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Hi all,

 

My wife and I are new to this website and new to this lifestyle, which we both find exciting. We live in the DFW metroplex.

 

We went to Amsterdam earlier this summer and after much discussion, decided to visit what we believe to be one of the better swingers clubs there. We had an amazing time! We agreed to certain ground rules ahead of time, since we really did not know what to expect. While we did not sexually engage with another couple there (but we met a few couples and enjoyed conversations with them) we did have amazing sex there! We both discovered we have exhibitionist likes.

 

We enjoyed it so much we are considering going to Club Colette in Dallas to check out that scene.

 

Two questions:

 

1. Does anyone have any experience with this particular club, good or bad?

 

2. We are a little nervous about running into some we might know there. Has anyone had an experience like that?

 

Any insight would be appreciated.

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We have been to that club. As clubs go, it is very nice. If you run into someone you know, they are there too. They are unlikely to tell anyone that you were there, because it will reveal that they were there. We cal. This is known as mutually assured destruction.

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if you are running into someone you know - sure - it can feel strange - but get over it and have fun. We all are in the same situation. I went ones in a swinger party and met my old teacher.

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Hello. I was visiting this board and signed up just to reply/comment on this thread.

 

My wife and I are also considering making a visit to this club, because it looks like a fantasyland and we are an open-minded couple. We have a very close and confident relationship and often discuss our fantasies. Our relationship is purely monogomous at this point and we would never have an open relationship. But, we have agreed that if the right opportunity came up, in the right situation, we would both be OK with sharing ourselves with others. However, we are both very picky and probably would prefer to see our partner pleased by someone else rather than enjoying others ourselves.

 

We said if we ever experimented with another couple or individual, it would probably be on vacation where there would be no future contact.

 

So, we keep talking about visiting Colette. However, we are somewhat leery because the location is so close (DFW). And, we might feel bad because we would probably be going for the experience and most likely not really to play with others. This might not normally be an issue, but we are a very fit couple and my wife is younger (late 30's), gorgeous and very social/friendly. We are afraid of having to reject other couples that we would just want to be friendly with. I don't know how attractive the clientele is here at the club. But, I know my wife is just stunning. I am lucky to be with her and she knows that she has the freedom to experience any fantasy that she may have in the future, as long as we do it together.

 

So, that is our story. The club looks fantastic to us and we are both open to new experiences. I just don't know if we will ever get the nerve up to go. My biggest fear is making people angry because we are really just going there the first time to browse and maybe meet some new open-minded people.

 

I don't mean for anything I said to come across as egotistical on our part. We get along with everyone. But, we just don't know how serious people are there about hooking up and don't want to offend anyone.

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Many people go to the club either to observe or just play with their spouse. You may have to go more than once before you are ready to swap. Some people are never ready to swap. That is ok. If a couple wants to play with you and you don't want to play, thank them for asking and say no thank you. Trust me, Swingers can handle rejection. This hobby is like baseball, where a .300 average is exceptional. Go and have fun. At worst, you will be mind blown and turned on.

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Many people go to the club either to observe or just play with their spouse. You may have to go more than once before you are ready to swap. Some people are never ready to swap. That is ok. If a couple wants to play with you and you don't want to play, thank them for asking and say no thank you. Trust me, Swingers can handle rejection. This hobby is like baseball, where a .300 average is exceptional. Go and have fun. At worst, you will be mind blown and turned on.

 

Thank you. That makes me feel better about things. I appreciate the comment.

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I had one more question about Colette in Dallas if anybody has been. Are there any private areas where Couples can make love without attracting an audience ?

 

I know that my wife has exhibitionist tendencies. Her fantasies, according to her, usually involve us making out with people watching. But, I am a more private person and would need to feel comfortable to perform, except for oral of course. Another couple would probably not bother me. But, a larger audience would take some getting used to on my part.

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I had one more question about Colette in Dallas if anybody has been. Are there any private areas where Couples can make love without attracting an audience ?

 

That's typically the norm for any club like that. I know and have been to Colette in NOLA and it had them. I would be surprised if Dallas didn't as well. Honestly it's a lot of fun. Get turned on watching others head off with your honey and fuck.

 

Good Luck and Have Fun

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My husband and I are also interested in going to this club. I'm 33, he's in his mid 40s, and we are looking for a place where we would "fit in" for the first time going to a club. Has anyone tried newbie night there or know what kind of crowd it draws?

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We were there last year. As clubs go, it’s very good. You are a good age. Newbie night is a good idea, I hope they give out some pointers or everyone will be staring at each other. Sometimes it helps if newbies play with experienced swingers to advance the “ball” so to speak.

 

Have fun and report back.

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I have no input on Colette (although I watch their podcasts, OpenLove101)

But on the topic of 'seeing someone you know'. My suggestion is, don't duck and cover... that will ruin your night, trying to stay out of their line of sight. Rather, approach good naturedly, speak to them, and at the end of the conversation I always say something like "so this stays here, right? No conversation outside this space about our shared interest in this lifestyle. Agreed?" shake hand/hug and move on. As others have stated: They are there too so you have as much on them as they do on you. That's why I like to communicate clearly my expectations of not speaking of it outside that safe space. (because surely, any lifestyle club or party should be a safe space!)

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