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    Default Advice on where to find a male 3rd

    Hello,

    My wife and I are trying to find her a respectful male for a regular, once a month, fuck buddy relationship. She prefers not to have one night stands and would feel more comfortable with a guy that she knows somewhat.

    Do you guys have any advice for a website/dating site/app that would work best for our situation?

    Thanks for your help!!!


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    I have been that third with much enjoyment all around. Dating sites are awash with men playing alone and happy with a couple. You are in a buyers' market. Look for intelligent communication and any physical features desired. A meet and greet beforehand should be a given, maybe just hub present. Location is a big consideration.

    A common complaint is about a single man who falls in love with the wife creating awkwardness and conflict. Attached men do not pose that threat.

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    So just your average "dating site" like Match.com or something like that?

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    We found that SLS had a good selection of single males. Once you find the guy, go back and read Sawman's post again. He comes across as kinda 'oh and by the way' but this is excellent advise. Men will fall in love with your wife. Married men are less likely to interfere with your relationship. The husband should meet the guy alone beforehand and have a meal, a drink, and spend some time with him, always looking for red flags. In the end, YOU are responsible for placing her in his bed so take your time. The pool of men wanting to do this is huge and very shallow. It's the exact opposite of finding a female but just as frustrating. Good luck. Please be careful.

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    Thanks for the advice!!

    Any other thoughts are much appreciated!

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    Has anyone used doubllist, or wifedates?

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    Well all righty then. Finding a guy on line is how you want to do it. Look over sites to find one that has the type of connection you seek. Craigslist used to have a specific breakdown of nsa hookup variations. That was good because you want your ad to be specific. A wide net will flood your inbox. A narrow net will flood your inbox as well but make it easier to cull. Specific title to start "Couple seeks respectful male for ongoing fwb relationship". Now, that will bring in the hordes.
    In the body, list specific needs and request how these needs will be fulfilled. This forces the replier to read and write. Grade his writing like a 7th grade English teacher. Low quality writing tells a story you don't need to hear. Ignoring your needs, means he can't fulfill them or didn't read the ad. Either way..delete.
    Your ad will be long, too long for most to read to the end. Toward the end, but not right at the end, put a sentence, "in the subj of replies, enter blue or your reply will not be opened". ANY reply without your keyword needs to be deleted without opening. Trust me on this. Now you can go thru the few remaining, and look for red flags.
    Start a conversation with the ones you like, do this together. Do not send pictures but you can request them.
    When you finally connect, keep your time together minimal and sex based. We (I) made the mistake of befriending the high quality guy we decided on. We took him on vacations and such. I could have easily lost my wife to him. Very rich, very good looking, very big dick that could fuck for hours, very in love with my wife. Love was the only thing that kept my under endowed broke ass with her.
    And lastly, enjoy !
    btw, ALL the advise given was learned the hard way, before we found this site. Also, a pay site will work way better than our method which was craigslist. Low population kinda forced our hand, better luck to you.

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    We also used the 'put the magic word in the subject,' as JandK suggested. As a result, you have the first indication of who will be respectful and pay attention to your rules. It works!

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    Quote Originally Posted by JandKinBoise View Post
    Well all righty then. Finding a guy on line is how you want to do it. Look over sites to find one that has the type of connection you seek. Craigslist used to have a specific breakdown of nsa hookup variations. That was good because you want your ad to be specific. A wide net will flood your inbox. A narrow net will flood your inbox as well but make it easier to cull. Specific title to start "Couple seeks respectful male for ongoing fwb relationship". Now, that will bring in the hordes.
    In the body, list specific needs and request how these needs will be fulfilled. This forces the replier to read and write. Grade his writing like a 7th grade English teacher. Low quality writing tells a story you don't need to hear. Ignoring your needs, means he can't fulfill them or didn't read the ad. Either way..delete.
    Your ad will be long, too long for most to read to the end. Toward the end, but not right at the end, put a sentence, "in the subj of replies, enter blue or your reply will not be opened". ANY reply without your keyword needs to be deleted without opening. Trust me on this. Now you can go thru the few remaining, and look for red flags.
    Start a conversation with the ones you like, do this together. Do not send pictures but you can request them.
    When you finally connect, keep your time together minimal and sex based. We (I) made the mistake of befriending the high quality guy we decided on. We took him on vacations and such. I could have easily lost my wife to him. Very rich, very good looking, very big dick that could fuck for hours, very in love with my wife. Love was the only thing that kept my under endowed broke ass with her.
    And lastly, enjoy !
    btw, ALL the advise given was learned the hard way, before we found this site. Also, a pay site will work way better than our method which was craigslist. Low population kinda forced our hand, better luck to you.
    Thank you for you words of wisdom! We really appreciate it!!

    We will use the tips you mentioned to "weed" out flakes, and others we don't want to meet.

    I am glad your wife stayed with you!! Lol

    I think as long as your wife and you go into it with the understanding that it will be an experience primarily for the too of you and that, you will respect the other person's feelings, but ultimately this is for you and your wife and the 3rd person is a temporary passenger in your relationship...then things will go smoother. That is the mentality we are approaching this with. I feel like if you have strong communication, love, and understanding of the goal/rules, then there is a much better chance of having success and a great time together! A great adventure together! Lol


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    Id be interested to be the third if it suits the requirements. Looking for a regular session with someone and keeping it discreet

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