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What does "no kids/children" mean in swinger profiles?

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Just wondering what "no kids/children" means when listed in swinger profiles? We couldn't find it in any of the glossary listings.

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I would guess that they don't have kids and/or children ...

 

Or, they don't want to play with kids around ... believe it or not, we've heard stories of kids being around with adult fun going on. That gives me the TOTAL yuck factor!

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I too would say they have no kids to work around.

 

People with kids have tighter schedules and things pop up and plans change. I guess, if you have no kids it is a drawing factor because less issues with last minute cancellations.

 

As for the idea that they would not play with kids around, I would hope that would be a no-brainer, but like havinfuninsun said, some people don't use common sense. :nono:

 

I think havinfun, you made the understatement of the day. TOTAL YUCK FACTOR, to say the least. :mad:

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I take it to mean they don't want to play with parents. I've read some profiles that are a lot more blatant. Something like "we don't have kids and aren't interested in people who do. We don't want to talk about little junior's activities!" As a parent of 3 and yet still VERY much a woman who can leave ALL the mom stuff and conversation behind to have adult fun with my husband and/or other adults, I resent statements like that. BUT at least I know that if someone is that narrow minded about the kind of fun they could have with us based on the fact that a separate part of our lives differs from theirs, I really am not interested in them anyway. Movin' right along. :)

 

We have in our profile that we are parents but get along with the "kidless" just as well. To show that we can find enough common ground in either crowd. To me, whether or not you are a parent has almost nothing to do with sexual compatibility.

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I've seen this too and like havefuninsun said, I'm guessing it means that the couple has no children/child. As others has said too, it is called adult fun not adult fun plus children. I do not play with my children around and find it yucky :lol: or inconvenient to have children around. We have been contacted by people wanting to play with their children at home and we just reply with a no thank you.

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believe it or not, we've heard stories of kids being around with adult fun going on.

Depending on the age of your children, there's also the "adults being around with kid fun going on"...

Daddy finds this "yucky" as well.... :eek:

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How was it used in the profile? Was it just that stated on its own or was it within the context of something else?

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Guest troubadour

You can't rule out the possibility that they simply don't like to be around children or small goats.

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I think it depends on the context in which the statement was written. In my profile it states that I prefer to play with couples who do not have children at home. Not to say that I wouldn't play with them if they have children, however if they do, I would never want to meet the children and would not want to play while the children are in the home. It may sound selfish, however, I don't have any children and my expectations are to be with a couple who is as flexible with their schedule as I am with mine. With children at home, the parents have a lot to work around and a person like myself has to be understanding about cancelled play dates. Not that people without children never cancel but they normally have more options of when they can play, travel, etc. And lets face it, some kids are just brats and for someone who doesn't spend a lot of time around kids, that can be a real turn-off.

 

Now, some people list children in their dislikes right along with potty games and anal. I think that means they don't want to wind up with some twisted pervert who may be into activities involving minors.

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sexychoclit said:

Now, some people list children in their dislikes right along with potty games and anal. I think that means they don't want to wind up with some twisted pervert who may be into activities involving minors.

 

This is how we usually see it posted, in the dislikes. I can't see who would actually WANT this, :eek: which is the reason for the question to begin with. We had a suspicion that this is what it meant, but wanted other opinions in case we were reading too much into it. Thanks!

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OR, they are talking about maturity level. I have met some people who act more childish then my own kids. :lol: But I doubt that is it.

 

Or they don't want to have kids with you or any other swinger.

 

It is hard to say, I have seen and heard some pretty strange things since getting into the lifestyle not much is going to shock me anymore...gross me out, yes, but not shock.

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You might want to ask the person who wrote that, we can all just guess.

 

We've seen it many times in many profiles, so we thought there was some "standard" meaning to it, that's all....rather than asking everyone what they mean by that.

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I have to wonder, with so many people posting what should be obvious... has anyone encountered playmates who want to include children in their activities??

 

Personally I think it's one of those overused phrases, and that people just include it to make themselves look and feel more respectable. I don't think it works. I think it just brings to mind a very icky image in a space you're trying to use to entice people -- counterproductive.

