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I have been to a couple of house parties, and after watching awhile I can't help but to masturbate. I love being watched and most everyone is nude at that time including me.

 

How do you feel about seeing a single guy naked and masturbating?

 

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Find a masturbation party to attend.

 

I don't like to post negative things but this is a reason we don't typically attend house parties that invite single guys. In fact, we haven't been to one where single guys have been invited with the exception of one attending with another couple and he is the couples responsibility. If they leave, he has to leave.

 

All house parties have different rules but I'd rather let the Chihuahua hump my leg than see a single guy sitting on the couch beating off while we were trying to play.

 

I think a very small percentage of couples like to see a guy beating off. Going out on a limb here but maybe 1 in 100.

 

Don't be that guy.

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Creepy comes to mind. When we first tried to attend a swing club (in vegas) the door man was explaining things, and when it came to the single guys watching my wife had this vision in her head of guys masturbating and got cold feet. Stay home and watch porn.

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What is there to ,'like,' about a single guy jerking off at a party ? Is it the demonstration of his continued frustration of not having a sex partner ? Is it the vain attempt to make lone exhibitionism into an art form ? Or, is it simply the cry of desperation in a background of people wondering how he got into the party in the first place ?

 

The simple fact is that if you are asking such a question, odds are, you already know the answer and it's not pleasant nor flattering.

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I don't mind it so much, but hubby finds it quite offensive and borderline creepy...especially those who try to hide what they're doing.

 

We tend to go to the clubs on the nights single men are limited in number as well as where they are allowed to be.

 

*this from a couple who enjoys mfm fairly often*

 

Someone else said this, and it's worth repeating - Don't be that guy

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I could totally see the guys that produce South Park doing an episode with this as one of the plot lines, taken to absurd levels of course.

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I see where everyone is coming from, and I think yes sometimes the guys can be out right creepy. However I know of one time I seen this happen and enjoyed watching the guy. He was very good looking and had a nice package so ofcourse I watched him.

 

Im just wondering how everyone would feel if it were single women? Givent that it wouldnt be happening cause they just wouldnt feel comfortable. BUT, if it were to happen would you be creeped out? Or would you ask them to leave?

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Im just wondering how everyone would feel if it were single women?

 

Absolutely okay, would still be a bit strange at a party. It's reverse discrimination and I totally get that but it's just a fact of life.

 

Webbguy, didn't mean to rain on your parade, seriously, but you wanted to know what most couples thought and we felt we owed you an honest answer.

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Agree with DigginIt.

 

We have attended a couple of parties that allowed single guys and after the last one we said absolutely never again. And this was one of the reasons. Guys following us around and jacking off. It has a creepy uncomfortable feel for us. And when we see it we usually get up and go to another room.

 

We did go to a party where there was a guy who we nicknamed "Jack McWanker" It was wierd and gross but very laughable. Seemed like everytime we looked away there he was again. He was quick and stealthy as he moved around the party.

 

Just a quick FYI......."That" guy never gets a hook up because he is considered either a joke or just plain creepy.

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Im just wondering how everyone would feel if it were single women? Givent that it wouldnt be happening cause they just wouldnt feel comfortable. BUT, if it were to happen would you be creeped out? Or would you ask them to leave?

 

Hmmm... "if it were a woman...". Totally fine by us.. I actually enjoy telling my wife to "show off" for me and anybody around. It's great foreplay and leads to some exciting follow-ups.

 

As for "given that it wouldn't happen 'cause they just wouldn't feel comfortable".. Not true.. My lady LOVES showing off and doesn't feel uncomfortable at all. On the occasions we have a "MFM" event, myself and our guest will sit outside on our balcony and she will lay on the couch inside and play with herself until we are too turned on to stay outside. Jus' sayin'....

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Webbguy, it depends on who you are jacking off in front of. If you're jacking of in front of couples that are looking for other couples, then you are going to be that creepy guy. Couples that are looking for couples are looking for partners that they can give attention to. Now if you are jacking off in front of exhibitionist, then you are goining to find that they don't mind you beating your meat because they are there to be watched and enjoy getting a rise (LOL) out of the people/person they are putting on the show for. It's very flattering when that happens. As long as you don't start moaning out loud and taking away from the attention that they are seeking.

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Hmmm... "if it were a woman...". Totally fine by us.. I actually enjoy telling my wife to "show off" for me and anybody around. It's great foreplay and leads to some exciting follow-ups.

 

As for "given that it wouldn't happen 'cause they just wouldn't feel comfortable".. Not true.. My lady LOVES showing off and doesn't feel uncomfortable at all. On the occasions we have a "MFM" event, myself and our guest will sit outside on our balcony and she will lay on the couch inside and play with herself until we are too turned on to stay outside. Jus' sayin'....

