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Are there any other young 20 somethings?

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Me and my husband just started talking about this lifestyle about a month ago and have been infatuated by it. We have been researching so much and even chatted with a few people on some apps. we also visited a club while on vacation last week just to get a feel for the atmosphere.. but everyone we have seen or spoken to is nowhere near our age group. Is this common for other young couples?

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When my wife and I played with other couples, out of the five, only one was through a swingers contact. And that was after we realized that we were actually wife swapping, as it was called back then. I think that most younger couples that are interested in expanding their boundaries don't think of themselves as swingers. They just think of themselves as open-minded and adventurous.

 

Look around at your friends and associates that you find appealing. Bring up the subject in an innocent way. Say you watched an old movie like 'Bob And Carol, Ted And Alice' or some other that was about couples playing and get their reaction. I remember our first swap was after watching 'Deep Throat' with another couple who were friends. It was that movie, and our open discussion after watching it, that made the other couple comfortable in sharing that they had played since they were married. And, within an hour or two, we were swapping spouses.

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When we were in our 20’s it wasn’t about going to couples clubs or swingers clubs, it was just getting a little wild at social events. I lived with the guy I eventually married. A couple of his buddies might drop by in the evening, we would smoke and joint and before you knew it I was naked. Or the same with a few other couples we knew. In fact, it was something we kind of grew out of once we became married and started our professional carreers.

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We have been using the 3fun app lately, and it has brought up MANY younger couples in our area, maybe try that. DON'T PAY for the subscription unless you have some luck (we did) because your area may be more sparse in younger, on this app, swingers.

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Most 20 somethings don't deal with the swinger lifestyle because it just isn't necessary. When young, there are many options for social gatherings involving alcohol and drugs. The fuse for uninhibited group sex.

When we were in our 20s we had no desire to share ourselves but the options tossed at us were constant. Seems everywhere, were people seducing people.

The older set uses clubs, personals and the like because as we get older, the party scene becomes much less favorable. We have to make our own opportunities.

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There are a few young couples that visit our club. The ones that do seem interested in looking only. The last couple of times we've gone I've spoken to some of these younger couples. In both instances they were new as a couple and the young lady had been before and was bringing a new boyfriend. Both girls seemed very comfortable and the guys seemed uptight about the whole thing.

 

I think in general, some of the members here obviously excepted, it takes some time and maturity to get to that point. At least it did with my generation. I don't know of anyone that was swinging when we were 20 somethings. I'm sure there were but we didn't know about it. As a teen, my wife babysat for a pair of couples who were swingers and would gather all the kids at one house for her to watch while they partied at the other.

 

The current generation of 20 yo certainly has a more open mind for and acceptance of most any type of sexuality.

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We're over 30 now, but started exploring nonmonogamy/poly in our early/mid twenties. We never went to clubs or anything, just got involved with likeminded people.

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