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Ok, so last night we got a response back from a couple we had originally contacted in July. The fact that it took them over 3 months to reply didn't bother us really (we realize things happen, people get sidetracked, messages get lost, etc), what annoyed us was the response that they did send.

 

Our initial contact to them was of our usual first contact variety -something along the lines of "we saw your profile and we liked it, please take a look at ours and let us know if you'd like to meet sometime for dinner or drinks" with a question thrown in to personalize the message - (they had mentioned that they were members of a local social so we asked which one they were members of).

 

The response: "dave here who is there" (name changed to protect the guilty).

 

So what does this response say to us? First thought - it took you 3 months to respond and that's all you give us? Second thought - ok, so it's the guy and his wife has no idea that they even have an ad on this site. I went back and looked at their profile and they are an attractive couple... but now I can't get past the idea that it's probably just the guy and his wife has no idea.

 

 

So this occurance inspired an idea for a thread.... a topic that in some way or another seems to come up pretty often, but I thought it might be interesting to get some of these in one thread.

 

Give an example of a bad response you've gotten and what it made you think or want to respond back to them with.

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One couple sent us their key a few times when we first joined a site back in March. I was a little creeped by the crotch shots, but hubby thought she was hot, so we finally said hi in an email, they got back to us and suggested getting together for a drink some evening, so we added them to msn... then it got silly. We'd try to chat them up in msn, it was like pulling teeth, with her response to everything I wrote being monosyllabic and kinda snotty. After a few fruitless attempts at that, I figured they weren't really interested, gave up trying to be friendly, deleted their key, etc. We were busy enough, anyway. Then,a couple of months later, we got an e-mail from them, saying they just never checked their hotmail and if we didn't feel like getting together, they understood. Well, since I had known that they were on msn every night (until I blocked them), that went over like a lead balloon, and I didn't bother getting back to them, just deleted it. It's not like we were that desperate to get laid.

 

Then, yesterday, they sent us their key again!! I'm assuming that they've forgotten who we are. Still, it's a little silly.

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The one that makes me shake my head is any kind of short reply that is basically just asking for more pictures. It also comes up if we quickly jump onto IM or something like that. We'll send a nice message similar to what Julie posted, something personalized and asking a question, but will just get a reply like:

 

"thanks for the message, do you have more pictures?"

 

Now, we totally understand the need to know what people look like to make sure you find them attractive, but we have pictures of both of us posted. It's not like they don't know what we look like. Generally those people go away when they discover we don't share naked or sexual pictures.

 

We've had a few people that we've turned down before try to contact us again, but I understand that. My memory sucks as well and I know that we've contacted a couple that we've already been in touch with a few months later. We've also contacted a couple that we've ended up deciding not to meet before. New pictures, new name on the ad and things like that have tricked us into not realizing we'd already spoken. Still embarrassing to a degree though!

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This topic has potential to be very interesting! We've had so many bizarre responses to our ad that it is just laughable.

 

I guess the ones that bother me the most are, when our ad is VERY specific as to who/what we are looking for as well as what we are NOT looking for - then we get an email from someone that says something like "I see your ad says you are not (insert whatever here) but I thought I'd just drop you a line and see if I could change your mind."

 

I'm also horribly turned off by those "liked ur profile, got more pics?" emails. If a person can't be bothered to actually write a message that contains at least 2-3 complete sentences, using proper grammar and spelling, I probably won't respond to that email.

 

My favorite individual one, is from a man who has a "hand written note" from his invalid wife, giving him permission to play. He had a "canned" email that he sends out about once a month or so. However, his wife may have "retracted" her note - because we've not had an email from him in about two months now. ::P:

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If a person can't be bothered to actually write a message that contains at least 2-3 complete sentences, using proper grammar and spelling, I probably won't respond to that email.

 

AMEN! :D I make the rare exception in the case where English is not your native language, but there is no bigger turn-off than a poorly written note. We've received a lot of e-mails that seem to suggest that a rogue 5-year-old has hacked into several SLS accounts, and has taken great interest in taunting us. Well, you know what, "wee think UR gr8 two," whomever you are.

