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Creating Your Own Meet and Greet Swingers Group

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If their are meet and greets, I have not found them yet.

 

This is an informative post, but please, everyone share your meet and greet experiences here. What's good/bad/funny about meet and greets?

 

Here is my advice/experience on meet and greets. There was a meet and greet group in my area, which was run by a couple who spend half the year in another state. While they were gone, I offered to run the group. The group went very well; when the couple returned to our area at the end of the summer they asked me to take over the group, because they were tired of running it. We met at least one very good new prospect at each meeting. It is simple to do.

 

1. Create a group on sls (also find out what sites are good in Ft Worth, maybe Kasidie). Put the name of your area and meet and greet in your group name. We have ours as a private group. Decide on rules for group admission. Ours is open to couples and singles. We require that they have a face pic available online. Our age range is 30+

 

2. Post a nice, short, grammatically correct description on the group. Here's ours -

 

A once a month meet & greet at a public bar/club in the Dayton, Ohio area. Couples and singles over age 30 are welcome. Please open a face picture when you request to join.

 

3. Choose a date/time and place. It should be a public place like a bar or small dance club with no cover or very inexpensive cover. It took awhile for our group to find a really good place that wasn't too loud or crowded. We go to a small dance club that is very busy on Sat nights, but almost dead on Friday nights. You may need to visit a few places on the nt you want to have your group to decide on the place. We always meet on a Friday night because most swing clubs and house parties are on Sat nights around here. So people can go out and meet on Friday and then really party on Sat to maximize their weekend. This has been important for our group. We start at 8pm, when the group was meeting at a bar without a dance floor they started at 7. We have a mylar balloon that I write our group name on at our table for the meet. That's why you want the group name to say meet and greet not secret swingers or something like that.

 

4. List the event on sls and request rsvp's on the group. Tell people how to dress (since that's important to you) in the event listing. We don't, but if people know No baseball hats, wifebeaters or sweat pants you'll be more likely to get what you want. Our group dresses casually, but pretty nicely, a lot of the girls wear dresses or skirts, guys and girls wear jeans and nice shirts. If you are looking for no jeans, you probably need to change your expectations. Explain that you'll have a balloon with the group name and wristbands (if you choose do to that) More on wristbands below.

 

5. Start inviting people to the group. Note this is step five. Do not invite anyone without a planned event. A group is boring on sls with out an event. SLS groups are honestly terrible on their own because you have to visit the group to see anything new. So you don't want people joining without something going on, because they'll forget to come back to the group. To invite people you go to their profile and click the invite icon. You can only invite ten a day, but it will be fine, if you give yourself plenty of time before the event. If you are really interested in someone, also send them a nice note saying you invited them to the group and hope they join and can make it to the event.

 

You can decide whether to include singles. We do but they almost never come to the group. We try to talk to singles and ask if they are truly single, not married, because our group is not interested in cheaters.

 

Post the meet and greet date on your profile tagline and talk about the group in your profile (if you have a private group, don't post the location anywhere but on the group). People will email you about joining the group. We invite anyone who meets the age and no cheating criteria, even if they are not attractive to us, they may be to other members, or have friends they refer to the group who are hot.

 

Post the meet and greet on hot dates. Just the date and ask them to email you for details.

 

6. About a week before, email the group members individually (you can copy and paste the same thing). If you know them, then just add a personal sentence for them. Remind them of the event coming up and ask them to rsvp on the group.

 

7. Do not despair if hardly anyone actually rsvps. This is common, in our case a lot more people show up than rsvp.

 

8. Decide if you want wristbands (like at an amusement park). This is a good idea for a new group, I think, because then people know who is in the group, since there will be vanilla patrons at the club also. Some members of our group are not crazy about wristbands. We have done them for 4 months so this month we are trying it without. If you don't have wristbands, as host, you need to be able to introduce new people to group regulars so they will have people they know they can interact with.

 

9. The meet! Get there a couple minutes early. Try to get a table near the entrance. Set up your balloon. We aslo have little business card size cards and pens, so people can write down contact info of people they meet. Get a drink and tell the bartender you have a group meeting there tonight. They will probably be excited, ask you questions. We just say its a social group.

 

10. Be friendly and make introductions as new people come in. Try to meet and talk to everyone. It's a little difficult being the host, because you have to be careful not to spend the whole time talking to one person you really like. It's better for everyone if we all circulate around. Get contact info of people you like. Have fun!

 

11. If only one other couple shows up, still have fun and plan again for next month. Sometimes it takes a little time for a group to get going.

 

Please let me know if there are questions.

 

Also, anyone else who has planned or attended meet and greets, please share your experiences here!

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This is great stuff. We're hoping to find a local M & G in our new area, but if we can't, I know where to find information on starting a group.

 

I particularly like the advice about what sort of place will work. I've been to a few M & Gs that were full of fun people that I couldn't really get to know because the music was way too loud.

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We are hoping to find a Meet and Greet in our area also, New Hampshire. We aren't having any luck. This makes me think maybe we should organize one. Thanks for the advice!

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