What has made you say No to someone

Growing up in NYC I have heard most things. I have heard and used many words most wouldn’t say in front of their parents. F was a word many times used in most conversations.

Has anybody you have met said or done something that has made you say Stop?

Since I have been pretty horny since youth, there is little chance that someone could say something that would make me abandon the opportunity. I've been turned off, of course, and the one I remember is a girl friend who was "taking one for the team," and was not openly hostile to me, but damned close. Forget it.

On the subject of language, though--I find that "creative swearing" is sometimes entertaining. The simply vulgar and stupid doesn't make me say "No," as much as I just avoid those people. Creative swearing has rhythm and a lyrical quality. Rare.

In my mid-20s, my gf/now wife moved in together after I got a new job. I made some friends at work and we all started hanging out with our SOs. One guy of the new group had an affinity for saying things for pure shock value. He used the “c” word around my wife once and noticed it made her uncomfortable. He would then continue saying it around her just to get a reaction. It got to a point where my wife dreaded hanging out with this guy and his SO because she knew he would push her buttons when it came to that word. I, along with his best friend, had to sit him down and ask him to stop as it would really kill the vibe of the group. Thankfully, it worked, and all was well with the world.

Personally, I do tend to avoid or socialize less with folks where every sentence has the f word, and the f word is the only adjective they know. I think that is just a product of where I grew up where swearing was highly frowned upon. Since college and entering the real world I have been to cities and locales where this type of swearing is the norm and part of their local dialect and perfectly acceptable. As the poster noted above, I too can appreciate those who are creative with the diverse set of curse words the English language has to offer.

P.S. Penn State break my heart yesterday. Oh well, hopefully next year will be better.

For us it's not as much about the language as it is about personality. Those of either gender who come across as God's gift to the other sex and think the world revolves around them and their desires get shut down quickly. I've encountered several women (the husband) in the past at Hedo that fit this description and my wife has encountered more guys like this online than we care to remember. We respect those whom we meet and attempt to engage in conversation and possibly more and demand the same in return.

My first thought would be someone calling me a cunt even though it doesn’t really bother me. I have personally referred to someone as a cunt if they are nasty. I don’t know why people get so upset with that and not pussy. Why did cunt become the dirtiest word?

I’m a Jersey girl and also heard it all and said it all. Attitude counts more than words. Nobody like someone who is in love with himself. You think you are the gift to women? I say fuck off. Attitude can also be sexy. I think it is depending on the situation. In the right setting I can be a slut or act like one. If we meet someone who needs me to be a slut to get them excited I will be a slut.

Two things do bother me. Don’t hit me. You hit me and you will regret it. Your balls are vulnerable and a target.

I also don’t like when I’m called a bitch. I’m not a dog! Strange, you can call be a fucking slutty cunt, just don’t call be a fucking bitch.

Gotta love those Jersey Girls!! So many good memories from summers "down the shore". Lesson learned very early….do NOT piss off a Jersey Girl. They tend to get mad AND get even!

Mrs Doc, who is from Eastern Pa but acts like a Jersey Girl sometimes, has said no quite vehemently to an unknown male who abruptly fondled her without permission at a swingers event. I pity the fool who would attempt that at a vanilla function. She has said no to the husband of a couple who spent an entire dinner at an upscale steakhouse talking about himself. And she's said no to a perfectly good looking man with a very hot and willing wife saying to me later, "honey, his breath was AWFUL". When I said she could have suggested a breath mint or gum (thinking about the hot and willing wife) her reply was, "a gargle with clorox wouldn't have helped".

These are all legitimate reasons. I've also heard:

"are you kidding? he's only 4'6".

"aren't peoples eyes supposed to be the same color"?

"I didn't shave for THIS"

She displays some serious Philly attytood on occasion which is in part why I enjoy the hell out of her! Then, just when I have her all figured out, I'll hear, "what were you THINKING"?

Wife and I were playing with a single attractive girl. Me on one side of her wife was on the other. Wife knows I like to eat pussy, and that probably be my next move. Wife stuck her finger in the womans pussy and pulled it out, she smelled her finger and let me smell, it was really stinky. We said no after that.

I said no more....when everyone else involved was ok kissing, but I was never allowed to! I felt left out

As I mentioned I grew up in an atmosphere where no matter what religion, race or nationality you were all people were the same. I have a disgust for people with prejudices. When I went away to college I met many people from different cities, states and countries. I met many people with many different backgrounds. Maybe I was brought up to be tolerant of other’s beliefs but I can’t be tolerant of people with hate. I have no desire to be with haters and certainly will not be sexual with a hater.

... One guy of the new group had an affinity for saying things for pure shock value. He used the “c” word around my wife once and noticed it made her uncomfortable. He would then continue saying it around her just to get a reaction...

My first thought would be someone calling me a cunt even though it doesn’t really bother me. I have personally referred to someone as a cunt if they are nasty. I don’t know why people get so upset with that and not pussy...

Two things do bother me. Don’t hit me. You hit me and you will regret it. Your balls are vulnerable and a target.

I also don’t like when I’m called a bitch. I’m not a dog! Strange, you can call be a fucking slutty cunt, just don’t call be a fucking bitch.

For some reason, I don't mind being called a cunt; I think it's because it makes me feel tough, smart. I don't like pussy though; it's someone, woman or man, who's not up to the task.

Lora and I are the only one who insult and hit one another as part of sex - not always, every other week or so when no one else is around. They find it disturbing. I don't know why, but with her it is different both ways; we are very much in love.

"Bitch" isn't something I am, it's something I do.

We almost said No withthe first couple we met. It took us forever to find a couple to play with. They looked way better than anything we expected to meet. The female was a sweetheart and as good looking as the male was he was a total turn-off in personality. Big penis and he knew it. We were more interested in the female and the guy berated her and acted like an asshole. We were totally new to this and didn’t know how to react to him. Linda I would say was a little star struck by his size too. Linda didn’t say no and didn’t have to because he lasted only a few seconds.

Best part of the meeting is we are still in touch with her and she isn’t with him anymore

First couple that every approached us approached us as “she’s bi, he’s not.” That made me feel that it was less about a swap and more about girl on girl and since I had not tried that and had no real interest or fantasy in it, we said no.

Since that time, no has mostly been with single guys who simply come on too strong.