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at 2am from a guy who lives about an hour away

"Hey, why don't you come over now, so we can fuck for a few minutes before I need to go to sleep"

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On our local LS site our profile has a "Do not Disturb" sign with four stick figures in a very funny sexual position and the only text we have says we found what we were looking for. We still get e-mail saying: "Hey, liked your profile; wana meet for drinks?" We only have the sign and text on our profile cause of our past poly relationship, but it is funny to get an e-mail that basically says, we did not really read or even look at your profile, we just like the pics... we do have great pics though... hehehe.

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Then there was the couple that sent us their key, saying we had so much in common! They were soft swap only, we're full swap only. He was bi-curious, mr pb&j is straight. Out of about a dozen interests listed for each couple, we had 3 in common.

Do people actually bother reading profiles?

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Do people actually bother reading profiles?

 

Actually, I don't think that alot of people on SLS read profiles.

 

And this especially applies to the single men that pop up on the little chat box and the first question is "so what r u n 2?"

 

Believe me, our profile is very clear on everything so that if you actually read the profile, you won't need to ask that question.

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Ok, Julie, not to defend the offender, but, in our case, I handle all the "interview" process and fill her in along the way, so, It may be a honest thing or it may be a case as you say.. the only way to know for sure is waste a few moments and find out, if so inclined.

 

Now, as to the weird as of late, it seems October brought out plenty of the Strange, looking for the off the wall.

 

Between the single guys looking for the one nighters, to the tie me up and abuse me set.. Its been one thing after another..

 

Our pet peeves as far as writing and get email back is:

 

at least have the fuckin courtesy to reply back if we arent your cup o tea..

 

Or, acting like you don't know how to chat on IM.. Case in point talk to me, and its all good, talk about the weather the sports the freakin news, whatever.. Discuss what your turn ons are.. great..

 

talk to her and go from zero to cyber sex in 2 minutes.. Quickest way to get ignored

 

And of course the ones that 2 seconds into a conversation expect you to drop everything, head to a unknown location, and spend a day doing whatever.. RIGHT..

I said it before and I will say it again, having new people get involved in the lifestyle is great.. but they need to have a few simple clues as to how to TALK to people.

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Our pet peeves as far as writing and get email back is:

 

Or, acting like you don't know how to chat on IM.. Case in point talk to me, and its all good, talk about the weather the sports the freakin news, whatever.. Discuss what your turn ons are.. great..

 

talk to her and go from zero to cyber sex in 2 minutes.. Quickest way to get ignored

 

And of course the ones that 2 seconds into a conversation expect you to drop everything, head to a unknown location, and spend a day doing whatever.. RIGHT..[/i]

 

Exactly!! Hubby can have these indepth chats, find out all sorts of things about the people - then if they find out its me - they are like "my dick sure is hard this morning" Ok - none of them ever tell HIM there dick is hard :eek:(which is probably a good thing) but it pisses me off and like you, I immediately hit the ignore button.

 

And we've run into the "Nice profile, I'm alone today, wanna come fuck?" type, too.

 

Which is exactly why I don't chat. It just ruins my day. LOL

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That's why we just say to everyone we do not know, "We only meet new people at parties or clubs." If we feel the couple is a potential match, we tell them the next event we'll be at. If we don't, we'll say, "We don't think we'd be a match." The absolute RARE exceptions are people we know to be friends of friends.

 

The thing is though that we've found that the others (like us) who communicate and are serious about this lifestyle are so pleasantly pleased with our communication skills (and hopefully our sexual skills ;)) that if there's a mutual physical attraction, we simply don't have as much time to attend the bigger events because we're enjoying those wonderful private evenings. We do get to a bigger party or club every 3 months or so though.

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realcplub2 said:
Ok, Julie, not to defend the offender, but, in our case, I handle all the "interview" process and fill her in along the way, so, It may be a honest thing or it may be a case as you say.. the only way to know for sure is waste a few moments and find out, if so inclined.

 

I'm not really sure what you are getting at there. I can see where it could be one person handling the bulk of the emails, but still if someone emails you and asks you a basic question at least have the courtesy to respond to the question. To just reply back and say "Dave here, who's there?" doesn't even serve any purpose, IMO.

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My stock reply for the 1 sentence e-mail that asks only, "Do you have more pics?" is : "Yes we do, thank you for asking..." That's normally followed by my going to that profile and blocking/ignoring it.

