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Invited to our first swinger Halloween party, lots of questions!

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Or swinging experience is starting. We created an account at Love Voodoo and were invited to our first party. Please let us know what to expect. Is it ok not to play? Wife is very excited and nervous at the same time. What if we see people we know? Should we tell them our real names?

 

Thank you so much.

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Not all house parties have the same character. Don't know if the party to which you are going is a private party or an open party but either way there would be no obligation to play but some party hosts do explain ahead of time that the people who attend do "come to play". You should feel free to contact the hosts ahead of time and ask any questions you might have. If they are responsible people, they will be happy to answer. Do have a good time.

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As SW_PA_Couple mentioned, some parties are very laid-back about people just socializing, while others bill themselves as being best for people who are ready to play. In either case, you should never, ever feel obligated to play just because the hosts or others want everyone to play.

 

If you see people you know, just remember that they have no more of a desire to be "outed" than you do! You can keep each other's secret, just as you keep your own.

 

Most swingers tend to use first names only. My opinion is that there is no need to use a fake name.

 

Have fun, relax, and take things at your own pace. And enjoy the evening!

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Thank you so much. It looks like wife wants to play after all, but we'll try to play with each other first and we will as the night goes on. It is amazing how the rapid changes took place ever since I talked my wife into the Lifestyle. She is so so much more sexual, from very shy meek Asian wife to a very wild in bed. I loved it.

 

Thank you for guiding us with your advice, hope someday we will meet each other too.

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please let us know what to expect.

 

First, I would check and find out more about the house party. There is a thread here where a couple went to a house party and she was the only woman there. They enjoyed the experience, but I would make sure to find out if single men are allowed and how many other couples are planning on attending. Other than that, you should expect a bunch of people getting together for an evening out. Most swingers are extremely nice and polite (more than the average vanilla party IMHO). Depending on the party, things can range from mild or totally wild. Go with already having decided on your rules and limits (and STICK to them) and without any expectations other than having a good time (expectations usually leads to pressure and/or unrealistic hopes).

 

is it ok not to play.

 

Absolutely. No one is expected to do anything they don't want to do. Just say no is absolutely okay.

 

wife is very excited and nervous at the same time. what if we see people we know?

 

You probably won't but if it does happen, they are there for the same reason you are and most likely are hoping not to see anyone they know as well. Say hi (or don't) and know that you both are now sharing a secret that neither wants told to the general public. Usually both couples laugh about it.

 

should we tell them our real names?

 

Yes, but stick to first names. Believe it or not, swinging is about the truth. Being honest with your partner and with anyone else that you decide to involve. Lying is never a good foundation for anything.

 

Go, have a good time and expect nothing more (anything else that happens is a huge bonus). Make sure that you both understand what your limits are...soft swap, touching, full swap...'play' means different things to different people. Both of you need to be on the same page here.

 

it is amazing how the rapid changes took place ever since i talked my wife into the lifestyle. she is so so much more sexual. from very shy meek Asian wife to a very wild in bed.

 

Not uncommon (actually very common). It's very liberating to be able to let your barriers down and know you have your partners support and back. Have fun and let us know how things progress.

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Oh hell yeah, get down at a swingers Halloween party for you two's first gigm My first house party was a Halloween party. If costumes are allowed you're able to get into subjects that any normal vanilla party would never, ever allow.

 

My past costumes:

Dr.Feelgood

Muff Diver

Pirate- " Give up the booty!"

A silly carpenter with my measuring assistant Miss RCH. (RCH or Red Cunt Hair is a carpenter term for moving less than a CH cunt hair) the 40% of the guys who got the RCH reference totaly loved it. Red even pinned a zip lock baggy of hair trimmings from said location to the outside of her costume.

 

Good luck and have fun!

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