A Unicorn asks to go further

After finding a Unicorn even when we were told there are no such things we are now being invited to go to the next step.

When we first talked about bringing a woman into our bed my thought was the women having fun with me only touching and not going the full play. We discussed boundaries and agreed that we will go where it goes. My wife specifically mentioned that I could play as far as everyone is comfortable. I needed to make sure she was comfortable if it went that far. This was going to be a first for her and I didn’t want to add to the stress and doubts. Our unicorn was somebody we knew from social circles. We knew her not much more than that. My thoughts were she was excited to be with swing virgins. She knew our doubts. When that first time with all of us naked in bed she was fine when my wife froze when it was time to reciprocate. Our shortened first attempt did bring the women together socially and buddies. With my wife more comfortable we attempted a second try. It went much better. My wife had her first taste of a woman and I had full sex with someone other than my wife.

My conversation with my wife after the event had me apologizing for going so far. She said we discussed what could happen. She admitted she had mixed emotions and I admitted that I don’t know how I would feel if she was with a man.

 

Now we might find out. Our unicorn has suggested we join her and a male we again only know from seeing him around, and another couple we never met.

My wife initially said she wasn’t looking to have sex with a man. She was looking to fulfill a curiosity with a woman. It was very easy for me to agree to a threesome.

We are talking this out. I know that is a good thing to do before taking steps. Now it is she who reassuring me that we can stop even using the same safety word we set up before.

I have read as many threads about watching your wife the first time. Think I am prepared and even excited. I hope I can react the way I hope to.

I'm glad for you. You seem to be handling this very well.

My first time seeing my wife have sex with another man was only a little over 2 months ago, still pretty fresh in my mind (not that I think an event that big will fade much) I was apprehensive, then when he was about to enter her I was smiling, excited, and more. When she started making noises, that was one of the hottest things I have ever witnessed, if not the hottest. Everyone reacts differently, and nobody is wired exactly the same. It sounds like you are thinking like I was before our first full swap and I hope it goes the same way.

Mr. Dazed.

Handling it well? Maybe not. I am playing this scene in my head over and over again. Is it wrong to have doubts even when I didn’t have many doubts with our threesome? Double standard?

Honesty Honesty Honesty.

It’s the basis of our relationship. We need to decide today if we are going to do this. We know if we say yes we can still back down. I would think I am not the only one who has worried how they will handle the first time. I know my wife backed down the first time. That was not because of me, it was her not ready to do something with a woman. I only slightly thought of her feelings when she watched me the next time.

I feel bad now that I wasn’t that thoughtful of Her doubts. We had discussed it so many times and she wanted a second try.

Last night I asked if she was excited. Told her I’m nervous. We decided we don’t have to do this. There is no deadline. Opportunity will always be there.

I asked Honest, how did you feel watching. I asked what was the biggest thing that bothered her. At first she said it was just as she thought it would be. It was fun. I pushed to hear a negative. Why do I need to keep asking?

She then said Disease. We were with someone who has gone to swinger vacations. How do we know she doesn’t have something. She said she thought we should have brought condoms. I told her she was right. I then asked what else. Again why do I push? You came in her! She said she thought I was going to stop and be with her. I was honest and said it didn’t cross my mind to stop. I said you realize it didn’t take hours. It went pretty fast. I normally burst when my wife orgasms too.

 

As of now we are going. I would feel guilty if I said no if she wants to go. We will RSVP yes and continue talking.

While we NEVER recommend that you play with friends (or even acquaintances) we can forgive you this one time since you found your unicorn.

 

This isn't about being honest, it's about trust. Do you trust her completely and, if not, why? Communication will increase the trust and almost always remove the jealousy. You yourself said it: there is no deadline. Opportunity will always be there. Keep talking until you feel comfortable, but until then put this on hold...and try to plan better in the future and BRING CONDOMS.

.... When that first time with all of us naked in bed she was fine when my wife froze when it was time to reciprocate...

Ha, my wife specializes in those situations with a so-called "Pillow Queen." If a woman will let my wife eat her pussy but doesn't want to reciprocate then or ever, that's fine. My wife likes giving oral as much as getting it.

While we NEVER recommend that you play with friends (or even acquaintances) we can forgive you this one time since you found your unicorn.

 

This isn't about being honest, it's about trust. Do you trust her completely and, if not, why? Communication will increase the trust and almost always remove the jealousy. You yourself said it: there is no deadline. Opportunity will always be there. Keep talking until you feel comfortable, but until then put this on hold...and try to plan better in the future and BRING CONDOMS.

 

We honestly trust each other. There is no fear of her doing something that would danger our relationship. We have talked so much that trust is not an issue. She trusts me to play with the same friend we played with. She knows there is no attachment and that it was fun.

 

One never knows how they will react when they watch the first time. In my mind I have come to the fact that it’s just sex. We have not put boundaries in place. I expect her kissing. Watching her giving a blow job will be a little more difficult yet I know I have to watch. I hope she can orgasm from the sex.

You are in this to have fun. One thing I suggest is to never compare. Have fun but don’t compare his body or his fucking ability to yours. You want her to enjoy the experience. Chances are it will turn you on. Seeing the woman you love with another person, njoying herself is awesome. When my wife is with another man, I want him to Rock her world. Then later, I will do the same, it’s not easy the first time and not everyone can handle it. If you go thru with it, never hold it against her. If you don’t like it, then don’t do it again but never make her feel bad about it after the fact

Have Fun!! That is the best advice anyone can give you. Don’t take anything seriously. Granted, our first was with friends and everyone was able to laugh. Bloopers happen, roll with them.

My wife brought up swinging and she suggested our first. I needed to get past her desires. I think I read your wife watched you and the woman and that won’t be an obstacle. For me with all the laughing aside I needed to let go and enjoy. My wife and her friend are both 10s and I was going to be with a new 10. My wife was way more relaxed than me.

It may not be easy watching your wife touch or do oral to the new guy. For me it got easier going forward.

Good Luck

We didn’t meet the couples. We didn’t back out, it just didn’t happen. I may be relieved or I may be disappointed. We talked and discussed all the possible scenarios. We both agreed to just to go and enjoy and if we would stop if either of us gave the signal.

Saturday we called our friend to find where we were all meeting and were told that it wasn’t happening. People had other plans.

All the worrying.

Congratulations on finding a Unicorn. We tried to find one and never did. I wanted to watch her with a woman I admit. Agreeing to have a man join us was harder for me than her. You seem to be the one with doubts. Work it out before you go forward. We have met a number of couples where the woman was more prepared and the husband was very nervous. Take your time.