 

I wasnt talking about when playing with a couple, thats a given. I ment at an open party. Im assuming that was what the question was for, if it was ok for him to do so openly at a party, not after being invited to play with said persons. So in that case, I dont think it happens all that much that a random single women is going to just start playing with herself at a party.

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Creepy. The club where we went where swingers go to die have nothing but single males walking around jacking off. There was an older man of 60ish, dirty, not clean at all. We asked him to leave and he would so we stopped.

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Masturbation is only for people like you and me, so if your cock/cunt offends you, then jerk it off.

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Thanks for all the replies! My question was for the room that is for watchers if that makes since. I'm new so the room I went in was for people who like to be wathced.And I was invited . Thanks again!!:)

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Good for you webguy, it would seem that many people who claim to be so open minded about sex bring all their upbringing hangups with them to swinger parties and frown upon others who are behaving in a natural sexual way! Wank on mr. webguy and enjoy your sexual desires. John

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Good for you webguy, it would seem that many people who claim to be so open minded about sex bring all their upbringing hangups with them to swinger parties and frown upon others who are behaving in a natural sexual way! Wank on mr. webguy and enjoy your sexual desires. John

 

John,

Do you have a line you will not cross in regards to sex? Scat, water sports, s&m, sucking cock, rimming? Of course you do somewhere, just like most everybody else.

There are those on the other side of that line who would say the same about you. Who decides where that line should be?

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I think its about time and place as so many things are. If you were specifically in a room for couples/groups that want to be watched, then I think it would be an appropriate activity. Especially since you were invited into the room, you could have asked if they minded if you masturbated while watching the action. To me it doesn't make sense if you are in a 'voyeur' room and then get bent because people are watching/reacting to what they are seeing.

 

The difference would be if you weren't invited. Maybe we just have run into an odd group of swingers that overall are oddly courteous? Even in group rooms where people wander in and out (1 club and house parties) seems like the people that aren't playing actually stay clothed and just watch. One of the clubs we've been to (and from posters here I gather this is how many of them are), there was an attendant in the play area and single males had to be escorted into the play area by a couple, they could not just wander in to watch the action.

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It is not so much a line or limit but more about what is "normal" sexual behavior, assuming there is such a state. John

 

P.s. I would seem unreasonable in a MFM or FMF not too have someone wanking during the session!

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Good for you webguy, it would seem that many people who claim to be so open minded about sex bring all their upbringing hangups with them to swinger parties and frown upon others who are behaving in a natural sexual way! Wank on mr. webguy and enjoy your sexual desires. John

 

John67a, I appreciate what you say but he is posting a question to swingers and not to a sexual liberation website.

 

Couples swing. Single men/women participate in swinging activities but they don't swing. Therefore, as a single person at a swing event he should be respectful to what the majority of the people feel is appropriate at such an event. Clearly, the majority of couples that have spoken here have deemed the behavior not generally liked. It was nothing personal against him.

 

I'm glad you can enjoy someone expressing their sexual freedom but saying that we are the ones with the problem because of our lack of open-mindedness is just downright short sighted and shows very little in consideration of what others think. Just because you don't have an issue with something doesn't make everyone else wrong and uptight and less enlightened than you.

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Good for you webguy, it would seem that many people who claim to be so open minded about sex bring all their upbringing hangups with them to swinger parties and frown upon others who are behaving in a natural sexual way! Wank on mr. webguy and enjoy your sexual desires. John

 

There is a time and place for everything. The OP asked a question, got multiple answers. Most of which were in the negative. It has little to do with hangups. It depends on the situation and the decorum required. If it is circle jerk party, no problem, if it is a couples house party, not such a good idea.

 

Personally, if the guy was alone at a house party and jerking off, I would find it bizarre at minimum. And probably out of place, but I guess there are parties where it would be normal, accepted and even encouraged.

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Like others said, it depends on the circumstances and environment. Sometimes it can be hot thinking that my actions are causing this. However, don't invade our personal space without being invited.

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As a past owner of a great swinger club in Texas, we would only allow single men IF he came with a couple, but at the party, while the husband was allowed to "roam", the single guy had to stay with the lady/couple that brought him... and yes, we did keep track of him and all of our guests. Often the guy was a great guy, friendly, likeable, polite,,,but still "single" and couples didn't, for the most part, want his company.. The thought was.. "if you can't get a girl of your own, why the hell should someone loan you one?"

We never had any issue with the single guys, but then on the other hand, if the party was run right, no one knew he was single. Also, when his "sponsoring" couple left, he had to leave as well. While we didn't intentionally pass judgement, many do, and in a case such as this, majority took precedence, and it was, after all, a "club" and as such relied on "couples" having a good time, and coming back.

