Soft Swap: A New Paradigm

Can I ask what their thoughts were on it? We are having that discussion and Mrs. N wants to hold back something intimate for just us. I’m okay with that but I’m also okay with full swap as I think what we have is much more than just a particular sexual activity.

We are devout condom users for full swap, but do not use protection for oral (soft swap). Therefore, if a couple is soft swap, it eliminates the stress of maintaining an erection with a condom on. When couples tell us they are soft swap, we are somewhat relieved and fine with it.

We believe in orgasms and we like sharing them with other couples. Hence, we don't necessarily require penetration. In fact, we like having orgasms in a group setting. Where they happen is way less important to us than THAT they happen. Consequently, even though we arena enjoy full swap swinging, we are more than ok playing with a soft swap couple.

Sometimes it's nice to have the last dance with the one you came with.

There's that comfortable familiarity finishing with your partner after you've been all worked up by someone else.

As I think most guys know, sometimes there is pressure to perform that can be debilitating. Shit gets in your head about performance, condom stress, whatever. Having the flexibility to go back to your own partner, or the understanding that's where it will end up can take the pressure off. Nothing wrong with that.

My wife and I did full swap with couples for a few years. Then we were out of the lifestyle for about 20 years. When we returned it was only very soft play, mostly online. We, actually, made better friends with these couples and the sex, and communication, between me and the wife was so much better than when we were full swapping.

Everyone has their own comfort zones and, if you find and remain in your comfort zone, everything is more enjoyable.

We feel it's all about fun. Yes, PIV is fun. But so is licking and sucking and touching and taking her clothes off and . . . So we never turned down a soft-swap couple that we liked.

On the other hand, one time a guy who was interviewing for an MFM threesome said he was soft-swap, and we passed.

We feel it's all about fun. Yes, PIV is fun. But so is licking and sucking and touching and taking her clothes off and . . . So we never turned down a soft-swap couple that we liked.

 

On the other hand, one time a guy who was interviewing for an MFM threesome said he was soft-swap, and we passed.

Yeah, a soft swap solo male doesn't make much sense.

Long time ago, my wife and I did a FFM soft swap. It was fine, my wife likes women too, so it was stimulation for us putting our hands and mouths over her body and fucking each other. Turned out that the girl was happy being a pillow queen, so we both ate her cunt.

That may also have something to do with the 20 years of growth you experienced in between you first foray and your most recent.