Ever run into clients, co-workers etc.?

Has anyone ever run into a client/customer, co-worker, etc. while swinging? What was the situation and how did you handle it? What was the long term effects?

Thanks!

At a swingers' club party we ran directly face-to-face with members of our synagogue. Their kids had gone to school with our kids and both my wife and the woman had worked together on committees. We realized instantly that we were all at the club for the same reason. This does not mean that we right away took them to a room for sex. We din not, in fact, make any plans for meeting them for sit-down talks for anything. We might have done so but it did not strike us as being worthwhile. They apparently felt the same as we greeted each other a few more times at the club and saw that at shul but received no "feelers". Life went on.

We were custom building a house. The builder we'd hired was a cool guy and he and his gorgeous wife were our age.

We became friends quickly, early on in the process. We'd gone to dinner together, sort of to discuss building matters. We'd had them to our home for drinks and then one evening at their home a name of a single man was mentioned by the wife of that couple. She simply mentioned him as a vanilla friend but we also knew the guy from swinging and knew the only way she must have known him was from the same way.

I figured there was no reason to beat around the bush, and in fact I was very interested in her bush, so I said that we knew the guy too and asked if she'd enjoyed him as much as my wife had.

During the rest of the construction period we played with them several times and even took a long weekend trip with them. The playing had no adverse effects on the business side and some very great memories. We, both of us couples, moved on to other folks and other things after the business side of the relationship was completed but we, and I think they too, never had any regrets.

Last summer we were at Gunnison Beach in NJ. I was standing in a small group by the water with my wife and a co-worker and her husband strolled up. There was two seconds of awkwardness and then we laughed it off and had a great day together. Ever since, we have remained great friends outside of work. A few years back, we were in the public room at a local club. My wife was with me and another guy and I noticed two of our old neighbors in the group that was watching us. We gave them quite a show and did talk to them afterwards. I think the husband least had a thing for my wife so i’m sure he enjoyed seeing her being fucked by two guys.

I use to travel with my husband when he worked trade shows. I would shop and what not all day while he worked. There was one in Tampa, we had actually gotten a hotel a couple of blocks away from the designated convention hotel to help preserve our evenings and anonymity. We were into MFM but he was encouraging me go more of the hot wife route when opportunities like this didn’t facilitate MFM. Well, I was down at the pool, a nice older gentleman stilling across from me, sent me a drink, we chatted. I told my husband about it that evening and he really encouraged me to take it further. Next day, back at the pool and Joel was there again, same thing but this time, we ended up in his room. Afterwards, I went back to my room, showered, dressed for the evening and went down to the bar. Before long, Joel came by and sat with me. Shortly there after, I get a text from my husband, asking what I’m doing with “him.” I said, exactly what you wanted me to do. Came back, that’s Mr SoAndSo, he’s my bosses, boss. Oops. I excused my self. The thing is, you just can’t undo those things.

The rest of the trip, we did most of our socializing away from that hotel and I never went to the company Christmas Party.

Seems like with the examples so far it's slightly awkward initially and then either no big deal or actively avoided.

However, I'm curious if there is anyone in the health care or education fields that have experienced this where ethics/etc. might come into play?

Thanks

When we were stationed in germany, we ran into a young lady in my husbands unit. we had a great relationship with her after that.

On 3/10/2019 at 6:31 PM, Emt said:

Seems like with the examples so far it's slightly awkward initially and then either no big deal or actively avoided.

 

However, I'm curious if there is anyone in the health care or education fields that have experienced this where ethics/etc. might come into play?

 

Thanks

Why would ethics come into play? As long as you are not sharing medical information or endangering people then I do not see an ethical issue.

We ran into a man and his wife at a tantric/swingers’ retreat in Florida. I knew him from my profession.  We were both shocked, but we got over it and when we saw each other back in our home state, he gave me a bro hug and we had a secret bond.

We decided not to consider playing with them. We saw it as a conflict of interest and too close to home. Not sure if they had an interest, either. Best to not go there. 

