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We are seeing a guy for a while now and I am constantly away from work. This week I told her she can see him and just him without me if she feels like it.

 

Any advice from the more experienced ones on here?

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The main thing here is think is that both of you trust and like the other guy. You may not be there physically, but you are still an important part of the equation even if you are 500 miles away. It sounds like you all have a track record together, and it's a good one, so as long as everyone understands the boundaries and has respect for all the other parties involved, then I think it will go just fine.

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I can affirm that if you trust each other, you are not likely to encounter a problem. My wife and I had no problem about trust. But after a while I started to feel cheated having a perception that my wife was having a lot more fun than I was having. I decided that it is OK, that it is possibly inevitable, that my wife will have more fun. So don't try to weigh things in a balance.

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My wife has been having a lot of play dates with our best male friend, and I am totally fine with it. It makes the two of them very happy.

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Thanks for the replies. He is also outside of town and we see each other when he is here. We got to a point where he stays at our house when in town! :) It is nice to have this type of relationship.

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If all parties agree on this then I guess it should be ok but you need a lot of trust and know the limits. I had a similar arrangement when my ex-husband would go away on his work trips for 2-3 weeks at a time. I started out just as sleep over but progressed into the handsome young man doing my shopping, picking me up from work, going to the gym and helping with work around the house. As bad as this sounds I use to look forward to the ex-husband going away so I could spend time with the younger guy. Suffice to say our marriage didn't last too long after that.

 

Just be careful where this could lead and don't get too close!

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My Mrs. gives me permission to play separately as well (I would be happy to let her play separately as well, but she almost never wants to do so). One thing I make a point of doing is to get my wife's permission for each encounter. It's a formality really, because she has made it clear that she's OK with my playing separately. But I want to check in just in case her feelings should change, to give her every opportunity to voice any concerns that might be developing, and to make it clear that she always has veto authority. I also give her a Full Report afterwards, to reinforce the fact hat I have nothing to hide about my solo encounters.

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On 6/20/2016 at 12:13 PM, kinkycplm said:

We are seeing a guy for a while now and I am constantly away from work. This week I told her she can see him and just him without me if she feels like it.

 

Any advice from the more experienced ones on here?

 Sounds like the classic hot wife scenario.  I am quite sure you have a lot Of boundrees and rules already in place.  A couple of major things. communicate,  Trust, And make sure she reconnects with you When she gets back.  Even if it's just holding each other for 15 minutes

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We had a situation where she used to play with another gentleman, but our rule was that it had to be an informed visit. I was ok with them playing together when I wasn't around. They just had to play safe and give me a heads up, and I was fine with it. It was actually kind of hot to come home from work, and hearing them in the bedroom from just outside the door. You would hear sounds of sex, and moans of pleasure, and I would let my mind picture what was happening on the other side of the door...hot stuff :)

 

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