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    Default Share your best opening line for responding to ads

    I was just checking out ads and debating replying to one or two, when I realized I have no idea what to say! It's really been that long since we've attempted this route, as we have typically stuck to just meeting people at clubs and socials. The occasions that we do contact people it's usually because they will be at a party/social we are attending so it gives us an easy opener.

    I was surprised, upon looking, that this isn't a topic that's been discussed in quite a while. So, what is your best opener when replying to ads? Or for that matter, what do you like to see when you get replies?
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    That is a difficult question. Each and every interesting profile we see evokes a different reaction. We have no typical or formulated message. We feel that everything people need to know about us at first is already said in our on-line profile. So if there is anything that characterizes our approach it is that the message is brief. We never, however, use "have a look at our profile and tell us what you think."

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    We always read therir profile completely and find some common ground and mention that in our opening email. If local, we also ask if they ever attend xx club to open the door to a potential meeting venue. There's no one line we stick to, we try to make our emails as individual as the people we are contacting. We typically will open our face pictures to them as well so they can fully assess their interest. Something we do end most emails with is asking for a reply even if there's no interest in meeting on their end.
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    Default Re: Share your best opening line for responding to ads

    We don't have any one formula either, but we do try to mention any common ground or else something out of there profile that shows we actually read it.

    What we like to see is something that shows they read our profile. One time in particular I remember getting a message and their profile was about 90% about how bi she was, that they are in this primarily for girl-girl play, and don't both contacting them if the other woman isn't just as bi-furious as she is. Since we both list as straight on our profile, I had to ask, "uhhh, you did read our profile, right??"
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    Default Re: Share your best opening line for responding to ads

    Angelkin: Nailed it!

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    Per Angelkin, why do so many people contact us, we respond and they fall off the planet? It's not our pix, we are average to above average looking. Would love to know.

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    Default Re: Share your best opening line for responding to ads

    There could be many reasons, or no reason at all, for them not to respond. Attraction to pictures is variable... I'm sure your pics are very attractive... Perhaps, however, they're not attractive to that particular couple? Some couples may be looking for a specific type or wording of response, a particular flavor that doesn't come through in your response. The myriad reasons for radio silence after one has responded to a profile will snatch your mind from you if you let them (OK, well maybe not as dramatic as all that but you get the point). My advice would be to chalk their unresponsiveness up to one of the mysteries of the universe, and happily correspond with someone else. There's no amount of rumination that will account for the vagaries of human nature.


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