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My SO and I recently started attending events at a local club in Portland. We love the energy of the place, "We" have a blast but don't engage in anything more than stroking or kissing with other people and are both happy with that boundary. How common is that? Are we being rude? She is beautiful and fun to watch so at least we give a little back...

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If you are talking about swinger socials, I would say it is pretty rare to run into monogamous couples, but not unheard of. However, I am sure there are clubs that have a fair percentage of non-swingers that are their just to be part of the scene and have no interest in the lifestyle.

 

But it sounds like you are somewhere between that and soft swap.

 

The are certainly soft swap couples that I would not put into the monogamous category, even though they do not have intercourse with anyone other than their spouse. Most I have met usually engage in oral sex, but nothing more.

 

I have not met anyone at a social that participates at the level you are talking about. I guess it would be a really soft swap, or super soft? Maybe you can start a new category, say "fluffy" swap. Lol.

 

What ever your interest though, if you are patient and keep looking you will likely find someone that has the same interest. But the further away from the center you get the more time and effort it will take. It is also important that you are clear with your boundaries upfront so you do not unintentionally mislead anyone.

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I don't think it's very common based on our experiences, but YMMV.

 

Are we being rude?

It isn't rude as long as you follow what Coupleerotic22 said:

 

It is also important that you are clear with your boundaries upfront so you do not unintentionally mislead anyone.

 

Good luck! :)

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Thanks for the responses all! While I am very new to this, my SO has experience with the lifestyle in the past. I don't know if she is introducing me slowly to this or if she is truly happy where we are at (she is awesome!). I have asked this question many times in many different ways but always the same answer, "no, I don't want to involve anybody else".

 

We do go the the couples room, have played in the same space with others, talked, watched and were watched by the other couples. She is really good at setting boundaries with others, so far, its working well and we have a great time.

 

But it does sound like we are in the small minority!

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You're not in the "minority" so long as your goal is to have sexually charged fun. While there are different types of activities involved with swinging there is no graduate degree or doctorate awarded for a full swap. Go with what makes you feel good in your own skin and don't worry about what others may think. If you and your SO are turned on by having sex between yourselves but in front of others then enjoy that to the fullest. the only caveat is to be upfront with other couples as to your boundaries.

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I think there are always a few monogamous couples at clubs that are voyeurs and are only there for the thrill of having sex in front of others.

 

We kiss a lot of people and don't have sex with them. We dance, grind and rarely sleep with them that night (socials, not on premise) but the difference between us and you is we often want to sleep with them but there are always factors that get in the way. :lol:

 

Just make sure you are doing what the others say and not misleading them.

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Baby steps are a way to get used to the lifestyle and go at your own speed. Some people jump in head first (take that however you wish), many others go very slowly. We were certainly in the latter catagory. At any given time it wasn't clear whether we would ever be going any further...and that was fine. We went to clubs for a long time and only played by ourselves. We weren't ready for anything else. Then things changed and full swap became enjoyable for us...but we still had tabus. We thought we would only do full swap in the same room, then that seemed like an artificial barrier and we occasionally ignore it. We thought that we would only do full swap with other couples, then "something came up" (!) at a party and I encouraged Mrs. Rex enjoy some private 1 v. 1 with one of the guys and another barrier fell.

 

Go with whatever your comfort level is and don't overthink it...just know that your comfort level may change one way or another over time and what was once something way out there becomes something very natural.

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Although it's not common, it's definitely not unheard of. Being monogamous myself (my SO has a hall pass for play), I tend to spend most of my time at the club we attend just talking to people, and every so often I'll run across a monogamous couple who are just there to enjoy the sexually charged atmosphere, including one couple who have been regular attendees since the club's inception 20 years ago. I totally agree with what others have said about making it known up front. It saves a lot of confusion and misunderstanding.

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I think how common or uncommon it is may also depend on the club. For example, it may be more common in large clubs that have lots of first-timers or clubs that have vacationers, such as Trapeze in Ft. Lauderdale or Colette in New Orleans. It may be less common at clubs that have smaller memberships, and that are more local in nature.

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Thanks all for the feedback. The place we go, Club Sesso in Portland is pretty big I guess, between 200 and 300 folks on normal weekends and some events like New Years Eve have 600 or 700. I see many couples who I thought were just there for each other but now that I think about it, they have probably hooked up. We are pretty up front with folks and so far, we don't seem to have aggravated anyone... at least I hope.

