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We have only played with our close friends. It has worked out pretty well though many advised not to play with friends. The wives are long time best friends. Our friends have been swingers for many years. We were told by them that another couple we are friends with also play. We weren't told which friends and they swore they wouldn't mention us to them. Being that the wives are so close, we now know who the other couple is and they want permission to mention us to them. They are a neighborhood couple and we have socialized with them many many times. I figured they were the couple our friends mentioned but it wasn't confirmed until now. Best friends talk. The wife told my wife and she told me. The couple are fun people and in shape. Most of the women in our group are in shape. Our friends who we have played with go to parties where there can 4-7 couples. They have asked whether we would be interested. Our other friends would be there. I think we have agreed to let our secret out. Not sure if they are interested in us. I think they would be. Once they know, do we go to a multi couple house party or as I think a party with just the three couples?

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After reading and re-reading your post, I think you are more suited to party with just the 3 couples. A house party may distract you from what you are really wanting, to talk to and see if the new couple is going to be fun to play with.

I think the 6 of you would find the intimacy of the small group more comfortable. Good luck and have fun!

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For many of us, the risk/reward from playing with friends is just too great...doesn't mean it doesn't work because it does. The problem only occurs when it doesn't work or that someone has a problem. Too often when there is a problem they will let the cat out of the bag and that bag is usually in your front yard for the whole neighborhood to see.

 

As for this question: The problem with three couples (ANY three couples, not just couples who are friends) is that you and the other couple are connected via the one common couple. When you get together, if there is not interest between you and the other (new) couple, this ends up leaving one couple as 'odd couple out'. Before getting together for all three to play, it's best to get together first in a neutral setting to make sure that everyone is interested in playing. This just will prevent a potential awkward moment before it can happen. If things go well, then schedule a play date. You also want to make sure that they know in advance that you are now a member of 'the club' so they don't have that sprung on them as a surprise.

 

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

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I would say the party. I mean sure, you know these people and they are your friends, but what if they are not in to you that way? Perhaps they enjoy your vanilla friendship and do not want that to change. If you went into a sixsome with them and they are not in to you at all, that leaves either you or them out of the picture in a way as there is only 1 couple for both of you to share. At the party, it would be easy for you or the first couple to move on to other activities if the spark is not there.

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My husband says 3 couples is the worst arrangement. We have done it and had fun, but it can be very awkward. People tend to pair off and one couple or part of a couple can be left out. Until you know the chemistry and dynamics among all of you, I would avoid it. Go to the party and socialize, flirt with the new couple and see where it takes you. You might play with just them and if it is as great as your first couple then set something up, all six of you. That way there is some familiarity among everyone and hopefully the flow goes smoothly.

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Thanks for answering and advice.

 

The third couple (maybe we are the third couple) are already good friends of ours. Yes, we have a vanilla connection, but my wife and I have talked and feel that they would be fun doing this. I am sure the wives discussed this more than I have with them. My wife is open to doing this. She feels that gradually getting into more of the fun is better than going with strangers so fast. We are still waiting to hear if the other couple wants us. It would be a bummer if they came back and said no after we said yes. We are letting our friend me the initial intermediary. The third couple are friends. I am pretty sure, being that they have partied in the past, would want us to join them. It is not like we would be outsiders and they wouldn't find us attractive. We all know each other very well. If they say they want to meet and party there is very little chance they would avoid us.

Three couples can be a problem. Who goes with who? Is there an odd couple out? I know for me I would want to try the one I hadn't been with. Wow, I can't believe my fantasy of doing my wife's friends. I already know my wife is looking forward to this, she is the one who brought it up to me. Also our first friend is excited that we all do this. My biggest fear is a guy fear. I know I can, I hope I can.

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Thanks for answering and advice.

 

The third couple (maybe we are the third couple) are already good friends of ours. Yes, we have a vanilla connection, but my wife and I have talked and feel that they would be fun doing this. I am sure the wives discussed this more than I have with them. My wife is open to doing this. She feels that gradually getting into more of the fun is better than going with strangers so fast. We are still waiting to hear if the other couple wants us. It would be a bummer if they came back and said no after we said yes. We are letting our friend me the initial intermediary. The third couple are friends. I am pretty sure, being that they have partied in the past, would want us to join them. It is not like we would be outsiders and they wouldn't find us attractive. We all know each other very well. If they say they want to meet and party there is very little chance they would avoid us.

Three couples can be a problem. Who goes with who? Is there an odd couple out? I know for me I would want to try the one I hadn't been with. Wow, I can't believe my fantasy of doing my wife's friends. I already know my wife is looking forward to this, she is the one who brought it up to me. Also our first friend is excited that we all do this. My biggest fear is a guy fear. I know I can, I hope I can.

