Concepts & Perspectives that swinging changed for you?

When comparing your previous vanilla self to the swinger you are today, what are some of the concepts and perspectives that have changed for you? Maybe the vanilla you would never have watched others having sex let alone attended a party where that could happen and the swinger you can't get enough of it.

 

What do you notice?

 

Thanks!

Both me and my SO can and are much more open and honest about...everything. While I always wanted to be more 'kinky' in my previous relationship, she was too afraid and untrusting to even consider swinging, or a threesome, or even just watching another couple having live sex (porn was okay, but only in the bedroom). I never imagined seeing, let alone doing, most of the things we have done. Friends are much more fun when you can talk openly about sex!

Friends are much more fun when you can talk openly about sex!

 

 

This right here would be great to have/develop! Even if we're not playing with that couple, being able to chat, hang out, party, etc. and be 100% open vs. somewhat censored would make us happy.

 

Thanks for sharing!

When comparing your previous vanilla self to the swinger you are today, what are some of the concepts and perspectives that have changed for you? Maybe the vanilla you would never have watched others having sex let alone attended a party where that could happen and the swinger you can't get enough of it.

 

What do you notice?

 

Thanks!

My new paradigm has not so much to do with sex or swing. My swing experience has given me the confident to approach anybody in a room and start a conversation. I'm feel sure that I could approach Aprah, Ellen, or Julia Roberts feeling no hesitation. I have learned how to "work a room".

My new paradigm has not so much to do with sex or swing. My swing experience has given me the confident to approach anybody in a room and start a conversation. I'm feel sure that I could approach Aprah, Ellen, or Julia Roberts feeling no hesitation. I have learned how to "work a room".

 

Just curious but what specifically did you discover about yourself that allowed you to do this? Or was it more about how the swinger community responded to you?

 

Thanks!

Just curious but what specifically did you discover about yourself that allowed you to do this? Or was it more about how the swinger community responded to you?

It was not so much what I discovered about myself but what I discovered about womankind. Every woman, whether she be Angelina Jolie or Princess Fiona, is the same at her core. She wants people to like her and she desires attention. She, like all members of our human race, likes to talk about herself. Realizing these things, I make a conscious effort to be listener.

My wife having sex with someone else is no big deal with regard to our relationship and love. It is a big deal with respect to her happiness.

When comparing your previous vanilla self to the swinger you are today, what are some of the concepts and perspectives that have changed for you?

I'm not really a swinger, but in a poly family with occasional outside play. The biggest change with me is opeing up to the Lesbian side that I didn't know that I had and becoming more instensely attached to the women in our family than the guys. Sexually, us women in our family need both each other and men (so much so that we share an outside boyfriend to, quite frankly, get enough dick), but the bond among us women is much stronger, especially after having babies together.