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Just wondering if you ever discovered that someone you knew was into this lifestyle? Maybe you saw them at an event, or saw their pic on a website. Were you shocked? Were they equally shocked about you?

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Has happened to us on three different occasions over seven years. Any surprise is temporary. I do believe that for anybody who goes at it long enough, it is inevitable.

 

Do you have a particular reason for asking? Has it happened to you? Do you expect it might? Are you having concerns that it might?

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Just curious. I am so paranoid about getting discovered and always wonder if someone I know might be doing the same thing, which would be a pleasant surprise. When I send facial pics of us I always hope they don't recognize us!

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We have had it happen many times. It's always a nice supprise to know that someone from vanilla life is just like us.

 

We never have worried about running into people we know, they are there for the same reasons we are.

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Yes, three times we ran into people from work at the club and when we first started, a guy I had dated in high school and his wife were there...we swapped with them:) Our first separate room adventure!

 

It is a concern, it does happen, it's all in how you handle it. For us, we walked right up and said 'hello', shared a drink, then went about our business. We're consenting adults and though it's not mainstream it's not illegal:) We will sometimes not share face pictures first if the people are local to us, that way if we recognize them we can stop contact...that's never happened though!

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Many times. We've had people that we knew from regular life contact us and tell us they saw our profile on SLS. I had one couple that we had wondered about, never told us they were swingers, but when they pulled their profile off of SLS they messaged us on Facebook and told us they'd done so. Finally confirming our thoughts. Ran into one guy that my husband and I both knew from different times at a party. We just pulled him aside and faced it upfront, rather than worrying about it.

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When we first started swinging, a search for people in our area showed our neighbors down the street. We had been friends with them for years but were not aware of their activities. I sent them an email on the site but apparently they did not use that site much, so my wife called them. Not sure how surprised they were. We've never played with them but see them here and there at a few local l/s clubs.

 

Another couple we ran into at a party, and after talking for a bit I realized he was talking about people we knew 30 years ago. Turns out they were good friends of friends and we had met them long ago.

 

What's even stranger is when you have l/s friends on facebook and see mutual vanilla friends and/or their kids are friends with our kids on facebook. Once l/s friend who lives a few hours away is a friend of my wife's cousin (who also lives a few hours away).

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We've run into people we know several times. The most recent is a woman who works in the same office and now we've become best friends. We're avoiding crossing into a sexual relationship because we really value this type of special friendship.

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It has happened to us a few times too with work colleagues and people we knew at our golf club. We were not so much shocked as surprised because we had no idea they were into the lifestyle nor did they suspect that we were too. There was a moment of embarrassment each time but only until we all realized we were there for the same reason. Then we relaxed and carried on with the party. We played with some of them over the years which further cemented the friendships we already had.

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Does figuring out after you have all been naked and had lots of sex, right after you get dressed that the people your were just fucking are also band parents count?

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Does figuring out after you have all been naked and had lots of sex, right after you get dressed that the people your were just fucking are also band parents count?

 

It most certainly does. And that's a great story. I'm just trying to imagine the scene.

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Does figuring out after you have all been naked and had lots of sex, right after you get dressed that the people your were just fucking are also band parents count?

 

This one time...at band camp...

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Does figuring out after you have all been naked and had lots of sex, right after you get dressed that the people your were just fucking are also band parents count?

 

That's some story!! So funny!

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This one time...at band camp...

 

Hysterical!! So funny, we just watched that movie last weekend.

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I have yet to see anyone I know, and I don't know if this is the right thread for this but... When I was half of a couple, we went grocery shopping and one of the managers at the store was on SLS. While we were working up the courage to approach him and introduce ourselves, he spots me and comes up and says, "Hey, I think I know you." I start blushing and discreetly tell him we know him from "online". He knew immediately what I was talking about. We never hooked up, but I was always sure to check him out when I went shopping ;)

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I have yet to see anyone I know, and I don't know if this is the right thread for this but... When I was half of a couple, we went grocery shopping and one of the managers at the store was on SLS. . .

 

Happened to us in reverse. We were in a restaurant that is just down the road. Two people who had been sitting at the bar came over and asked, "are you members of 'that Web site?' "

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Happened to us in reverse. We were in a restaurant that is just down the road. Two people who had been sitting at the bar came over and asked, "are you members of 'that Web site?' "

 

HAHA that's awesome! The way I look at it is if anyone recognizes me, just come up and say so! Even if I'm/they're not interested sexually. I live in a relatively small town and feel like a bit of a "swinger outsider".

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. . . The way I look at it is if anyone recognizes me, just come up and say so. . .
We feel fortunate that we have no need to hide what we do or whom we are. We appreciate the fact that not everybody can afford this luxury. I'm glad you feel free to expose yourself in a similar way.

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One of the first times Dave and I went to meet and greet, we were met there by my first boyfriends sister. We dated in high school (over 30 years ago) and his sister was a good friend of mine back then. It really did kinda freak me out the first time I saw her.

 

Of course, she is one of my favorite hostess now at LS parties. Her and her husband are wonderful, giving people who are leaders in our LS community. I often wonder if her brother knows of her LS choice, because we've started talking again... Not really getting too personal, but just wondering. :)

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I actually met my husbands boss for the first time at one of our local clubs :eek: Talk about an awkward situation when we had a company picnic the following weekend..Told about a funny introduction to my husbands boss that day...:lol:

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I think it would be great to find friends that are in the lifestyle.

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My sister is the one who got Mrs Jiggly interested in the lifestyle. We do attend events at the same time and are very respectful of each others space. Usually the spouses act as spotters so we don't walk in on the other one although it has happened. We have become very comfortable with it. We are two years apart in age but we have messed with some people and said we are twins.

 

I'm sure there are some who would consider it very creepy but its not a big deal for us.

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We have run into two couples we knew. One we discovered online and live right down the street. We were pretty good friends, though life circumstances (I was doing a masters degree) slowed our get togethers. We were not surprised, lol. I sent them an email on one of the swing sites they were on but they never responded. My wife finally called and said you don't read your email, hehe. They did not use that site much anymore. We've never played but do hang out socially in l/s settings from time to time.

 

Another time we were at a large house party (actually a barn turned into a house) and we were talking to a couple. I was talking to the male half, life history, etc. And somehow he started talking about some things that brought back items from the cobwebs of my memory. Turns out we had known them through close friends, 30 years before. We got a laugh out of that. We've never played, just no chemistry but do see them from time to time out and about at l/s clubs and m&gs.

 

My wife has seen a somewhat co-worker (wife is in L&D and co-worker in neonatal care so no real interaction) online. Based on the fact that she avoids my wife we figure she has seen our profile as well.

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The only time this happened to us was at an on-premise club and the wife ran into someone she used to work with. It was both awkward and funny in a way to know that two people could work together for a good amount of time and neither knew about the other's shared secret life. Although according to Mrs. Fours it really didn't surprise her in retrospect since this woman had the characteristics of someone outrageous, party-loving and talked more freely about sex. Since she was the opposite of the goody-two-shoes that Mrs. Fours came across at work, it was likely far more a revelation to this woman then the reverse.

 

Since Mrs. Fours felt this woman loved to gossip and likely wouldn't have a problem at her secret being revealed at the expense of giving aware Mrs. Fours, the only saving grace was the fact they no longer worked together. Still, during the rest of the time Mrs. Fours was employed with that job, she still had the concern this woman might have spoken to someone else she knew still working there and told them and was worried what would her co-workers think of her. This made for an uncomfortable last year there, however unlikely anyone else knew.

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