 

Just because you go to a party does not mean you have to play with strangers. You can go to the party and plan on only playing with the new couple and if that doesn't work our then only play with the couple you have already played with. You can still meet other people at the party and not play with them.

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Just because you go to a party does not mean you have to play with strangers. You can go to the party and plan on only playing with the new couple and if that doesn't work our then only play with the couple you have already played with. You can still meet other people at the party and not play with them.

 

Many couples don't go to parties to play with the same people that they can play with privately. Many years ago at the beginning of our swinging journey we were going to our first house party with a couple that we had played with a few times before. They made it clear that the did not intend to play with us since they were looking to play with others. We didn't mind since we had the same idea but weren't sure how to tell them. It worked great for us but we learned that we can never go to a party expecting to play with a specific couple unless it's agreed upon beforehand. We've also had plenty of times when a couple that we wanted to play with was busy the entire night and we never got the chance.

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Many couples don't go to parties to play with the same people that they can play with privately. Many years ago at the beginning of our swinging journey we were going to our first house party with a couple that we had played with a few times before. They made it clear that the did not intend to play with us since they were looking to play with others. We didn't mind since we had the same idea but weren't sure how to tell them. It worked great for us but we learned that we can never go to a party expecting to play with a specific couple unless it's agreed upon beforehand. We've also had plenty of times when a couple that we wanted to play with was busy the entire night and we never got the chance.

 

While that is true, some people do as well. In this case, since they do not even know if the couple they want to play with wants to play with them and there is another couple going they are comfortable playing with, if they discussed this ahead of time, it would work. I still feel as though planning the 6-some with another couple they are not sure will want to play with them is a good idea. Hell, if they go to the party and the other couple does not want to play, they can simply leave.

 

I agree, though, part of the point of a party is to play with new people. In this case though, I think the party is the better option than the 6-some.

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findinganswers, I think the multi-couple party is the way to go. It allows everybody an "out" if the sixsome idea, or the idea of playing with the not-yet-played-with friends, does not work out for whatever reason. It also gives you and your spouse the opportunity to venture a little out of your comfort zone and meet some new people- to make new friends to play with, rather than only thinking about playing with old friends. I suspect you don't want to hear this, but for the record: just because the "playing with old friends" thing hasn't blown up in your face yet with the one couple you've tried it with, doesn't mean that it won't blow up with the next couple.

 

I will also mention that you should be aware that you are making a big assumption about that third couple's willingness to play with you- vanilla friendship does not equate to desire to have sex!

 

That aside, if it turns out that the six of you really are hot to play together, it can be done! One way to avoid the swapping conundrum for a sixsome is to mix it up a little. Say you are starting with Mr and Mrs A, Mr and Mrs B, Mr and Mrs C. Each woman "rotates one guy to the right" to determine the play match ups: Mr A and Mrs C, Mr B and Mrs A, Mr C and Mrs B. Later, if you all are up for Round 2, the women just rotate once more!

 

Good luck, whatever you decide to do, and let us know how it goes!

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My wife wants to know why the women rotate and not the men. Then she asked if she could play with both men at the same time.

My question is how come I didn't know about her fantasy before.

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LOL, please tell her that it doesn't matter who rotates! It works out the same in either case!

 

As to your other question for her... I would have the same question as you! That said, it's great that she has this fantasy, and I hope you are able to make that happen. You just want to make sure that nobody feels left out of the fun, because if you're all couples, she's playing with two of the guys, there is a woman somewhere who is not receiving attention! We have done another thing when we've had three couples together, where each woman in turn receives the attention of all three men at once. The men all work on pleasing one woman, while the other two women watch and wait their turn. But everybody gets their time in the spotlight in time! Then, if the women are up for it, they all work on each guy in turn. Anyway, we have done this in one group of three couples, to great effect, but a different group of three couples seemed to be cool to the idea- so we did the rotation thing instead! It all depends on what everybody is up for.

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We had our first three couple party. You can always break off to two threesomes. My husband wasn't comfortable with the mfm he did. I was in a ffm. I thought I was the one going to be in the mfm never thinking about the other woman joining me. But that is just a beginning and then things go on without planning. Good luck and enjoy.

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We are more of a 1-1 couple, it makes things easier. We also enjoy new couples each time, it's exciting to meet new people. It keeps the sex different each time. We keep friends out of our pistachio life. You said your experience with friends was good. You already took that plunge. It worked. You both seem to want the other friends and by now they know you are interested. You may as well go for it. Part of me wishes we had friends we could do this with. Right now we won't and don't. The Mrs and I have talked about friends we would like to f. Filf? Good luck and have fun.

