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    Default What attracts you to a partner at a house party?

    My husband and I have attended a number of house parties in the past year. To my husband all of the people are new to him. For me I knew many of them in college and others are friends of friends. Not everyone is the perfect body. We have small, tall, overweight and underweight, multi races and guys and girls with all different shapes. It seems everyone finds someone at the parties if they want to.
    Does size matter? It does and it doesn’t to me. My husband is wonderful but I would never say he is endowed. In my pre swinging experience I had been with guys and never made a big deal over size. Laughingly I can say I never met one too small though I have been impressed by what I say are perfect ones. I have never been in a situation where I said holy shit, too big.
    At some of our parties there have been a few guys that are large. I know I am not the only one to notice. Even the guys joke about it. Yes the girls talk. I am attracted out of curiosity not attraction.


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    Swingers Board Addict adamgunn's Avatar
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    A very interesting question. Being a guy, I can’t talk about seeing the size of another guy at a party, that would have been for my wife. I will say that the guys she was attracted to (other than the one gang bang she participated in,) were usually clothed before she decided to go with them. So, unless she had x-ray eyes, it couldn’t have been their tool size that was the determining factor.

    For me, it is usually a flirtatious manner that attracts me. Oh, physical attributes such as pleasing breast shape or a great ass will provide a certain bump, but that’s not the all of it. Let me tell you a story that illustrates my point.

    We arrived at one party, fashionably late. We only knew one other couple there, out of a crowd of thirty or so. We entered the kitchen and a woman who was dressed in a floor length lace gown approached me. She said, “I’m the inspector. Ready to be inspected?” I agreed and she then flowed to me, kissed me passionately. After thirty seconds or so we broke and she declared, “Oh, you definitely pass.” Then she walked away, giving me a glance over her shoulder. She was mildly attractive, but not a knockout by anyone’s standards. For the next hour, while the party was warming up, I kept seeing her give me the eye from time to time. Not that I was the only one, she was flirting with other men simultaneously. Later I made a point of looking her up, and as I fondly remember, she gave me a wonderful time that night! Had she not teased me the way she did, I’m sure I would have passed her over.

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    I want to see and feel absolute, total respect. Without it I won't ever relax enough to enjoy sex. It is an immediate bonus if that respect extends to my husband, whether he's present or not.

    Then I want to see the confidence and passion in his eyes.

    Physical appearance matters, but it's not the deciding factor, whereas attitude and good manners are.

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    We are both--unabashedly--sapiosexual. We look to see how people present themselves (visually). Yet our interest depends on intelligence, discourse, and respect.

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    Mainly: politeness, respect, friendliness, intelligence.
    Secondary: handsomeness, penis size.

    Physically I'm not too fussy now, I was when I was younger. But if had sex with old, young, and fat, as well as men with amazing bodies. It's not really that important. But if I get a free choice a handsome, 6ft+, muscular man with an extremely big cock will immediately get me.

    I can be a sucker for taking pity on men getting left out if they're shy, or embarrassed, or getting ignored. If they're a nice person I'll try and go to them. I remember one event I went to there was a man in his 80s watching. He was really sweet, such a nice man, I asked why he wasn't joining in and he replied no women has shown interest in him for years and he was happy watching. I took him to a private room and said he could do anything he liked to me.

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    What we would look for changes. We started swinging looking for bisexual women. We also like being with new to the LS couples. Looks do Count initially. My wife doesn’t seek out a big penis but I do like to see her handle one. We don’t care for guys who flaunt.

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    Certainly, a big influencer here is the nature of the party. I mean, if everyone is standing around fully dressed, then my interests are based more on whether he or they are good conversationalists, do they have a sense of humor and enjoyment, their appearance more in terms of hygiene and style. If we are all naked, then physique might get more consideration, maybe size bit but with size, you just never know. We once chatted with a guy a the nude dunes for two days. I would have sworn that he was a few inches taller, a bit slimmer than hubby but their tools were similar in size. But, when we had an MFM with that guy, his growth at excitement was way more than I expected, so you just never know.

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    Speaking for my wife... same with her. I am "average" TBH, take care of myself and my body and she does as well. It is like sparks... sometimes you find something in common with people, maybe travel, business, sports... etc. Not like Playboy TVs Swingers... shy people interested in a big dick. Look I have played sports my entire life and have seen 1000s of guys naked. Yeah the most well hung have this aura about them. My wife has commented shyfully about some guys with the horse dick. I often worried... that if she were with this guy with the huge cock will she enjoy me? the answer is yes... because the sex between us is different than pleasure only.
    Quote Originally Posted by PSULioness View Post
    My husband and I have attended a number of house parties in the past year. To my husband all of the people are new to him. For me I knew many of them in college and others are friends of friends. Not everyone is the perfect body. We have small, tall, overweight and underweight, multi races and guys and girls with all different shapes. It seems everyone finds someone at the parties if they want to.
    Does size matter? It does and it doesn’t to me. My husband is wonderful but I would never say he is endowed. In my pre swinging experience I had been with guys and never made a big deal over size. Laughingly I can say I never met one too small though I have been impressed by what I say are perfect ones. I have never been in a situation where I said holy shit, too big.
    At some of our parties there have been a few guys that are large. I know I am not the only one to notice. Even the guys joke about it. Yes the girls talk. I am attracted out of curiosity not attraction.