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Seems like if a woman is playing with herself, and is not accompanied by a partner, that at least one available male would go over and start talking with her with the hopes of making a connection.

If a man is playing with himself, I think it is, as well, an invitation for some available woman to go over and offer to help him out. At least, start talking.

Swinging is really for couples though, but I would think a good host would try to balance single females and single males one to one or close to it, and encourage friendly interaction.

But it is generally known by anyone who has given parties or run a swingers club that single men can ruin the entire environment.

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I agree that this may be reverse discrimination, but a single guy jerking off in front of us is a major mood killer. We have had a few scenarios come up:

- once a woman asked to watch four of us play at a Club while she masturbated - we all loved it

- once had a guy start to masturbate while watching us (again, it was 4 of us playing) - hated it and asked him to leave

- a couple next to us once asked if they could watch; at first they played with each other but them they both masturbated themselves as they watched - pretty hot

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Old post but my theory is I can beat off at home, why go to a house party to do that? Perfectly good waste of a party.

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I agree that this may be reverse discrimination, but a single guy jerking off in front of us is a major mood killer. We have had a few scenarios come up:

- once a woman asked to watch four of us play at a Club while she masturbated - we all loved it

- once had a guy start to masturbate while watching us (again, it was 4 of us playing) - hated it and asked him to leave

- a couple next to us once asked if they could watch; at first they played with each other but them they both masturbated themselves as they watched - pretty hot

 

What's the difference for you in the male and female?

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What's the difference for you in the male and female?

I have no idea, but it was unanimous from our side

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What's the difference for you in the male and female?/QUOTE]

I have no idea, but it was unanimous from our side

 

Lol, OK.

 

I can see how a single guy could be creepy but in the right circumstances, it's also hot to watch a man masturbate.

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Find a masturbation party to attend.

 

I don't like to post negative things but this is a reason we don't typically attend house parties that invite single guys. In fact, we haven't been to one where single guys have been invited with the exception of one attending with another couple and he is the couples responsibility. If they leave, he has to leave.

 

All house parties have different rules but I'd rather let the Chihuahua hump my leg than see a single guy sitting on the couch beating off while we were trying to play.

 

I think a very small percentage of couples like to see a guy beating off. Going out on a limb here but maybe 1 in 100.

 

Don't be that guy.

 

I would have to second that. The few times I have been places that allowed single guys I was completely turned off by their behavior including what is described above.

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My wife and I are new to the scene, we saw a guy doing it and it was a huge turn off. This is why I HATE single guys at a party. They bring absolutely nothing and expect to eat off your plate. Fuck that!!! My wife and I had a heated discussion about her playing with single guys, I'm totally against it, she didn't understand why. I advised her about creepy guy jerking it and how they expect to just join in with us. She eventually saw things my way, why is this guy at the party bringing nothing to the event except paying a much higher fee to attend and taking away from the guys who brought a date? As far as women go.. Hell yeah!! this tells me she is starting to loosen up and the anxiety is going away. Bottom line.. If you're a single guy at a party, that is bad enough ..but to start whacking it because he can't get a woman to play that is just straight offensive.

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No problem with a house party with a few extra guys. That can make things more interesting. But some guy standing there masturbating, that's a no go right away.

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Totally up to the environment. If a party situation then group consensus would apply. However if was totally up to me, stroke on. Actually love someone stroking as they watch us. So long as they not trying to hide and do it. Hot seeing a man do it while he looking at us/her. We even make sure to give the best views we can. So so sexy watching them shoot a massive load when I spread her open to see.

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I think there is a line between sexy and creepy, when anyone's a voyeur. The voyeur's really need to give the active partner space so that we don't feel attacked.

 

I don't have a problem with a guy watching us and enjoying the show, jacking off, even talking to us. It can be really hot!!

 

What is a real drag, male or female is the people that push in. Clothed or unclothed, pushing their crotch in front of our faces, sitting inches away, reaching out to cop a feel, etc. Also the people that kinda 'sneak around'. Like get some balls dude?!?!

 

My wife has told me numerous times she was enjoying watching a guy relaxing and stroking his dick to the show that's going on around him, but every time we have enjoyed something like that it's because the people aren't intrusive.

 

I can imagine it's tough not to be the creepy single guy, or single gal for that matter, as I have had some female interactions that creeped me out (we had a woman get so close to my dick while my wife was blowing me, she could have licked me with her tongue, I was not into it), I think the key would be to give people space, at a minimum, don't do it if people don't seem to enjoy it..

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If the single guy was in a room with a couple that requested this then it would be OK. However we have been to too many clubs where this activity was way over the top especially in the group sex room - way too creepy for the wife and me. We have been to several house "private" house parties and almost everyone there was part of a couple noting the only time a single guy was at one party, he was there as part of a threesome.

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