Pissed off while making plans to meet

Seems we have pissed off a couple or two last week in regard potential Meet & Greets.

We'd been chatting with two couples for the past month or two & discussing the opportunities of a meet up for coffee of drinks etc.

We'd made it quite clear what weekends we'd have free for upcoming months and pointed out that this weekend just gone whilst marked as a children free week was a tentative one for a get together with others of our friends, pending each others plans.

Most people we meet are a few hours away, just how it is up here.

So Monday before the weekend, 1st couple says "You Guys don't have the Kids this week. We might come for a drive up & meet on the weekend", (They're about 3 hours away).

We reply we can't confirm what our friend plans are till Wednesday, and would probably not be free if they came for the visit.

That drew a blunt reply of "Ok we will forget about it", followed by "We know them" and stated their occupation and where they lived, none of which is characteristic of their other messages. In our small world they only need to put a few things together from ours & our friends profiles to work out who's seeing who.

We didn't confirm their comments on who we had visiting, just left it at that.

We think our communications were appropriate and that maybe if they take that type of attitude they may not really be our types anyway.

MrsZ and I did wonder whether we should have discussed a meet for all parties.

The other couple were aware we were expecting friends for the weekend, and were in touch with our friends too, hoping for a catch-up with them if they were free. When they informed them they were away meeting friends for the weekend, we think they also put two and two together and gave up communications with both couples.

Wondering if these two examples are both indicator that they don't really know how things work and are not the sort of people we are into.

We know another couple we've met & chat with regularly, haven't been able to both co-ordinate a play date yet.

They often mention that this weekends out because they already have plans, our feelings are good on them, & wish them a good time.

We'll get our plans together eventually & have a get together, but we don't feel pissed off or get the shits that they have other options in life.

Think we have all the right attitudes? Don't we?

Sounds like a group meet is in order. I think you would want a few more couples to help round things out.

This is a first time meet and greet right?

I mean they obviously feel a bit slighted that you are not on their priority list. People get funny like that. It's why we have a hard time with any online meet and greet stuff like that too much drama.

Not sure how many opportunities you have for the online world where your at. If it's better to have thicker skin than them, or blow them off and move on the next couple. I know where we are we would just move on to the next couple.

We never really give details regarding other plans either (you know, when we have kids, when we are working, etc.). We just say we are either bree or busy or we'll get back to you. It ca make things kinda tricky, but it avoids drama.

Sounds like they did you a favor by letting you know that they included, free at no charge, a surprise dose of drama if anything else had happened. If we are unavailable, FOR ANY REASON, we just say that we have plans (or in this case, MAY have plans and we would get back with them later once we knew for sure) and leave it at that. If a couple is acting like this, then it's probably not a couple that you want to be with.

We look at this as a hobby, something we do for fun, but also something that we enjoy doing with other couples. If it ever becomes where it isn't fun, then we have to look at either stopping what we are doing or stopping with seeing the other couple. Drama is for daytime TV...

So did you see anyone last weekend?

Sounds like a group meet is in order. I think you would want a few more couples to help round things out.

Probably end up being the case with couple two, the ones that chat to both us & our friends. They have been back in touch & seem cool.

They did mention we my all get together some day.

Besides, similar personalities will attract.

Couple one might not be our scene, Mr could be all about notches on bed posts, something we won't be.

Seems he has an interest in increasing his score more so than just meeting people for good times.

We never find any need to report our "Statistic" to others on how often & how many plays we've had.

That seemed to be an important feather in Mr's hat.

This is a first time meet and greet right?

Yes first face to face, have chatted on the phone.

I mean they obviously feel a bit slighted that you are not on their priority list.

Probably the case with Couple 1, slightly pissed off.

In hindsight, Couple 2 just seem to have accepted we were actually busy.

Still keen to meet up sometime.

Not sure how many opportunities you have for the online world where your at. If it's better to have thicker skin than them, or blow them off and move on the next couple. I know where we are we would just move on to the next couple.

Distance is an issue living in rural areas, as is the case with all parties concerned.

Some are very understanding about that, others less so.

All current play friends are between 1 & 4 hours away, so distance is considerable.

We never really give details regarding other plans either (you know, when we have kids, when we are working, etc.). We just say we are either bree or busy or we'll get back to you. It can make things kinda tricky, but it avoids drama.

We just try to basically try & indicate our free time, and avoid saying we are busy with a play in all but this case.