 

The response that stands out most in my mind, is when I replied to an e-mail someone sent me. They sent this pleasant email telling us how they liked our profile, and went on to describe what they thought we had in common. I replied to that e-mail, telling them that we had checked their profile, and agreed that we had quite a few things in common. I then told them about our work schedules, and if they were interested in meeting over coffee some evening, we'd be interested in meeting them. The next reply came about two weeks later, and was the canned SLS reply, "Thank you for your interest, but we don't think we're compatible. Good luck with your search."

 

Now wait just a flippin' minute here - who contacted who from out of the blue...?

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For us probably the "worst" (it wasn't all that bad really) was a couple we contacted. Initial e-mails went very nicely, and things seemed to be going ok. We offered to exchange pictures, but noted that we don't exchange face pictures online. The couple then got very defensive, insisting on face pictures. This, despite their own profile saying they have to maintain their anonymity online. We counter offered and suggested meeting up at a nearby swinger club, so it would be the least waste of their time if they felt there was no attraction. They faded quickly after that. *shrug* I understand if people don't want to meet others without face pictures, but don't expect us to send you face pictures when you yourself don't want to do so.

 

Like Malachista, we too got an offer from a couple at around 1 in the morning. They live around half an hour away. We'd just gotten home from an evening out with another couple, and were just checking messages before going to bed. We weren't offended, but thought it pretty late to get things going. Maybe they sleep different hours.

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I'm not really sure what you are getting at there. I can see where it could be one person handling the bulk of the emails, but still if someone emails you and asks you a basic question at least have the courtesy to respond to the question. To just reply back and say "Dave here, who's there?" doesn't even serve any purpose, IMO.

 

I dunno where that came from..

 

As i explained, More often than not its Me, Mr Real, Who replies to the email, and begins the interview process via chat..

 

This sort of circumstance has happend to us, and in the case in question.. It was explained that, they were NEWBIES, and it was SHE who usually handled the "clerical work". The guy was looking at the emails for the first time, without her..

 

It doesnt excuse the reply, but again, live long enough and you will see EVERYTHING at least once

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I dunno where that came from..

 

As i explained, More often than not its Me, Mr Real, Who replies to the email, and begins the interview process via chat..

 

This sort of circumstance has happend to us, and in the case in question.. It was explained that, they were NEWBIES, and it was SHE who usually handled the "clerical work". The guy was looking at the emails for the first time, without her..

 

It doesnt excuse the reply, but again, live long enough and you will see EVERYTHING at least once

 

I think it may be the difference in the exchange being via email and via real time chat. And perhaps some people don't understand the difference (as is proven here quite often). That said, this same guy initiated a chat with me last night on SLS and began the chat the exact same way. It cracked me up that it was the EXACT same line, but in the context it made more sense. However, his communication skills did not show to be any better via chat.

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I'm a little perplexed. We belong to a few sites, including a Canadian one which doesn't let you send messages unless you send your private key with it, which means that if you're not interested, you can't say thanks but no thanks, you just return their key.

 

There's one couple that has sent us their key several times, and each time we've just sent it back, because we're not interested, but I haven't blocked them because in my opinion that's only for extreme cases of pig-ignorant online behaviour.

 

Then we joined Swing Lifestyle in November. AND this same couple sent us a note on Swing Lifestyle. Now, they might not realize that we're the same couple. Fair enough. I sent back a brief but polite no thanks, happy hunting sort of note. Then they sent us another note a month later, and once again I responded politely.

 

This morning while I was cleaning out my mailbox I noticed that they had blocked us. Not that it matters, really, because we weren't interested, but it just seems to me that it's rude. Am I out of line thinking that? Would you block someone who had politely rejected you- twice?

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I think the strangest message we have ever gotten was from a couple warning us about "single" males. It was a very long message about condoms breaking, single males trying to destroy a relationship, single males being disease carriers etc. Then they wanted to know if we would be interested in letting the Husband join us for MFM. We replied and thanked them for the advice but declined their offer. The next message we got was about how STUPID we were and how we were going to end up with a nasty STD and the wife was going to be pregnant with another mans child , and they blocked us from further contact. We both laughed about it and we figure they may have once had a bad experience with a single man and felt obliged to "warn" us newbies about men before we made a mistake.

