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My wife and I recently returned from a vacation at a lifestyle resort. There we meet a sexy and super fun couple. The unfortunate thing was we really didn't get a chance to get to know them. We arrived and they departed two days later. We really only had a few hours to talk. Since returning home we've been chatting a little. The issue is we're struggling with keeping the conversation going. We had such limited time to get to know them we really don't have much to say. We want to get to know them. We want to know more about their style of play and interests in general but it's hard when we're basically starting from scratch. Any ideas on how to keep the chat moving along? Or, should this happen easily and the fact it's not is a clear sign it's not for a reason? Time to move on!

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Are you planning to meet again? If there's interest on both sides then just slot a date in your diaries and from then on the conversation should flow easily because you will all want to build up anticipation and excitement. If you or them are not interested to meet, and you haven't identified any other common interests, then I'd say that ship has sailed and move on.

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Fairly simple. You have had a chance to meet. You have likely decided that you want to spend more time with them. Send a note asking if they would like to get together for a weekend. That might seem forward. The worst they can say is "no".

 

When we did this, the response came in 24 hours: "Are we coming to see you guys, or are you coming to visit us, or are we meeting somewhere? Our calendar is good for the weekends of...how about you? Can't wait to see you!"

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If you feel you haven't learned enough about them, have another dinner together.

 

Ask questions. Studies show that asking about them is more endearing than telling them all the wonderful things you have done. Decide, based on how completely they answer, whether they communicate to a standard acceptable to y'all. Most of the questions should be asked by your wife.

 

When they ask, be sure you answer fully. Don't avoid answering their questions.

 

Best of luck! There is a couple out there who will like y'all a lot!

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We met friends from a Bliss cruise in Texas and New Orleans. Offer to meet for a long weekend in a mutually convenient place. If they say no, you know where you stand and you tried.

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We want to get to know them. We want to know more about their style of play and interests in general but it's hard when we're basically starting from scratch. Any ideas on how to keep the chat moving along?

 

People always want to make this so much harder than it needs to be: ASK THEM. Say something like "we really enjoyed meeting you and wanted to get to know you both better. Tell us about your style of play and interests in general". Either they will or they won't. Either way you will know what you need to know. Good luck.

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