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    Default Re: What attracts you to a partner at a house party?

    Any woman who wears a smile as I approach will receive my complete attention. Any woman who approaches me while wearing a smile will instantly become the most attractive woman at the party.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Fi86 View Post
    one event I went to there was a man in his 80s watching. He was really sweet, such a nice man, I asked why he wasn't joining in and he replied no women has shown interest in him for years and he was happy watching. I took him to a private room and said he could do anything he liked to me.
    You got my curiosity up, what did he do?


    I had a lover for about a year who made a point of telling me on one occasion that I could do anything that I wanted to her. It made me just try harder to please her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Numex View Post
    You got my curiosity up, what did he do?


    I had a lover for about a year who made a point of telling me on one occasion that I could do anything that I wanted to her. It made me just try harder to please her.
    Spent a long time kissing me neck breasts and playing with them. I then gave him a very lengthy blowjob (it took him a long time to get hard) while he fingered my bum. He warned me he was going to cum so I got on top so he finished inside me (I hate CIM).

    We still see each other on occasion. He jokes I'm still his girlfriend lol.

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    LOL PSU

    Now how does that conversation go with your husband

    Hey babe you know how i would never say your endowed - well guess what i just seem and big cock over there and you should hear what the girls say - i want to try it out because I'm curios - i not attracted to it erh him.

    But i get what your saying to a point - i like redheads with mid sized boobs and short around say 5'2, have a lest some v control so she can still feel sung when i'm in her and lastly she has to be able swallow and drench the bed when she comes!

    Thank god i have been with her for over 30 years lol.

    To us we already have what we want so all people has something to offer and the snugness or big cock is last on our lists.

    lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by luvin eye full View Post
    LOL PSU

    Now how does that conversation go with your husband

    Hey babe you know how i would never say your endowed - well guess what i just seem and big cock over there and you should hear what the girls say - i want to try it out because I'm curios - i not attracted to it erh him.

    But i get what your saying to a point - i like redheads with mid sized boobs and short around say 5'2, have a lest some v control so she can still feel sung when i'm in her and lastly she has to be able swallow and drench the bed when she comes!

    Thank god i have been with her for over 30 years lol.

    To us we already have what we want so all people has something to offer and the snugness or big cock is last on our lists.

    lol
    Hi luvin

    If you knew me you would know I have plenty in common with my husband when it comes to what attracts me at the parties we have gone to. What got me into this is I found I enjoy more than just men. I don't think I would have ever gotten involved in this if it weren't for something that happened between me and a girlfriend. Not denying I am having fun with the guys too and of course I look at them and there has to be some attraction. That being said, like you I am quite satisfied with my spouse, my husband. I still can't believe we are married and he has gone along with what I started. At the parties I think I know what my husband is physically attracted to. After being to a number of these parties I can say I enjoy being with him and someone we both are attracted to. I know he isn't attracted to big boobs, or big girls. There is a red head that we had some fun with. I am sure if your wife was closer to our age we would be attracted to her as well.
    My husband and I do talk after the parties. Most of the parties are nearer to my former school and is a big drive home. We have plenty of time to talk. He also doesn't know the people as well as I do, socially. We sometimes have to refer to the people by their attributes but he is finally getting to know names. During our trip we get pretty raunchy describing things. We call things what we would normally call things, pussy, cock, tits, ass, balls. We fuck, suck and cum. We have hours to go over the people we came in contact with. Like penises, vaginas come in different sizes too as you know. There is the friend we have played with that my husband calls cutie puss. I agree that she has what I call a perfect one. Even her clitoris is perfect,we call her the perfect clit. He says she is small inside, he would know better than me.He has also told me that she is tighter than me. It doesn't bother me. We both know her mouth skills are pretty good. He does say mine are better, We thank you Hun, I say sarcastically. I do know some of the girls seem to be bigger just by other things that tell me so.
    I have learned an expression about showers and growers. I think I knew that all along, some guys just grow more than others. Of course my husband really doesn't come too close to the dicks but he sees all the guys either soft or erect getting busy. You can't miss the ones that are large. He has seen me with many sizes. One guy is pretty big. I mean really big. Bigger than any toy I might have. I had talks with my friends that have been with him. I had stayed away, maybe from fear or maybe attitude. My friends say he is a sweetheart and he is fun. My husband told me I should go and see what he is like, only if I wanted to. I still haven't.
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    Psulioness
    I love your honesty and that you really do talk to your husband. Every person you meet is unique and are attractive in their own way. Every pot has a cover

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