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We've seen it many times in many profiles, so we thought there was some "standard" meaning to it, that's all....rather than asking everyone what they mean by that.

 

Most of the time we've seen it in profiles, the couple is saying that they don't have children, so getting together is easier for them than for some others. (They've probably been frustrated a time or two by trying to get together with people who are always cancelling because they can't get a sitter, or who need 2 weeks' notice just to have dinner.) Sometimes, they're stating it to share that with the right people, they can host at their place because there aren't any kids at home.

 

We're getting pretty close to being empty nesters. I could see us saying something along those lines when that day comes. When the nest is empty, the party is really going to get started. ;)

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I suspect it's  in the what-we-won't-do category: No kids (or minors), no poop, no animals, etc etc.

 

We avoid statements like that, because it's so obvious, and 99.99% of swingers probably aren't messing with any of those things, either! ::P:

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The Fuse said:
I have to wonder, with so many people posting what should be obvious.... has anyone encountered playmates who want to include children in their activities??

 

Kinda...not really, :confused:

 

I guess you need to decide on this one.

 

We met a couple over the internet and we all wanted to meet.

 

Fine, great. But I couldn't that weekend because it was my weekend with the kids. She says, "that's fine bring them along. We can go to McDonalds and the kids can play in the playroom while we talk".

 

She said that it is not like we are talking about sex or having sex or anything.

 

See here is where maybe I am overly protective...or maybe just the right kind of protective.

 

I could not do it. It was wrong on many levels. These were not people we were meeting that are friends and nothing more. My kids may have been clueless about the whole situation, but it didn't sit right with me.

 

So like I said, Kinda, maybe, not really.

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I've talked to more than one couple recently who lock their kids in their room while they invite playmates over. :eek: This just bugs the hell outta me.

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Here is a situation that we ran into and maybe it fits in somehow here. Yes we knew a couple that had children at home, they like to entertain at home and we did have dinner and late nite play, after the small children had gone to bed :o . Now that is where things changed for us, it did bother us so much after that evening/late morning that we really aren't comfortable with this :o . Nothing against them or anyone for that matter with kids we have them too... it is just not comfortable for us :nono: It took away from the pleasure... fearing that the worst could happen. Our kids are grown, so we can entertain at home, or a hotel for that matter.

 

Our rules have been set. If ya want to play with us, it's at our house, a hotel, a club, or even on a boat with no kids, but we just can't feel comfy waiting on the kids to fall asleep.

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Glad you asked the question. I thought it meant they did not want to play with people who have kids. We have them, but like someone else said here I keep my family life and my swing life separate. Something not sexy about talking about your kids with people you want to play with.

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Our rules have been set. If ya want to play with us, it's at our house, a hotel, a club, or even on a boat with no kids, but we just can't feel comfy waiting on the kids to fall asleep.

 

Pretty much the way we feel... :eek:

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I could not do it. It was wrong on many levels. These were not people we were meeting that are friends and nothing more. My kids may have been clueless about the whole situation, but it didn't sit right with me.

 

We once heard that a couple stopped seeing us because we "hated children." This was a pretty ridiculous statement honestly, since we have kids of our own and one grandchild who we love dearly. BUT - we got into swinging so we could be sexually open with others - not so we could attend "baby's first birthday".

 

We can be exceptionally vanilla around our swing friends when we need to - but we have found that people who combine their kids with their swing friends do it far too often. And in our experience, they end up either flirting or making comments that make us cringe. I am sure this is one of those "luck of the draw" things for us - and there are surely people out there who combine playmates with their children being around quite well. We just haven't met them. Kids are a part of life - and our best friends in the lifestyle, we care deeply about them and their families.

 

But, like you, Prettylady, I think it just makes is easier and far more comfortable to say "no" to anything that involves kids. If schedules clash and plans fall apart because of kids - make new plans.

 

What made us feel this way? We had one couple, though, that everything became a date with them and their kids... And a night of holding one's tongue gets old quickly.

 

That said - when I have been around the kids of our playmates (early on in the lifestyle, before we learned that it made us uncomfortable) I was always the one who ended up in the back yard or down playing air hockey. I'm pretty much just a big kid myself.

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