 

We will take your advice to heart and make sure we don't mislead. Thanks again for the info!

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It's all about you! Don't be rude or mean, but do whatever turns you two on. We've had a blast at Sesso and nearly always stick exclusively with each other. Some of us just enjoy the flirty sexy vibe and the "potential."

 

Hope to see you Saturday night.

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Ugh....

 

Speaking as someone who always runs into monogamous couples at clubs who are there just to 'feel sexy' for the love of god TELL other people that from the start!

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Wouldn't it be a a little presumptuous to assume anyone that walked up to us or sparked a conversation with us wants to fuck us, even at a swinger club? I agree monogomous couples don't need to lead anyone on but you can usually tell if that is where the other people are headed. I can just see us when another couple walks up and says "Hi, how ya doing?" and we immediately say. "We won't fuck you" Hahaha

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Wouldn't it be a a little presumptuous to assume anyone that walked up to us or sparked a conversation with us wants to fuck us, even at a swinger club?

 

Yes it would, in my book anyway. I think it would be safe to say that a vast majority of people you speak to on any given night probably don't want to have sex with you. Doesn't mean they might not enjoy socializing with you though.

 

I agree monogomous couples don't need to lead anyone on but you can usually tell if that is where the other people are headed.

 

Ditto. When it's apparent that's the direction things are going, the couple not interested in playing needs to make their intentions known, whether it is because they are monogamous, or whether they are just not interested.

 

Sometimes I wonder if these situations are less of a speaking problem, and more of a listening problem. We all are prone to not hear what we don't want to hear. Make those cues non-verbal, as they often are in these situations, at least initially, and we really start to ignore them.

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Wouldn't it be a a little presumptuous to assume anyone that walked up to us or sparked a conversation with us wants to fuck us, even at a swinger club?

 

Couple A: How are you two this evening. Are these seats taken?

Couple B: We are great, no they are not taken, have a seat.

Couple A: Thanks! Oh, by the way, we know this is a swingers club, but we have absolutely no interest in having sex with you guys, we don't swing, we just thought we could share some good conversation.

Couple B: No problem, even though we are swingers we don't come to swingers club to meet people that we might want to have sex with anyway. Who does that, really?

 

In a swingers club it is entirely reasonable to assume that the some portion (probably the majority) of people are swingers and are looking to find others of like mind to hook up with, either that night or at some later date.

 

If a couple walks up to you and starts a conversation with you, it is reasonable to assume there is some interest on their part to at least get to know you better and see if there may be some chemistry. They have most likely talked to each other about you and decided there was enough interest to talk you and find out if there is chemistry and interest on your part. How often do you say "hey honey, I have no interest in that couple over there, lets go get to know them better," at a swing club?

 

I would agree that it is presumptuous to think that because a couple approaches you that they are ready to fuck you, but there is likely some interest on their part if they are approaching you at all.

 

And it certainly is presumptuous to think someone wants to fuck you if you approach them first.

 

We have never approached anyone, be it by web site, social or club, that we looked at and decided we had no interest in fucking. That is not to say we have not had conversations and made friends with people we had no initial interest in, but usually it is a case that we were introduced to them by someone else, they introduced themselves or something innocuous like striking up a conversation while waiting at the bar next to each other.

 

I agree monogomous couples don't need to lead anyone on but you can usually tell if that is where the other people are headed. I can just see us when another couple walks up and says "Hi, how ya doing?" and we immediately say. "We won't fuck you" Hahaha

 

In my experience people misread others far more often then they read them correctly, both in and out of the lifestyle.

 

And the art of conversation can quickly get the details out there so people can react accordingly. For example the OP could say something like this early in the conversation.

 

"How long have you two been in the lifestyle? Really!?! We have are fairly new to this. Are you full swap? Sounds fun, we are not at that point yet. We have decided, for now at least, we're going to stick to voyeurism and exhibitionism and not swap at all. Is that something you two might be comfortable with?"

 

Short, sweet, courteous, gets the cards on the table, finds out if the other couple might play in their sandbox, and it gives the other couple the option of having a conversation or to move on and spend their time looking for playmates.

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Concur with every point made in the post. It only took one experience with a couple not informing us that they were only in it for the sexy atmosphere until after a good part of the evening was gone. We get it on the table fairly quickly now, and pretty much like you described in the scenario at the end of your post.

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If a couple walks up to you and starts a conversation with you, it is reasonable to assume there is some interest on their part to at least get to know you better and see if there may be some chemistry.