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We browse around to lots of profiles that we don't end up sending messages to for one reason or another (no attraction to the pics, didn't like the profile, preferences don't match up etc.), but we never really thought too much about it. A couple of weeks ago we got a message from someone who's profile we had looked at and never sent a message to. The message was simply:

 

"You didn't send us a message?"

 

Made me kind of chuckle. On that site you can see who's browsed your profile, but this is the first time anyone has asked why we didn't send them a message. One line messages are bad at the best of times, but this is a little over the top!

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I think I would have just responded with "Nope!". :D

 

It was hard to resist the urge to respond with something like that! My first reaction was to reply with:

 

"No message?"

 

;)

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We've got that one a couple of times. I am always too taken aback to come up with something witty.

 

On the other hand, some are too sweet to resist....

 

Hi Tony,

 

Which one of us are you talking about?

 

J&G

 

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> Sender:

> To: lv2hvefn

> Date: Jan 13, 2009 7:46 am PST

>

> Every time I see your profile and pics (pardon my forwardness) I get hard instantly. There is something about you that is very 'real' sexy and erotic looking. I would consider it a true priviledge and honour to help pleasure your wonderful body. Take care. Tony

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We got one from a single guy on SLS. Something along the lines of "Wouldn't you like to be pleasured my hard 10" dick". My response, couldn't resist:

 

Are you kidding, that's the best pickup line you've got? Sorry, didn't work.

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We got one from a single guy on Swing Lifestyle. Something along the lines of "Wouldn't you like to be pleasured my hard 10" dick". My response, couldn't resist:

 

Are you kidding, that's the best pickup line you've got? Sorry, didn't work.

 

:rofl:

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Maybe out of line???? I belive in phone sex first !!!!!!

I can tell if there from another planet....

 

SWEET! Do you speak the native tongue of Uranus? :D

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I think the strangest message we have ever gotten was from a couple warning us about "single" males. It was a very long message about condoms breaking, single males trying to destroy a relationship, single males being disease carriers etc. Then they wanted to know if we would be interested in letting the Husband join us for MFM. We replied and thanked them for the advice but declined their offer. The next message we got was about how STUPID we were and how we were going to end up with a nasty STD and the wife was going to be pregnant with another mans child , and they blocked us from further contact. We both laughed about it and we figure they may have once had a bad experience with a single man and felt obliged to "warn" us newbies about men before we made a mistake.

 

Maybe sites should start requiring an IQ test to join... wow.

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Ok got a HILARIOUS email today that made us think of this thread. So here goes:

 

"id like to park my cock in ure garage"

 

Half of me wants to ignore, other half wants to write something funny as hell back. This comes from a "couple" by the way.

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slevin said:
We browse around to lots of profiles that we don't end up sending messages to for one reason or another (no attraction to the pics, didn't like the profile, preferences don't match up etc.), but we never really thought too much about it. A couple of weeks ago we got a message from someone who's profile we had looked at and never sent a message to. The message was simply:

 

"You didn't send us a message?"

 

Made me kind of chuckle. On that site you can see who's browsed your profile, but this is the first time anyone has asked why we didn't send them a message. One line messages are bad at the best of times, but this is a little over the top!

 

Ha-ha :) A week ago we had a same situation. We had received a message from couple who's profile we looked. They writed: "We feel very hurt. You have looked our profile and did not send us a message". LOL

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We view a lot of profiles also but so far have never gotten a message like that. Some sites allow you to view other members and remain anonymous, if the site has that feature we use it.

 

"id like to park my cock in ure garage"

 

We got a similar message awhile back, maybe it was the same guy!:confused:

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Ok got a HILARIOUS email today that made us think of this thread. So here goes:

 

"id like to park my cock in ure garage"

 

What a dumbass.

