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    Default How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    I will admit that this question derives from a conversation that I saw at a different social media Web site. But I believe that it is a worthwhile question, so here it is.

    For any of you who attend private house parties as a couple, does the presence of a single man or single men at a house party make you uncomfortable? I have my own feeling about this but will keep them to myself for the present so this conversation can be open.
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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    If the preannounced theme is gangbang or multiple men party, ok. Otherwise, it's ok if there are an equal number of single women. I just don't want a line of guys doing my wife while I have nothing (no one) to do.

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    Well, our house party experience is limited, so speaking mostly hypothetically here. I think it would all depend on the number involved, and then the behavior of those making up that number. Since we're mainly looking for couples, but wouldn't totally rule out a MFM threesome just because, then if there are some single guys there, then ok, as long as the relative proportion is right to keep it sort of an icing on the cake type of thing. The next thing then is those single guys need to be respectful and not just going around perving and making a nuisance of themselves. So, I guess the answer is it depends.

    Like njbm said, if the theme of the party lends itself to single men, well then sure, that's to be expected.
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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    We gave up on attending parties, clubs, and events that allow single males. Too many negative experiences. All with the same few themes.
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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    It depends entirely oh how honestly it is announced. If announced as a couples party, it should be couples. If it is announced as couples plus a few, that is fine. We actually think the addition of a few extra males, perhaps half or so the number of couples, can be a good idea.

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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    Our favorite house party is one that allows a fair number of single guys. Since the ladies can generally play more than us guys can, it doesn't seem all that "unbalanced", though the women are definitely busy! It helps that this is a crowd who mostly know each other well, so we're kinda mostly past the annoying stalker guy problems. The host, himself a single guy, tends to select attendees who are cool, friendly, and respectful people. I admit that things can sometimes be a little bit "competitive" for guys, but I am usually able to have plenty of fun.

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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    I think it really depends on the house party. Is this a an established house party and your first time going?? Is it a new house party you are attending and don't know but one couple who invited you??? Was this a house party on a web site you are trying for the first time. Are you hosting the party with a group of usual friends from a club??? So many types of house parties so many ways to answer.
    As for Us we don't mind 1 or 2 singles for every 4 or 5 couples. We don't want to be at a house party where the wife is the only one who is part of a couple with all men. Well maybe she does. But as long as the numbers are not more singles to couples and they understand they are to be real gentleman than not a issue.

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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    To us, a house party is not the same as an on premises club. We no longer go to house parties where we don't know (or have a recommendation) the host couple. If we know the host couple, then generally we know some of their friends as well and don't have a problem at all with the stray extra male. The unihorns in large house parties tend to behave like a glutton at an all you can eat night at Golden Coral, which is the primary reason we no longer go to those types of parties or golden coral for that matter!

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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    Quote Originally Posted by padoc View Post
    . . . we no longer go to those types of parties or golden coral for that matter!
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    Now, as promised, you will read my current feeling on this matter. For the house parties that my wife and I were hosting, we gladly left the sign-up list open. Then at about mid summer, the whole scheme backfired. One married guy who had signed up using his couples profile arrived not in the company of his wife -- "I didn't think you'd mind." Another not-quite-married guy checked his smart phone every five minutes (during those periods when he was not chasing my wife around the table) with the words "she said she'd meet me here" on his lips. A single guy, whom we'd diplomatically warned that there were not many gals signed up, came anyway. Until about 10 pm, my wife was the only female in the house. The next day, we said to each other, "we ain't doin' this again."

    I like to defend my gender. But this was, I fear, a demonstration of the lesser angels of men's natures. It seems (I will include myself in this) that a woman is needed to keep an honest man honest. I might ask if it is also true that a man is needed to keep an honest woman honest.
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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    We've hosted several parties. Usually we just invite couples. If someone is not able to bring their spouse we are ok with them coming, usually it's the woman, actually.

    It was really funny, once I invited a single guy who I liked and who had attended several of our meet and greet events. I also knew that a couple who was coming played with him. He was a nervous wreck at the party because he was the only single guy. I tried to get him to get him to swim with us and he wouldn't. He left early and we (and our friends who knew him better) never heard from him again!