 

Good points throughout this post, and the quote above highlights the importance of situational awareness, and how the circumstances should play a large role in how you react. I'm a big believer in life goes much more smoothly if you just pay attention to what is going on around you.

 

My previous thoughts were coming from the perspective that if you kept count, the majority of people you interact with are probably casual encounters - waiting in line to get in the door, at adjacent tables, you are next to them at the bar, the Mrs. likes someone's outfit and stops to to compliment her on it, and so on. For those casual interactions, really no need to presume anything just yet even if the conversation gets past the "how's it going?" nicety and moves into other small talk.

 

On the other hand, if you see a couple head your way from across the room, then as has been pointed out this is a swing club after all, and that is not by chance. In those cases, you should get your cards on the table sooner rather than later.

 

We use the "how long have you been in the lifestyle" too, usually almost right off the bat since it kills two birds with one stone - not only is it a common point of interest to help start a conversation with strangers, it also lets you know where everyone is coming from.

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Not speaking from any experience here-- our lone "dip in the pool" was at Sea Mountain where we kept to ourselves (hope to change that next trip though)-- but it seems presumptuous to speak to anyone, regardless of the setting, and "expect" some particular conduct. It also seems to oversimplify things, and people, to ask them to behave in a certain way.

 

Again, not speaking from experience, but it seems there are as many varieties in the "lifestyle" as colors in a box of crayons. It seems you can coordinate the colors, so to speak, by not pressing and going with the flow.

 

In our case, our boundaries are something in the soft to very soft realm (no need to give details). With that said, we are even then not looking for immediate and random encounters. In fact, part of our quest is to find a like minded couple we can have fun with on multiple levels (we literally have no couple friends in our since "transplanted in" home town). Given that, those who push the "let's get down to business immediately" MO are probably not a good fit for us. In the end, it should all work out in the wash.

 

Of course, those who enjoy full swap and any other variants, I say "rock on." You are doing what pleases you. It would seem if you are not pleasing yourself and working within your limits, there is no point.

 

So in the end, if we've learned anything from what we have read, is just have fun and treat this whole experience as a journey, not a pre-defined destination.

 

My two cents and that may be overvaluing my opinion!!!

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I don't see this much, if ever. When I do, it usually is some young hot couple that is looking down on everyone else/hasn't talked to anyone else the whole night.

 

I don't care if someone is fun to watch. I'm there to participate, not watch.

 

It's not rude, as long as you don't mislead anyone into thinking you will do anything more with them. Is it the norm? No.

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We have our own code name for monogamous couples at swing clubs. We fondly call them Librarians.

 

I seem to always try to pick them up. I think part of it is that they seem very confident and happy and totally in love. For me that is a very attractive look! The first couple like this I tried to pick up were just so cute and kind of nerdy. The girl looked like a hot librarian and the guy looked like I imagine the Time Traveler (from the book Time Traveler's Wife, also a librarian).

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      I stood up and redid my pants and told Don good luck, and as I was leaving, I heard Sue tell him to get his clothes off right now. She needed a good hard fuck.
       
      Friday came, and I arrived at Sue and Don’s house at 6:30 as planned. Nancy was not there yet, but Sue told me that we were not expected at the party until 8. Sue, Don, and I were sitting at their bar talking, and I asked where was this party we were going to and they said it was at a couple's house (Dan and Barbara) who they had met about 8 months ago. I did not know them, and I asked if they knew that I was coming, and without knowing me, were they ok with that. Sue told me that they knew and were fine with it, also that Robert and Cathy, and David and Joann would also be there, and that they all had vouched for me. Sue asked if I was still nervous, and I said yes I was.
       
      Meeting a lady for the first time, as a single, would make any man nervous, much less one you were going to a swinging house party with her as your date. Who would not be nervous? But knowing 3 couples that were going to be there helped somewhat. (Robert and Cathy were the first couple that Dee and I ever played with when we got into swinging, and David and Joann were part of the group that we got together with for about 3 years).
       
