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    Default Difficulty setting up meetings with other swingers as a single?

    I came across this little gem of what being single in 2014 is like and it made me wonder if something similar also happens with swinging singles when they want to meet up with other swingers, be they other singles or couples. I know that something like this in the form of emails happens between swinger couples as well.
    We've all got "junk", mine just happens to be in the trunk. Actually, it's everywhere except for the headlights!


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    It may make me seem older than my years, but I'm glad I'm married and not looking. Being in a poly family gives me all the variety and excitement that I need.

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    Is extremely difficult as I have found!

    I see it as simple economics, too much supply of single guys and not enough demand by the women!

    Don't mean to sound negative just one of those things

    Keep going sure you will find what your looking for

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    Obviously when you play with other couples, everyone is married. But, we have done maybe 10 or so MFM and when I think back, only one was single, other others were married guys. These have been "on the fly" type meetings, not prearranged or off web sites, just random conversations at a bar, that turn into flirtation and fun. From those experiences, it seems like single guys don't get it, they whisper for my phone number or ask if I would date them without hubby whereas the married guys seem to pick up on the opportunity for an MFM and more readily join in.

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    Just a newbie here After separation - I would feel safer I think with couples.

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    Oh it is very difficult. This Dutch man agrees with the Brit, I am sure it is a question of economics and in my case aging (61). While I have no problems what so ever below the belt and I do not need any chemical enhancement, I feel I have two strikes against me: being single and age. Yes I have the very occasional fun, it seems that most inquiries are coming from single bi or gay guys. While I have no problem admitting I am (or can be) bi, I would like to exclusively swing with m/f couples or women and that is increasingly more difficult.

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    Two years later this single lady agrees it is still difficult to meet people. I have not been on SLS long and have met one amazing gentleman. I try to chose wisely in who I agree to meet but recently three men each said they wanted to meet after speaking on the phone but nothing materialized. One other I decided not to meet after speaking on the phone. I wonder how common this is for others.

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    Default Re: Difficulty setting up meetings with other swingers as a single?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jane1902 View Post
    . . . I wonder how common this is for others.
    My wife and I are, of course, not single. But we do invite and solicit meetings with singles. My wife tells me that your experience at SLS is typical.

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    People on SLS seem to enjoy emailing and viewing profiles more than meeting people.


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    A man I had initiated contact replied that because 1. I was a free member (signed up a month ago, see how it is before investing),2. I had only one picture, 3. No certs that these were signs of fake/flake and wasn't interested unless any of that changed. My initial contact clearly referenced that I had read his profile. I try to understand. I am new so I wouldn't have many certs plus as a single woman I didn't think it necessary but also view it as kissing and telling. I try to be selective to begin with and myself get turned off by hypersexual intro messages, still quite a number of flakes. Phone calls, pictures exchanged, deal beakers discussed, I hear "I want to meet you" then nothing. Or suddenly a business trip out of town (he sounded really enthusiastic on the phone), something came up. Supposed to meet someone new tomorrow. We'll see. Bets?

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    Another single female chiming in here. The video is no longer available, so I don't know the exact contents, but I will attest to the difficulty of finding quality people, especially single men who are truly single. Out of the ton of messages I have received from 'single men' in the past two months, only five have actually been single. It's not until we have communicated a few times before I am told the truth. They must think they are the exception, because my profile clearly states I am looking for a single, unattached male to be my partner in crime, escort me to clubs, parties, etc. I now ask up front their relationship status before I communicate with them any further.

    What I did not anticipate is being contacted by groups who meet regularly. It intrigued me so I eventually decided on a small group about an hour away that has been meeting for nearly fifteen years. The purpose of the group is to pamper the female, so they try to keep the ratio at two men for every female. They get a large suite at a nice hotel, which the men pay for. I had my first experience with them last month, which was absolutely fabulous! I hope to attend every month if my schedule allows. Shortly after that experience, I began getting invites to other groups. I've checked out a couple of them, not all were my taste. Now I'm getting invited to house parties by those I met in the groups. This is all a new area for me, but I have found it is becoming my preference at the moment. Plus I feel far more safer than I do with one on ones or threesomes.

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