 

He's supposed to say "I'd like to practice parking my cock in your garage"

(Pull in. Pull out. Pull in. Pull out. Repeat as necessary until parking is perfected)

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I think the strangest message we have ever gotten was from a couple warning us about "single" males. It was a very long message about condoms breaking, single males trying to destroy a relationship, single males being disease carriers etc. Then they wanted to know if we would be interested in letting the Husband join us for MFM. We replied and thanked them for the advice but declined their offer. The next message we got was about how STUPID we were and how we were going to end up with a nasty STD and the wife was going to be pregnant with another mans child , and they blocked us from further contact. We both laughed about it and we figure they may have once had a bad experience with a single man and felt obliged to "warn" us newbies about men before we made a mistake.

 

I'll bet they spend a lot of time wondering why they're so alone. Let me guess - they have a long diatribe on their profile about how 'this site seems to be full of flakes and fakes. Isn't there anyone for real out there?'

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"Does she play alone?"

 

From a single male, our profile says we're looking for couples only AND we don't play alone. :slam:

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I'll bet they spend a lot of time wondering why they're so alone. Let me guess - they have a long diatribe on their profile about how 'this site seems to be full of flakes and fakes. Isn't there anyone for real out there?'

 

Yes they did have a long winded profile but it was mostly about bashing single males. They were also very particular about whom they were interested in. I guess we should have felt Honored that they were interested in us.:lol:

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Yes they did have a long winded profile but it was mostly about bashing single males. They were also very particular about whom they were interested in. I guess we should have felt Honored that they were interested in us.:lol:

 

Hmmmmm... That explains why you got the poison-pen e-mail condemning you to pregnancy or a horrible STD. I mean, how dare you say 'no' to someone so selective? :rolleyes:

 

Do you get the feeling that somewhere along the line someone's daddy refused to get someone a pony for Christmas...? :lol:

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I think the strangest message we have ever gotten was from a couple warning us about "single" males. It was a very long message about condoms breaking, single males trying to destroy a relationship, single males being disease carriers etc. Then they wanted to know if we would be interested in letting the Husband join us for MFM. We replied and thanked them for the advice but declined their offer. The next message we got was about how STUPID we were and how we were going to end up with a nasty STD and the wife was going to be pregnant with another mans child , and they blocked us from further contact. We both laughed about it and we figure they may have once had a bad experience with a single man and felt obliged to "warn" us newbies about men before we made a mistake.

 

Let me translate this...couple.

 

Hi, I'm a single male who can't get any action for 'some' reason and I know most couples say 'no single males' in their profile. Therefore I will claim to be a couple, talk about how bad single males are, and tell these sex crazy idiots I'm available for a MFM.

 

To quote Shakespeare, The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

 

Only in this case the lady is a man.

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To quote Shakespeare, The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

 

Only in this case the lady is a man.

 

Quoting Shakespeare here is very appropriate as well since he often had men playing the womens roles in his plays!

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1:51 am, when we weren't even online and seeming available, we got this email from a couple we've never met and haven't chatted with in close to a year:

 

"you up for some fun right now? we are and will pay cab 1 way if you want to play with us"

 

Wonder how many they sent that out to?

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. . . we are and will pay cab 1 way if you want to play with us. . .
So you would have taken the offer if they had said they would pay the cab for a round trip? :D

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The one that will always stay in my mind is from probably 10 years ago when I was trying to set up a gangbang for myself. I was basically picking guys on looks alone (and said that upfront since I wasn't attempting to meet them all beforehand). A guy got really pissed when I turned him down and basically told me I didn't have any right to be picky, etc.

 

I think I learned two lessons from that.

 

1. When setting up a gangbang go with guys you already know. And if you don't know enough guys to do it, wait a while - you will. FWIW, that particular attempt failed miserably in that only 1 guys showed up. However, I had a great time with that one guy.

 

2. Don't give people reasons when you turn them down.

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In our profile we say something like we want a "meaningful overnight relationship" as a joke.....well one guy (who claimed to be part of a couple, but no pics or mention of his woman half...hmmmmm) went off saying nothing can be "meaningful" overnight, etc. We replied simply "if you don't get it, then we're not a match"

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I had to talk this over with Leah, we have two that qualify as worst ever.

 

One wanted me to impregnate the female half of the couple, and the other made references to our dog and what she would like to do with him. We have since removed all pic's of our pets from our profile.

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I posted that "cheater" thing..but that wasn't a response that was the first email.