      Nancy arrived about 15 minutes later, looking stunning. She wore a low-cut gray blouse and a black skirt that stopped about halfway to her knees. Dark stockings and black high heels. She stood 5’7", about 135 lbs., and had legs to die for. Blonde hair, blue eyes, great smile, and very well-gifted up top. Her blouse was cut just right so that the mounds of her tits were showing down to the top of her nipples. She had an incredible tan line that went from a dark bronze color to almost show white ½" above her nipples. She was in her early 40’s, and I started to feel very nervous again. The four of us sat and talked until it was time to leave for the party, Sue ran and got her party bag, and we all loaded up in their SUV for the drive over. Nancy and I were going to sit in the back seat for the drive over, and as she was getting in, I saw she had on black garters that were holding up her stockings; with her low-cut blouse, I already knew she was bra-less, panty-less, well only time would tell.
       
      We arrived at the party, and I was introduced to Dan and Barbara. They are a nice-looking couple, early 40’s early 50’s, like most of the couples there. I saw that Robert and Cathy were already there, along with David and Joann. With a total of 10 couples there at the time, that made it 3 that I knew and 6 plus Nancy that I did not know. (I kept hearing Dee’s words; Mingle and meet, Mingle and meet over and over in my head).
       
      The party was going along like most house parties did, with people greeting one another, some snacks, some drinks, music, and dancing. Small groups standing around talking, a lot of flirting going on. As time went by, there were more people in different stages of undressed. A couple would be seen walking down the hall towards one of the bedrooms, more couples would be going out to enjoy the hot tub on the patio. Everyone was having a good time excluding myself. I had almost forgotten how at ease one could be and how much fun it was to be around people that thought of recreational sex the same as Dee and I did.
       
      (You see someone and you say, "I would like to fuck that person" They look at you and say, " I would like to fuck that person", and the two of you get together and fuck. Both enjoy it, and that is that. Your spouse knows about it and, most of the time, is there to enjoy it with you if not joining in. No jealousies ,no hard feelings, no fights, and most of all, no means no. But in the back of my mind, I kept thinking that I am now a single man in a couple’s lifestyle.)
       
      I was talking to a couple when I looked towards the area that had been set aside for dancing, where I saw Nancy, Joann, and Barbara all dancing together. All three had shed their blouses and were giving one hell of a sexy dance performance. I knew from what I could see from her low-cut blouse that Nancy had a nice set of tits, but to see her dancing topless they were great. They were round and firm with nipples that stood out ¾". At 43 years of age, they were more than likely bought, but real or Memorex, I did not care. I just wanted to suck on them. Her stomach was flat and firm and showed that she took care of herself at the gym. She still had her skirt on, but those long legs and that flat-toned stomach just started me to think how beautiful the meeting place must look.
       
      When the song ended, Nancy walked over to me and put her arms around my neck and kissed me. She looked me in the eyes and said, let's go. I want to have you alone first, and I had no problem with that. We walked down the hall and checked the first two bedrooms and found them occupied. The master bedroom was at the end of the hall, and when we opened the door, we saw Sue and Dan had already gotten there. We started to close the door, and Dan said to come on in. There was more than enough room on the bed; he and Sue only needed half of it.
       
      Nancy put her arms around my neck and kissed me, and whispered that she wanted me naked. At this point, she started to unbutton my shirt. I felt her firm breast pressing against my chest as I ran my hands down her sides. Her skirt had no snaps but was held up by the elastic waistband. It was just a matter of hooking my thumbs under the waistband and stretching it out a little so it would slide down her long legs. Just as I had suspected, she was panty-less. As she undid my pants, I cupped one of her tits in my hand and lowered my mouth to her nipple. My other hand found her wet hot pussy, and I started to finger fuck her with ease. Her hands had pushed my pants down to my knees, and she was stroking my swollen cock with both of her hands. I could hear her breathing getting heavier with each passing moment as I sucked her nipple and fingered her sweet wet hole. She looked me in the eye and pulled my head closer to hers for a long sexual kiss. She started slowly going down to her knees, all the while kissing my chest and stomach. When she reached my now rock-hard shaft, she cupped my balls and the base of my dick in both hands and opened her mouth to take its head into her mouth.
       
      As I stood there getting this magnificent blow-job from this woman, I looked over to the bed. Sue and Dan had moved to the sixty/nine position, and Sue was sucking his cock like she did mine the night before. Dan had his face buried between Sue’s legs, licking her sweet pussy for all its worth. He had his hands spreading it as far as he could to get his tongue in as deep as he could. I remembered just how good Sue’s pussy tasted when she would come, and she always came from a good licking. I wondered just how Nancy’s pussy would taste and did she enjoy it as much as Sue. It would not be much longer before I would find out because of the way she was sucking my dick and watching Sue and Dan, I started to unload in her mouth. My first squirt was deep inside her mouth; the second one she had pulled back but had her mouth open so that it landed in her mouth but mostly on the tongue. As she was swallowing the first two loads, the third hit her closed lips and started to run down her chin. She wiped it off with her finger and then cleaned her finger with her tongue. She stood up and looked me in the eye, and said thank you, we kissed deep and long, and then I told her it was my turn. As she landed down on the bed, I removed my shoes, socks, and pants. She was on her back naked except for her garters and stockings.
       