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Why did we wait? Contrary to much of the advice of not to play with friends and three couples can be challenging, we did it. Both couples we did it with are friends of ours for years. They have been playing together for years as well. They both claimed they have been giving us hints over the years. Maybe we were just naive or thought it was just good natured fun. I think she was putting me on about how she goes to sleep thinking about me. I was still nervous about the whole set up and if I could please two women who have been swinging for years. Also worried for my wife even though she was excited about the night. Our friends did all the right things, getting a room near a music club we were going to. Good music, drinks and in the back of my head I knew sex. Wondered how and who were going to hook up. I know I wanted the second wife, just for the newness too. Remember we are all friends. Figured my wife was wanting something new too. Did that leave our best friends out? That doesn't work. It ended up they had planned it. They asked if I was fine with watching my wife with both guys. I did hesitate. I wasn't 100% into watching her the last times. I had looked and saw but didn't "watch" when we we did this before. Now 2 friends. Friends who I would have knocked out if I knew they were fucking my wife just a few months ago. Now I am giving permission. I looked at her and she asks if I am good with it. What am I going to say? That is how it started. Both friends and my wife with me and the wives watching. It seemed planned. I am sure they have teamed up before with other women and their wives. Looked like my wife wanted the second friend undressed pretty fast. Here I was watching both of my good friends undressing my wife and touching her all over. I wanted to get involved but just watched. There was excitement in my pants. I watched as she got excited and reacted to what they were doing. I know her noises and breathing when excited.

The night went better and it was a great night for all of us. We are still all talking and friends. The night didn't just end with her and the guys. I got my part of the party too.

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I'm glad things have worked well for you. I would caution you about going along with things you are not sure about, especially when it seems like they have been arranged without your input. This is the type of thing that tends to bite eventually.

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This is also why we are only offering suggestions and opinions...what works for one may not work for another and vice-versa. Congrats on things working out...now with two women also watching didn't you get any playtime?

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When we did our three couple party, we also split into threesomes. In my mind I thought for sure it was going to be me and the two men, not my husband. In the course of the night I was with both men not at the same time. One I had been with before also. Did your wife enjoy being the center of attention and having you watch? I liked it better when my husband didn't watch. Goldco asked if you got to play too. Do you think it will be strange just going out with your friends?

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FILF needs to be a common term if it isn't already. Fun to think about, almost impossible to pull off.

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I'm glad things have worked well for you. I would caution you about going along with things you are not sure about, especially when it seems like they have been arranged without your input. This is the type of thing that tends to bite eventually.

 

Not sure what you mean going along with things we are not sure about. We were asked if we wanted to join our friends. No we were not sure how things would work, and we did leave it to the more experienced friends to make our night perfect. My wife was happy to have the two men, men we know very well, be with her that night. I may have been hesitant to watch at first. These are my friends, my buddies, people we are with often in fun situations. The 2 couples have been swinging together for years and it hasn't changed their friendship. I did say that if one of them had secretly had sex with my wife it would have been a different story but this was done with my consent. The one friend had already been with my wife. I will say that it was strange at first. They were kidding and joking and not pushing. My wife is fun and she can give as much fun as the next.

 

Goldcocouple, yes I got to play with the 2 women. The one fear I had was real. My first experience with a 3some was not as long as I had hoped. I think them being close friends made it harder for me when both were doing things that were new to me. Luckily we laughed it off, at my expense and I later was able to experience the wife we were doing with for the first time. The first experience I had an Oh Shit moment. I happy to say the second time I heard many Yes Yes Oh Fucks before my finish.

 

Overall we have great friends and looking forward to great times.

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...he shoots, he scores! :claps:

 

Wasn't expecting to take the shot from half court before the half time buzzer. I slowed the game down in the second half and finished off with a slam dunk. Yes! And it's good.

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Wasn't expecting to take the shot from half court before the half time buzzer. I slowed the game down in the second half and finished off with a slam dunk. Yes! And it's good.

 

I think you are worried that the shot went off too early. This is not that uncommon. You are lucky you were with friends and you got the rebound and made the shot. If you read enough of the posts on here you will see many men don't get into position to take the shot. Our first time, we met a couple on line. Mr Macho. We or my wife picked him for his physical trait. He went 2 strokes. I am not sure how much your friends made of it, but you got back up and now have friends that you can play with all the time.

You are not comfortable with the situation and can watch your wife enjoy. I hope you and your wife talk about the night after.

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