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My wife is interested in going to a local club in Louisville Ky. She herself is self conscious about her body as she is a bbw. I find her wonderfully beautiful but I love larger sized women. I am very protective of her “in a good way” and very much want it to be a positive experience for both of us. I read on many of the clubs websites of how their club has the “hottest most beautiful” couples. I am 48yrs old and she almost my age. My question is, will going to a club be a positive experience or have we missed the boat and uncomfortably be an object of ridicule until we decide to up and leave. We clean up pretty well and I can rock a casual suit as well as the next guy, but I’m not a 24yr old paratrooper any more either.

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Hubby and I have only been to a LS club once, for a Halloween Party a couple of weekends ago.

 

There were there people of all shapes and sizes. I did not get a sense that anyone was ridiculed or uncomfortable. It was a great time.

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If it is the off-site club with which my wife and I are familiar, you will not be out-of-place. A fair 50 percent of the women who inhabit the club are BBW.

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Of the clubs we have been to, there have been people of all ages and shapes and sizes and I haven't ever detected any sort of judgment. Will one particular person maybe be attracted to another particular person more than someone else is? Sure, that's just normal, but it's not like all the same people aren't attracted to all the same other people. I always just keep in mind that just like I don't feel chemistry with every female on the planet, then I don't expect them all to feel chemistry toward me.

 

I will also make the observation that despite seeing pictures or proclamations of the "hottest most beautiful people" on the ads of probably every club we have been to, I don't recall seeing a single person that looked like the ads. It is advertising, its job is to sell, not to reflect reality. What you will see is a bunch of normal people. Some you will find more attractive than others, but that's ok, that's just one of the mysteries of human nature.

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My first club (and swinging) experiences were when I was much larger. In a way, it was easier for me than now. I went into it knowing that not everyone likes larger people, so didn't have any expectations/hopes of anyone being interested. The swinging was mmf's and not in a club. Now that I have lost weight and have all the lovely things that accompany a large weight loss, I have more trouble with my confidence and feeling attractive. I must have bought into the "lose weight, you'll feel more attractive" BS. :) That said, every club we have been to has had people of various sizes, ages, etc. I think it is more important to manage your expectations. I like to have low expectations and be pleasantly surprised.

 

Depending on her confidence level, and how much you look at the other women, I'd say she should just be prepared to not get all the attention/gazes. You can help a lot with that by focusing on her (while still enjoying the eye candy that is around) and putting as much energy into helping her feel attractive as you do looking at other more stereotypically attractive females. At least, that would help me.

 

Also, in my experience, all clubs say that. Realistically, only one club can have the hottest people, best whatever. They all hype themselves up. Take it with a grain of salt.

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Thanks a lot for the replies, I think we may have a great time then. As for making her feel comfy I always focus on her enjoyment and tune out most other distractions until she feels in place. Her happiness to me is paramount. Thanks again for the replies and maybe we will see you out on the town.

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Wondering if anyone has any info on parties in the northeast (NJ centralized area) for curvy or BBW women. I have see these parties in passing but was wondering if there was a central location for finding the events. My SO has a lot of confidence and is pretty social so she should be fine but I would like to start us out in an environment that is the most inclusive from the start.

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Wondering if anyone has any info on parties in the northeast (NJ centralized area) for curvy or BBW women. I have see these parties in passing but was wondering if there was a central location for finding the events. My SO has a lot of confidence and is pretty social so she should be fine but I would like to start us out in an environment that is the most inclusive from the start.

Check SLS. Listed all the time.

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I prefer to have meaningless group sex with fit women.

 

Is that mean or shallow?

 

:dontknow:

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I prefer to have meaningless group sex with fit women.

 

Is that mean or shallow?

 

:dontknow:

No. For me, I am not an Adonis, so I don’t expect more from my partner.

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My wife is a BIG girl and on our first night we went we too were a bit apprehensive.

 

It turned out that she was rather popular amongst the men. Most of who had hour glass wives.

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Mrs. Aiki is also worried about being a larger woman at the club. We plan on our first trip to our local club this weekend (Close Encounters, Gulfport, Ms)

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2 minutes ago, Aikibobby said:

Mrs. Aiki is also worried about being a larger woman at the club. We plan on our first trip to our local club this weekend (Close Encounters, Gulfport, Ms)

Every pot has a cover. There are men who are fans of larger women. There are larger men. It works out. 

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15 hours ago, Aikibobby said:

Mrs. Aiki is also worried about being a larger woman at the club. We plan on our first trip to our local club this weekend (Close Encounters, Gulfport, Ms)

I hope you'll tell us how it went!

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Yep, all shapes and sizes can show up on any given night at a club.  But also some clubs have dedicated nights for it which can be a more welcoming environment. 

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They have events for BBW ( big, beautiful women). However, the OP’s wife may not technically qualify. She may just be self-conscious. 

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