      I laded down beside her and started to kiss her gently on the neck; slowly, I worked my way down to her nipples, where I sucked and nibbled on each one of them. All the while, I was running my fingers in and out of her hot wet pussy. Her pussy was neatly shaved with just a puff of blond hair left above it. I have always preferred a little hair left instead of an all-shaved pussy, (I wondered if Sue had told her that and she shaved that way just for me). I was working my way down to her honey pot, and she was opening her legs for me. I normally like to work a woman by kissing, nibbling, and sucking on the inside of their legs before I dive into pussy licking. That always seemed to bring their tension up a notch, so when I did go for the gold, they were more than ready for it. With Nancy having her garters and stockings on, that kind of blocked that approach. I soon found out that she did not need that step of foreplay; I also found out that she was anything but a quiet climaxer. I had no sooner started licking, sucking, and nibbling her pussy than she started humping and screaming and cumming. She was begging me to fuck her right then, I needed a little more time to recoup from my climax before I could go on, and she didn’t seem to want to give it to me. I looked from between the legs, and I don’t know if Sue saw the whipped dog look in my eyes or if she was so turned on by Nancy's pleading for a hard fucking or what, but Sue came to my rescue once again.
       
      Sue was on top of Dan, and he was hammering away at her for all he was worth. Sue leaned over and started kissing Nancy and telling her to let it come. I was still down licking her pussy and thinking, "Let this climax run its course, and things will settle down till I recover and can produce again. With Sue's kissing and sucking Nancy's tits and Nancy sucking on Sue’s tits and a double effect. Dan announced that he was coming, and I felt myself coming back into the game. As I slid back up on Nancy to where I could enter her, Sue sat back up on Dan and started riding him hard. She was about to have her own climax and needed to concentrate on that. Just as I put the head of my dick to Nancy’s pussy she said NO, not this way; she pushed me off and got on her hands and knees and said do me from behind; I like it this way the best.
       
      I have no problem with doggie style, so I got behind her and guided the head of my dick into her pussy. I normally like to start slowly, but Nancy told me to do it hard and fast. So I jammed it into the hilt. She instantly started to rock back and forth, and it took a couple of seconds to get into her rhythm, but I got there and was on the in-stroke when she was rocking back and on the outstroke when she was going forward. Like I said before, you know when Nancy comes, everybody knows when Nancy comes, and it did not take long for her to come doggie style.
       
      After she came down from her climax, her body just went limp, and she sank onto the bed face down. Ok, I understand about fast climaxes; been there and done that a time or two myself, but this is the first time I had experienced it happening with the woman I was with. Normally it’s the man that has this happening. I lay down beside her and put my arm around he, and kissed her on her shoulder. I can hear and feel her breathing hard, but that is all the response I get. I look over and Sue is still riding Dan’s dick. I see that glazed-over look in her eyes, one that I have seen many times before, and I know that she won’t last much longer. Just then, I see Dan arch his back and drive into Sue as deep as he can go, his hands are pulling Sue down onto his shaft, and I know that he is releasing his load into her. Sue is wide-eyed and tells him Yes, give it to me, and I know from being there that she has also reached her climax. I lay there and watched her rock back and forth as Dan kept his back arched to give her as much dick as he could. I know the feeling of her pussy muscles on a dick, and I know what he is feeling at this moment. They are constricting and relaxing, constricting and relaxing as she rocks back and forth. Milking every bit of his juice out that they can. I watch as they slow down, and then Sue collapses onto Dan’s chest; she starts that silly giggle that lets you know that you did a good job.
       