    I think if you know and trust someone it is fine to invite them if they are single or not. I wouldn't have more than 2 or 3 single guys at our parties (15 to 20 couples) and I wouldn't attend a party with more than 3 single guys. The problem I have is that I have met very few single guys who are interested in spending a little time to be deemed trustworthy.
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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    Hmmmmm, this is a curious question. I did not enter the LS until after my divorce, so ALL of my experiences have been as a single man. My experiences with house parties is, however, fairly extensive. At any house parties I have attended, I was an invited guest. Sometimes a SPECIFICALLY invited guest. Most persons there were glad I came. But then again, I'm good at fucking, and I'm polite, so that may have been the reasons I got repeat invitations. This is a very interesting question.

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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    When I was in the habit of hosting house parties, we invited couples and singles...but never allowed for a "sign up" - all invitations were personally extended. We would invite about 10-15 couples, 3-4 single men, and 3-4 single ladies. Most of these people we had already met or had been in contact with and wanted to meet.

    As an attendee, I like single men in limited quantities and of the highest quality. I mean super respectful, engaging, and lifestyle experienced.
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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    It really depends on the individual. I know that for single guys it's difficult to even get into parties/clubs without paying a huge fee and/or being screened, whereas single women can just walk right in. Single guys have a stigma against them, so they have to work much more harder to build trust when entering these scenarios.

    With that being said, I'm only into M/F couples, as a single women I feel there's an extra level of protection and keeping it "in check". If the right single guy came along then I don't mind...

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    ...I've been a single guy at house parties many times, always at invitation...so one can conclude that I've been "vetted" as a single for parties, at least in my locale...I have no interest in going to clubs and being another "sausage" on the sidelines...house parties are intimate and casual; most of the couples know each other and everyone is extremely casual and likeminded...and that is what I love most about the house party environment...conversations are always fun/interesting...and people are REAL...

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    In our youthful days where we went to house parties (large), we only saw one single fellow. He was the bartender. The night was essentially over with only a few of us diehards still managing to get it back up and go for some more. Mrs Afterwork was somewhere in the house, but a trek from party room to party room had her not found. I went to the main party room where she was finally seen straddling our host's face while the host's wife was straddling his cock. Mrs Afterwork was deeply exchanging lip and nipple kisses from Mrs Host. Everyone was naked. I sat down a few feet away from this sight using a wall for a back brace with my cock becoming quite hard watching these two ladies pleasure and be pleasured.

    Then walked in our only single fellow, the Bartender, a black young man sporting an extremely thick and large hard on. As he started to walk past Mrs Afterwork, she grabbed his cock and began stroking it towards her face. At that moment, a young lady that I had no notion as to who she was sat down beside me saying, "Looks like you are enjoying the show." She began stroking my cock (I was really young then) for its third effort of the night. I saw Mrs Afterwork dismount the face of the Host and pull the bartener down onto her saying, "Go gentle with that big black beast and fuck me."

    I guess my reaction was gratifying to the young lady as she said "Oh my, you just harded up really well." She started pumping me with her mouth and I stroked and fingered her cum soaked pussy. She pulled her mouth off and took hold of my cock pulling me out to the action saying, "Lets get a better look as Sid and your wife." I had no idea his name and I still didn't know her.

    She knelt down at an oblique angle toward the missionary pair of Mrs Afterwork and the black bartender. Mrs. Afterwork was reaching up with here tiny legs trying to give him greater access. My new friend said yelled stick it in me, to which I obliged. It really wasn't his skin color, or his being single, it was the huge size I saw Mrs Afterwork taking. The two of us watching this moment were nearly on top of them, when my new friend reached underneath the mass of a cock and stuck a finger in Mrs Afterwork's ass. She began yelling at Mrs Afterwork to fuck him and fuck him hard just like her husband was doing to her. Perhaps I misunderstood, by I took that to mean I was to pound as hard as I could and at the same time I stuck two fingers into her ass. She screamed so loud that it caused Mrs Afterwork to do the same with all four of us coming at the same time.

    My contribution was minimal having spent myself twice before, I pulled out and started to remove my fingers when she glared back at me yelling keep them in and keep pumping. She was doing the same to Mrs. Afterwork. The bartender had enormous load and it was still spewing from his cock. He moved up to Mrs. Afterwork who did her best to swallow what was still coming out but she could not concentrate as my new found friend was lapping up the cum left in Mrs Afterwork's pussy from the bartender. I so wanted to be hard again.

    So, in general, we don't like single men or women at house parties. But on that one and only instance, wow.

