fantasies but seems worried still about my thoughts towards them in that, if I'm happy to share her with another cock (or more) then do I think she's cheap or do I really love her and value her. I've reassured her over that and she's fine now with fantasy, but I am a little concerned that she might go backwards and retreat from her fantasies if I raise it wrongly and she feels cheap or not valued. She also seems concerned at times that I seem to want her to be fucked by groups of guys and that she's not enough for me by herself.

 

Porn is not for us and she's not overly into websites etc.

 

When it's the right time, I have a plan of action for a third person (a guy) to join us in as safe a way as possible for her/me - I don't want her feeling guilty and wrong. If this was to happen she would want me to organise it all but she would still be a little worried that she would feel like a bit of a slut.

 

She has to really really want this for it to work for both of us but I don't know if she'll admit to herself (or me) just how much she does want it.

To me it seems obvious that she does want it but is worried about what I might think in reality for it to happen and how she would feel after - hence the dilemma.

Or am I just reading her wrong?

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We have no idea whether you are reading here right or wrong. You seem to be heading in a positive direction. Shame she is not 'into the web', she would see that there are other women into the same thing and that there is nothing 'wrong' with that.

 

Podcasts? Maybe those, Savage Love comes to mind, but there are others. Just an idea. I know we discussed a lot of our swinging stuff after listening to similar material during some long drives together. Just food for thought.

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That's not a bad idea - I haven't a clue what those pod casts are but I'll look them up.

 

I suppose also I just need to give her time to get used to the concept - and me a little now that I'm set on it.

 

But this will be a very 3 way involvement - with really the focus on pleasuring her.

 

I suppose in a little bit I'll just let her know that I don't mind if she did want to experiment just a little to experience something like in 'one of the scenarios' that she finds particularly hot and see how she reacts over time ?

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