      Sue rolled onto her back next to Nancy and looked at me, and asked if I was enjoying myself, and I told him yes. Dan said he needed a drink and asked if any of us wanted one. Sue wanted a margarita, Nancy wanted a glass of ice water, and I said I could use a beer. As Dan was off to get the drinks, the three of us sat up in the bed, the women sat cross-legged, and I just slid up between them and used the headboard as a backrest. I could smell the must of just fucked pussy in the air. There were two women sitting crossed-legged with their pussies open for all to see, and I still had a hard-on. Sue spoke first and said to Nancy, " Did I not tell you he was a good fuck or not" At that point, I could have crawled under the bed, except that Sue was now rubbing my hard dick. Nancy agreed and said that she can’t wait to go again. Sue said that the night was young, but Nancy would just have to wait her turn now because she was next. Thank god Dan showed up with the drinks.
       
      The four of us sat there talking and sipping our drinks. We could hear the party going on in the other part of the house with the music and the occasional orgasm from one of the partygoers or another. Sue asked if we knew where Don was, and Dan said he saw him with Joann, to which Sue said, "Well, he will be occupied for a while". All this time, Sue was stroking my hard cock, then she said that it looked like I was ready to go again, and so was she. Nancy asked her if we could all do it like they did it at the last party. Sue looked at me and then back at Nancy and said that she thought it would be all right. I must have had a questioning look on my face because Sue told me that I would defiantly like this.
       
      Sue had me sit on the side of the bed with my feet on the floor. She then turned around and straddled me backward. I felt her guide my dick into her pussy as she sat down on my lap. " As exciting as the unknown is when having sex with a new partner, it is just as exciting as being in the know and having sex with someone that you have been with before. You know just what they like, and they know what trips your button; Sue knew just what to do to trip my button." She started to rotate her hips to give my dick that just-right grinding. Feeling her slow humping up and down along with the rotation was driving me insane. About that time, I felt a tongue wrapping around my balls and work up my shaft to where I was buried into Sue’s wet box. I looked around Sue to see Nancy on her hands and knees licking not only my balls and dick but also Sue’s wet pussy, and Dan was behind Nancy just fucking away. Sue started to rotate and moan, which caused me to shove up harder; Nancy was licking and sucking faster, which made Sue moan and rotate faster. It was like a snowball rolling downhill. The more it went on, the faster it got. I don’t know what was going on with Dan, and I did not care. I know that I came harder and longer into Sue’s pussy than I can ever remember doing. I remember falling back onto the bed with Sue laying on top of me and still feeling a tongue licking the both of us, and then I heard a far-off scream that said fuck me fuck yes fuck me.
       
      Sue was pulling on my arms and telling me it was time that we rejoined the party. We walked down the hall naked and into the den. We went to the bar, and I sat down on one of the stools. Sue went and got us both a drink and stood between my legs with her arms around my neck. She asked me what I thought of Nancy, and I told her that she was definitely different than any woman that I knew. She said that there was a long story behind that and she would tell me later, but not tonight, I laid my head down between her breast, and she was holding me and rubbing the back of my head when Don came walking up to join us.
       
      Don sat down on a stool, and Sue went over and put her arms around him and asked if he was having fun; I said that he looked like he had been road hard and put up wet. To which he came back with a one-word answer. " Joann". Sue and I just laughed, and I asked if she was still a whirlwind in bed, and he said that she was a man killer if you let her.
      Sue kissed us both and said that we men better get used to the whirlwinds because they are going to rule the world someday.
       
      Note from Jay:
      I have tried to express some of my feelings, thoughts, and happenings into the stories about how I got back into swinging after Dee’s death. I know that it is not your typical swing stories that you are used to reading here. I know that I have brought up couples out of the blue for those that have not been on this site for very long. There are stories posted by " Jay and Dee" that tells how we got started in the swinging lifestyle, how we found out that Don and Sue were swingers, and stories that were milestones in Dee’s and my journey into this wonderful lifestyle.
       
      A lifestyle that I thought had ended with Dee's death. A lifestyle of freedom, pleasure, understanding, and pure joy that I thought I would never be a part of again if it were not for Sue. Some might read into these stories that I have an infatuation with Sue. That is not true. I love Sue. If you go back and read The Surprise, you will know that I have known Sue since we were in elementary school. Her older brother was my best friend until we graduated high school; now, her husband is my best friend.
       
      If it were not for Sue and Don standing by me and pulling me out of my depression, getting me back into not only the lifestyle but life itself did I meet Pam.
       
      Pam is another story all together
       
      I lost Dee in 2004, and the stories about how I got back into the swing happened in 2006. In future stories, I will try not to go back too far into the past, but sometimes my thoughts go there, to a time, a place, or a person that is so important to me that I must bring it up for the story context.
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