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    I've always enjoyed house parties as well, and like some of the others have mentioned, having only attended those where a few guys were on the "invite" list. It's a great way to meet people. I have no desire to go to a club setting where anyone who can pay the admission fee is allowed in, at least in certain places.

    The one drawback is that unlike somebody's online profile, you can't tell what couples are interested in. So just being friendly and non-pushy has always worked pretty well..the people who are interested will find you, the people who aren't interested will just politely ignore you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BobGann View Post
    I've always enjoyed house parties as well, and like some of the others have mentioned, having only attended those where a few guys were on the "invite" list. It's a great way to meet people. I have no desire to go to a club setting where anyone who can pay the admission fee is allowed in, at least in certain places.

    The one drawback is that unlike somebody's online profile, you can't tell what couples are interested in. So just being friendly and non-pushy has always worked pretty well..the people who are interested will find you, the people who aren't interested will just politely ignore you.




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    Just returned from a private house party last weekend with 15 couples, 2 single F and 1 single M. All guests were invited so no open invite or signup. Funny thing was, there were 4 other single M that were invited, said they were coming, and never showed. But the one guy that did show was very nice. Very respectful, good looking, clean cut and very much a gentleman.

    The other house party we have been to was small but not selected couples. Was not near as pleasurable for us as the last one we just attended.

    Bottom line, too many guys can certainly spoil the party but a few selected and verified can add to the mix.

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    I am quiet, not pushy and respectful as a male. Other males at house parties , coupled and single, are sometimes more aggressive. We call them predators or bumblebees (they want to pollinate every flower).

    I enjoy playing couple to couple more. The whole house party wants to do my wife and I often find myself eating coffee cake.

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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    Quote Originally Posted by njbm View Post
    I am quiet, not pushy and respectful as a male. Other males at house parties , coupled and single, are sometimes more aggressive. We call them predators or bumblebees (they want to pollinate every flower).

    I enjoy playing couple to couple more. The whole house party wants to do my wife and I often find myself eating coffee cake.

    ...i've been to parties with "predatory" males; when i see that as a prevelent situation i leave because i know it will be "guilt by association"...i am not and do not think like that...predatory males are unfortunatly the norm; that's how it is because that is the male nature...which unfortuately taints the minority of males who still "think with the head on top"...so i understand that most couples shun single males, at least initially; i see it as part of my landscape of the lifestyle i have to deal with...

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    "predatory males are unfortunatly the norm; that's how it is because that is the male nature"

    I disagree. I and my ex attended many a house party and went to swinger's clubs. In general, I would characterize single males at those places respectful and reasonable. Not all of them, there's always a jerk or two. But most of them were quite nice to talk to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by adamgunn View Post
    "predatory males are unfortunatly the norm; that's how it is because that is the male nature"

    I disagree. I and my ex attended many a house party and went to swinger's clubs. In general, I would characterize single males at those places respectful and reasonable. Not all of them, there's always a jerk or two. But most of them were quite nice to talk to.

    ...i dare to say that in your experiences(s), the single men were already screened/cherry picked for those parties...there is a reason why most parties serverly limit the Single Male invitations...a lot of profiles on SLS lock out single males looking at their profiles...a TRUE male in the lifestyle, single or not is indeed respectful and reasonable; outside of that, the ones that think they are "players" are pretty much preditors looking to just blow a load; that is NOT what the lifestyle is all about...

    ...my gender; my fellow Men; in general they are mostly prudish, insincerly holier than thou, or just plain a-holes LOL...

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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    Me and my buddies we combine our money and resources and throw parties at one of our buddies mansion. The ratio is for every one man we have 5 to 10 women, most of the women are in their 20s. The vast majority of swinger clubs view single males as a negative factor. At least 60% of the couples are going to dislike you off the back. One tactic I use is I attend a swinger club alone the fist time to see who's cool and who isn't. The second time I attend I bring one of my gorgeous young lady friends with me. Its funny how couples who roll their eyes at me miraculously go out their way to greet us.

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    Default Re: How do you feel about single men at a house party?

    That is because as a couple you have something to offer to the male of the other couple. If you are going to a picnic, bring your own ham sandwich. Don't just eat the other guy's ham sandwich, so to speak.

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    Last year we were invited to a party. This is before we were married meaning we were single but went as a couple. I didn't know all the people there but the ones I knew were also single couples. I know some were there alone both male and female singles. I know I was with people I was attracted to. I didn't stop to ask if they were alone or part of a couple.


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