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    Default Do you respond if not interested?

    We always politely say no when a couple we aren't interested in messages us. A lot of our messages go unanswered. What is the general opinion...don't respond or nicely say no thank you?


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    We respond to those profiles and introductory emails that pique our interests. We clearly state our interests and our ages and we openly post representative and hopefully titillating public photos. If we're contacted by people who obviously failed to read our profile or who do not meet our criteria such as age or HWP (HWP is NOT 5'2" 235 lbs)we simply delete. No answer IS an answer.

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    It depends. If the message is basically "Sup?" or something similar then no.. Otherwise sure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by padoc View Post
    We respond to those profiles and introductory emails that pique our interests. We clearly state our interests and our ages and we openly post representative and hopefully titillating public photos. If we're contacted by people who obviously failed to read our profile or who do not meet our criteria such as age or HWP (HWP is NOT 5'2" 235 lbs)we simply delete. No answer IS an answer.
    what if they write a thought out, nice message, but you just don't find them attractive?

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    The above is not a firm and inviolable rule but it is the practice that we generally follow. There have been exceptions, infrequently. We've found that couples who read and comprehend our profile and then choose to contact us tend to write well thought out and nice messages, as do we. In the event that we send a message and don't get an encouraging response within a reasonable time, we take that as a "not interested" and move on. We don't need to know why, not interested is not interested.

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    We generally respond. If negative, we say we are not a match. We do not want to hurt people's feelings. If people put themselves out there by asking us, they deserve a response.

    However, plenty of people do not respond to us. It is the most likely response.

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    We don’t respond to the numerous invites we get from single males,typically a one liner with no photo. Thoughtful or more sincere sounding notes from couples, with photos, we usually respond to.

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    We will always try to be responsive. The only exception is one liners. If we send you an email and we don't get a reply within a time frame we will block that profile as to not bother them again, and we have a record of who we tried to contact with no interest.

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    Single men do not get an answer (we say that we are not interested in single men so please don't ask). Other than that, unfortunately what njbm said is accurate:

    Quote Originally Posted by njbm View Post
    We generally respond. If negative, we say we are not a match. We do not want to hurt people's feelings. If people put themselves out there by asking us, they deserve a response.

    However, plenty of people do not respond to us. It is the most likely response.
    If you donít have to lie about sex, you donít have to lie about anything. - John Williamson


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    No is the simple answer.

    I find if your not interested and you answer even once it means they send you another 3 or 4 messages trying to convince you they are great

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    We always respond, you never know when you are going to end up meeting someone at a party out in the real world they may be friends of friends it never hurts to be nice. As to people not reading profile of being what we are looking for we each see our self's in our own way so just because someone is not what we are looking for does not mean that they don't see them selfs as what we are looking for. Over the years we have learned that you never know about anyone untill you know them. Sometimes those we though would be hot from their profile or email are not and those who we thought were not turn out to be WOW.
    Steve & Terri

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    I find if your not interested and you answer even once it means they send you another 3 or 4 messages trying to convince you they are great
    One "no thank you" then no more responses.

    it never hurts to be nice
    Our thoughts exactly. However every once in a while it does hurt, but the risk is worth it.
    If you donít have to lie about sex, you donít have to lie about anything. - John Williamson

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    I know we haven't always gotten responses. We just figured they were picture collectors. I don't respond if we aren't interested. I can be too blunt. The wife has more tact than me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sun&Moon View Post
    No is the simple answer.

    I find if your not interested and you answer even once it means they send you another 3 or 4 messages trying to convince you they are great
    We find this too, and I think we use the same site as you, however we do respond to well written messages, though sometimes it does seem to open a can of worms. One pet hate we have is profiles without any pics or write up messaging us asking if we would like to meet, so annoying, we leave those unanswered , in our site rules it even states that no reply should be taken as "No thankyou"

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    To be honest we get loads of messages we never bother answering, those messages would include things like:


    The classic rude one liners:

    "Does your wife take it up the ass?"

    "I'll pay cash to fuck your wife?"

    "Do you want to swallow my load?"

    "I'd love to smash her pussy?"

    "You wanna fuck whilst I'm dressed as a women?"

    "Will you fuck me whilst I wear my wife's knickers?"

    "You free for a banging tonight?"

    "I know my profile says straight but I can pretend to be bisexual if I get to bone her?"

    "I want to suck your wife's ass hole?"

    YEAH such messages just get ignored, if we answered them we would be forever bogged down by rude idiots wanting their daily "Masturbation Messages" the type of guys who looks a couples pictures and fire off rude sexual messages whilst they sit their masturbating.


    OTHER EXAMPLES OF MESSAGES WE DON'T ANSWER AT ALL WOULD BE:


    - When the person is about 40 years older than us.

    - When the person lives hundreds if not thousands of miles away from us.

    - When the person is totally filthy / unclean, for example their body doesn't look clean, their clothes / bedroom look really unclean.

    - When they look like they could be a violent person.

    - When they ask to fuck us whilst their high as a kite on cocaine.

    - When they messages asking us to take part in heavy fetish behaviour like pissing, shoe sniffing, gimp suits, ect.

    - When they seem pushy, nasty, aggressive, moody, mentally unstable.

    - When they have a 1000 verification reviews and have slept with 90% of the website.

    - When they are cheating and want us to risk our lives been the dirty little secret, affair sex objects.

    - When they are just not appealing to us whatsoever.

    - When they have clearly not read any of our profile at all.

    - If they post loads of pictures of everyone they play with probably without the persons consent.


    There are loads of reasons why we wouldn't bother answering a message and like stated in my original post if you do answer such messages you generally end up in a 3 or 4 messages conversation with that person wanting to know why your not interested or trying to convince you that you are interested or would not have messaged back in the first place.

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    Those are some good ones...I'm kind of jealous lol

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    We, I, don't respond. No matter what you say some people don't handle rejection very rationally. It's best not to respond. If they angrily and persistently demand a response then you know you made a wise decision.


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    I recently recieved an intro email explaining why I should play bareback with him. I bothered to reply my profile clearly states safe play only and am never interested in anyone who would suggets otherwise (I take this as a sign of lack of respecting my boundaries, another man is on my forever pass list for being "condom optional" without asking or prior discussion- I had to tell him glove up). He replied trying to convince me why this was a good idea. He is now blocked. No reply is a no, so I won't waste my time again. Just because we are on the same site doesn't mean I want to fuck you. It's called a mutual agreement.

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    We try to respond to all interest. Yes it is difficult to respond to those who say hello. Then we are left with do we say hello back or not interested. Usually someone will get their feelings hurt and say, I was only saying hello... We use the SLS generic no thanks a lot. For the ride, crude or aggressive (mostly single men) we just say "block you" and end it.
    Shy_Couple
    You want me to whack a guy, off a guy, whack off a guy?
    -Peter Griffin

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