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    Default Finding it hard to play separate

    This spring, my wife and I decided that we could play separately. She is definitely a 10 in the looks department, and I am lucky to be considered a 7. So, obviously she found it easy to find a guy to play with, and I have not. I have tried finding girls on tinder, SLS, and a few other sites. No luck! Should I just reside to the fact that I'm not going to find someone? Seems women are not that likely to play with a married guy in the way guys are willing to play with married women.

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    Default Re: Finding it hard to play separate

    This matches my experience. Swing web sites are not the way to find willing women. Private parties are the way. Many of these same swing web sites have party groups that you can join to find dates and locations. Meet-n-greet events are a good way too.

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    Finding single women in the L/S is HARD, finding women who are looking to play alone makes finding a unicorn easy. This is why couples play with other couples. Each couple comes with a man AND a woman. I would suggest going back to playing together and you should have more success...
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    When it comes to playing separately, we usually play with the same couples that we have played together, but only "separately" such as different rooms or different locations. Playing separating changes the dynamics quite a bit, and I think you may find it different and fun even though you may have played with that person in a couple setting.

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    Last month we had our first hall pass, first ever in 8 year swinging, very rare occasion but it did not disappoint.
    It was with a coworker which I worked for about 3 years and we always had certain chemistry, I enjoyed flirting with him in the office and come back to my husband and tell him about it, in fact my husband had been OK with the idea of my having sex in private with him for a long time probably more than 2 years when we first discuss it.
    We planned everything with my husband and all went more or less as planned:
    I organized drinks with him after the office and I made sure my (unspoken) intentions were clear, he got it and he gave his wife some excuse for late commitments.
    After only one drink (LOL) we left the pub and we went to a room that I previously booked.
    We had a very good session of three hours or so, we left out all that we were holding during all these time working together, a lot of dirty talking, he telling me about all the times he wanted my in the office, how I was dressed etc.
    It was definitely very special, he is a man with family and very serious and responsible, no need of condoms or any extra security precautions, I texted my husband and updated him several times, I felt save with someone I trusted.

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    Default Re: Finding it hard to play separate

    Sophy - I am curious if the other wife was aware of the plan?

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    Default Re: Finding it hard to play separate

    No, she was not,and he was not aware that my husband was part of it.
    This is not the first time we engaged with married man, we have had threesomes were the man was clearly lying to his wife/partner
    We do not ask or care much about it, that is their problem, all of them are grown man, adults, we are no one to judge them or question them more than necessary.

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