 

I get a lot of "jesus how can you be so picky!" which.. I just attribute to the following: They don't fit into what I'm looking for as a partner, so they just get pissed. I don't lead people on or pretend I don't have preferences.

 

I've gotten a lot of really, stupid petty shit after talking to someone for a while and just not feeling the connection I'm looking for.. After I kindly inform them they generally freak out and it's always the same thing. "You'll never know until you give me a chance!" "You'll REGRET not sleeping with me!" "How dare you not give me a chance" ..etc etc etc..

 

Some people can't take rejection :/

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TheSwingerSet said:
I had to talk this over with Leah, we have two that qualify as worst ever.

 

One wanted me to impregnate the female half of the couple, and the other made references to our dog and what she would like to do with him. We have since removed all pic's of our pets from our profile.

 

Bestiality is just plain sick. It amazes me that some people have that fetish.

 

And I don't understand guys who want other guys to get their girls pregnant, or the girls themselves who want this. I recall seeing a post on another site by a woman who got pregnant by a gangbang and the husband who had thought that would be so hot has long since left her. Now she has a kid whose father she doesn't even know. A lifetime of problems for a little kink and excitement. So sad.

 

I can relate to the bad replies though. Before Craigslist required phone numbers and accounts (not worth it)

 

I posted two ads as a social experiment just to see what would happen. I posed as a woman in both (yes I know, not nice, shame on me, haven't done it since) and I got lots of "I'll be your best ever," "let's get nasty" and penis pictures. Not to mention the atrocious grammatical butchering. Made me embarrassed to be male.

 

I expect lots of that in the stories in this thread.

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Don't know if it qualifies as a "worst reply", but it is one we got fairly often during our time trying as a couple.

"You seem like a very nice couple, but is there any chance your Mrs. plays alone?"

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We declined a single guy's invitation and because we did so we were beneath his level of intelligence. He basically told us we were stupid to decline. I guess us Blue Collar types do not mix well with Professional types! :lol:

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This only qualifies as a reply because it was in response to our ad on a swinger site. "She like BBC?" First of all, we do not classify our play partners by race. Secondly, if your whole person is best described by a physical attribute, we have no use for you. And third, one-liners as a first contact will NEVER be viewed favorably by us.

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      Some time passed again and we talked a lot about the fun we had with it. My husband admitted he liked watching the photographer touch me and if not for that he may have been to nervous to get hard. 

      I really want this to develop further but I’m apprehensive because it’s a major change in life obviously. I’m also not sure about how I feel about seeing him with someone else. When I say I’m not sure I mean most likely not. I don’t even really think he wants to. I almost feel like if I bring that up it will be too much too fast. Multiple times when having sex we’ve dirty talked about me doing another shoot and giving myself up. I’d feel more comfortable to actually do it than talk about it. 
       
      I feel like my husband has opened a door that I want to walk into. Am I reading it wrong? Is it best for me to just set something else up and let it work itself the way it will? Based on our interactions I have no doubt the photographer would be into it also. Would I be going to far given our relationship if I reached out to the him and told him how I feel, how my husband feels, and confirm he’d say yes? 
       
       
    • By funcoupledayton
      I'm starting this thread in response to one in the curious section where the author felt a little bad because his wife wasn't sharing all her fantasies with him. He said he knows they are not ready for swinging, in part, because of this.
       
      Well, here I am, swinging with my husband for 3 years, and it's gone very well. But, I still have a private fantasy place I go to (in my mind). I tell my husband things I want to try, we talk all the time about what we like about swinging sex and our sex. But, when he watches me touch myself and then says, "What were you thinking about?" I won't tell him.
       
      I don't lie, sometimes I tell him generalities. It's not about a specific person or people, it's not anything that really could or would happen in real life. It's not anything I want to try, I just find it hot to think about. But, I would be embarrassed to tell anyone, and it would make it less hot for me if he knew about it. In a way, I like not telling him, I like having a little corner of my mind that's all mine. On the other hand I feel a little guilty, because it's really not a big deal and he would like me to tell him these fantasies in great detail and would probably find them hot, too.
       
      But, believe me, I have told him (and many of you also) all kinds of silly fantasies, because I have a ton!
       
      What do you think? Do you tell your spouse everything you think about to get off?
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