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It becomes dark rather early during this season of the year. So we set the starting time for the party at 4 O'Clock. We're getting all perspiry while preparing the house to look presentable and have not yet put our pink and white bodies into the shower when up the driveway come two of the invited guests -- two hours early. The two have pulled this stunt at least one other time in the past. They fear that they are going to miss something. Other than showing themselves much too early, they are good people to have at a swingers' house party.

 

What are we going to do with them?

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What are we going to do with them?

 

Sex comes to mind...

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While Emily Post of a prior generation and her contemporary counterpart Miss Manners rarely (if ever) comment on LS parties, they did have some general commentary on invitations, responses, punctuality, being a gracious guest, thank you notes and so on. Quietly letting them know that you have set aside (for example) 12-4 as prep time and 4 until whenever as party time should be sufficient. Other strategies including sending them a special invitation for 6 pm or, as others have suggested, putting them to work with prep, might be necessary to get the message across. Perhaps next time they can host?

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Tell them the party starts at 6pm. I have a vanilla friend that is always an hour late, regardless of types of event or time of day. So I always tell her the start time that is an hour earlier than the actual start time. Works like a charm.

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Sometimes we're early birds to smaller parties and during those times, when it's clear the party hosts are running behind, we offer to help in any way that we can. I also like Mrs. A's suggestion...if certain guests come late or early, adjust the time that you tell them to come accordingly. If they come early, give them a later time. If they tend to arrive later, give them an earlier time.

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Not being night owls ourselves, we really like the idea of starting early. Still, if something says it starts at a certain time, we would NEVER arrive 2 hours early...maybe 10 minutes but never 2 hours. Personally, I think that is just rude and would most likely keep a return invite from ever happening.

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Oh my gosh. I couldn't handle that. I would pull the curtains, ignore the door and hide until they left. Later if they asked I'd say we were out running errands or didn't hear the door.

 

I like the idea of putting them to work, but personally that would make me uncomfortable.

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I like that idea funcouple. Close the drapes and avoid the door. We have a sign right next to our 'door bell' (it's really a bell mounted next to the door) that says 'Ring bell. If no one answers, pull weeds'. We want to change our answer: we wouldn't mind them coming two hours early if they start doing yard work for that two hours (5 acres = lots of weeds). :lol:

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They want to be first in and first out. Satisfy their enthusiasm and then after they leave you can focus on your other guests.

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Put them to work. No ands, ifs, or butts about it. If a person/couple is worried enough about missing something to show two hours early then give them something to do that won't ruin their clothing or make up.

If they're really down for it and reliable, and you like them decently enough outside of the bedroom, ask them at the end of the party to help you plan and then set up directly before the next event. Work them into the plans if you need the help. Co-hosts or helpers will allow you to have a better time at your event as "many hands = less work for each".

 

The main host couple from our parties ended up with me and Red helping on the planning/set up/preparation and then actual party hosting and another regular sleepover couple (plus their occasionally attending single F unicorn girlfriend) doing almost all the "put away food" at the end of the night and then the big clean up the next morning which allowed us other 4 to sleep in later. We had a good crew together [plus the wife from the clean up couple was one of my really good swing partners/FWB ;) ]. See the pictures on my profile here as to the food setups that we had for parties. And that doesn't include preparing the rest of their house along with an outdoor patio space that was shielded from prying eyes by putting up 6'-7' tall temporary fencing around it during warmer months.

 

For most of the 10 years we co-hosted, there was one single guy, "Freddy", a friend of the hosts, who worked evenings in restaurants. He'd show up to bullshit with us several hours before the parties while we were setting up but then he'd have to leave for work. Later he'd come back at 12am-1am after his work shift was over to get a little late night fun and then leave when we'd shut down at 3 -3:30am (even 5am for new years). We had no qualms about asking Freddy to help by taking out trash, changing light bulbs from regular to colors, helping set up folding tables and chairs, etc while we shot the bull with him. Freddy was always happy to help because we asked nicely and he understood the "pay-off" potential for later that night.

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