Emt 91 Posted February 7, 2019 My wife and I have been together for about 18 years, married for almost 10. Earlier in our relationship we had threesomes, sex at parties, etc. And we've been very dedicated to sex. I invented my own portable variation of a sex swing, we have a tantra chair, and a massive collection of toys. I'm also a sex therapist. However, we haven't played with and in front of others in years. So while I'm 100% confident and comfortable between my wife and I (as well as us playing with others), I have a few concerns about other people we'll meet. We're planning on attending a club event in our area in the near future. The first visit we'll just look to see what it's like, introduce ourselves to people we see, and won't really have any expectations. But I'm concerned others may not be interested in playing with us or maybe there are already groups formed that aren't warm to new comers. We will be using condoms for penetration but how is being clean/healthy established? Is it standard to carry around recent test results to clubs/homes or....? If we do hit it off with other couples while at a club, how do we find out about and maybe get invited to house parties to expand within the community? In time, having our very own sexual playground... we'd love to host parties! But I know that won't happen overnight. That's all for now, we'll see what your responses provoke as follow-up considerations. Thanks!! Quote Share this post Link to post
njbm 2,726 Posted February 7, 2019 It takes a little time and effort to develop a network of friends. We’ve been to quite a few house and hotel parties where no one expressed an interest in us. But we would meet and play with one couple and they would invite us to their house party and at that house party we would meet another couple. And here we are where we get together with three or four couples every few months. We try to meet new couples on SLS, but that is difficult. We really like lifestyle cruises. We’ve tried Caliente and the Desires and we like the cruises best. Have fun, try different approaches, be kind, be friendly and things will take off after awhile. Quote Share this post Link to post
the Nomads 78 Posted February 8, 2019 I'll give you the advice that was given to me on one of my first posts asking similar questions. Just walk on in and drop all of you clothes and ask the crowd who's ready to fuck.... I'm kidding... Don't do that... They don't find it funny... They won't let you back into that club again for a little while... Welcome from another newbie. Mr. Nomad Quote Share this post Link to post
Emt 91 Posted February 8, 2019 It takes a little time and effort to develop a network of friends. We’ve been to quite a few house and hotel parties where no one expressed an interest in us. But we would meet and play with one couple and they would invite us to their house party and at that house party we would meet another couple. And here we are where we get together with three or four couples every few months. We try to meet new couples on SLS, but that is difficult. We really like lifestyle cruises. We’ve tried Caliente and the Desires and we like the cruises best. Have fun, try different approaches, be kind, be friendly and things will take off after awhile. What you shared makes sense. Although I really hope I don't waste $70+ just to go and talk with my wife at a club/bar! We were on SLS 10-15 years back but we didn't want to pay for an upgraded membership. Cruises sound like a blast but I'm not a fan of boat vacations. And I've heard VERY mixed things about Hedonism(s). Thanks you for the advice, I appreciate it. Quote Share this post Link to post
njbm 2,726 Posted February 8, 2019 SLS is worth it in that it lists events in addition to member profiles. Free members are so limited, it doesn’t seem worth it. Paid and lifetime members don’t take them seriously. Sometimes you go to a good restaurant, pay $150 and the meal stinks. You pay your money and you take your chances. There are no guarantees. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Emt 91 Posted February 8, 2019 SLS is worth it in that it lists events in addition to member profiles. Free members are so limited, it doesn’t seem worth it. Paid and lifetime members don’t take them seriously. Sometimes you go to a good restaurant, pay $150 and the meal stinks. You pay your money and you take your chances. There are no guarantees. The restaurant example might not work well in my case. While at smaller establishments I'll just not return, at larger/chain restaurants I'll speak up and get them to do it right the next time. Back to SLS, I have no problem investing in our enjoyment. So if we go to a few parties and absolutely fall in love with the lifestyle, I'll pay to join SLS. But up front, I want to know that the community accepts us first. Thanks Quote Share this post Link to post