16 hours ago, SnakeCat said:

Why would ethics come into play? As long as you are not sharing medical information or endangering people then I do not see an ethical issue.

The problem arises with professional boundaries. There are rules that are in place to protect both clinician and patient. Same thing goes with professor and trainee (or senior/junior professor) -- power and authority is imbalanced. 

16 hours ago, njbm said:

We ran into a man and his wife at a tantric/swingers’ retreat in Florida. I knew him from my profession.  We were both shocked, but we got over it and when we saw each other back in our home state, he gave me a bro hug and we had a secret bond.

 

We decided not to consider playing with them. We saw it as a conflict of interest and too close to home. Not sure if they had an interest, either. Best to not go there. 

The other gentleman and I are both of Jewish heritage. When I saw him from a distance, I closed in, approached him and I said “ Excuse me, is this the Goldberg Bar Mitzvah?” He was really shocked. The tantric instructor, who I advised on this situation, said that didn’t go over well. We all got used to it. We always look at it as we’re here, they’re here, we won’t out them, hope they have the same discretion. 

Years ago we were at a house party where one couple arrived late, we were already naked and they joined right it after the fun we got dressed and were having a drink with everyone when when my wife said to the wife "we know you."  "To which she replied your husband certainly does", to which the two women looked at each other again and both said at the same time, "Band Parents Right".

SAMnTINA, one time...at band camp.....(sorry. I saw the post about Band parents, and my mind went there )

Years ago we were invited to Alan’s business associate’s home for a party. I was upset that Alan shared our private life with anyone and then agreed to go. The reason they talked was the were talking about Hedonism and Alan figured they to be into swinging. 

We have also run into parents of our kids friends and other people we know in our life. They do say that the world is small and you are bound to meet someone you know even in just normal circumstances 

No, but the opposite has happened ... have run into two couples we know through the LS out in public.

I once ran into a woman from our nudist club in Staples. I did not recognize her with her clothes on. I knew that I knew her from somewhere...I was in my forties, so it wasn’t senility. 

Currently playing with an ex employee and her husband, while she worked for us they knew about us we knew about them but, only lust was permitted. Once she left for another job we were able to get together for some naked fun which we repeat often.

On 1/22/2021 at 7:44 AM, Fundamental Law said:

The problem arises with professional boundaries. There are rules that are in place to protect both clinician and patient. Same thing goes with professor and trainee (or senior/junior professor) -- power and authority is imbalanced. 

We went 3 time zones away to join our swinger club just to avoid this possibility. Actually when we first became nudists 30 years or so ago we did that too although we eventually went to nudist venues in state. I encountered a family with a boy on the high school football team for which I was team Doc who were members at one of the local resorts. They were discreet, something that can't always be counted on. We still fly cross country to swing, never local.

How bout a cousins husband? 
We fuck with dudes that are set up for us by someone who watches and we never know who it’s goin to be til we get there. Could be another girl or a pair sometimes. 
Many times it’s guys or girls we knew from school and it doesn’t stop us we are there for the same reason. 
Honey has a cousin she grew up being best of friends with, she lives not from us not knowing we do what we do. The man who watches her fuck says he has a date for her and she showed up without me that day. Her cousins husband. 

On two separate occasions I ran into one of my yoga students at a club. Smiled, nodded and kept on with our evenings. Now we share a sexy secret about each other. A third student busted me when she asked where we were staying in Cancun. When I didn't have a quick answer she said "You're going to Desire, aren't you?"

Have met someone in the lifestyle I worked with. Have not played bu that was just because we never got around to it

Auckland is only about 1.5 million people, entire New Zealand is close to 5 million, on top of that, we exclusively play with people of similar age, so our niche in the market is very small, naturally, we have run into people we know, either online, in a party or swinger club.

We are very relaxed about it, we usually are the first to engage, we go to them and say hi, we do not allow the situation to become awkward, we are there to have fun (and they too) the earlier we tackle the situation the better for everybody.