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This weekend the weather is supposed to be awesome in Seattle (High of 84 and pure sunshine) and an associate of my husband's (they used to work together in the same department) has offered to take us out on his boat in the Puget Sound. As far as I know, the guy is like a forever bachelor (think George Clooney before he got hitched) but he recently acquired a new girlfriend who will not be coming with us for some reason. He's handsome, maybe 7 or 8 years older than us.

 

Anyway, I've been getting in shape recently and I really want to dress to impress this guy. I have an incredibly sexy bikini I was thinking of wearing while on the boat (its a mini from SNS bikinis), but then I thought, we'll be in the middle of nowhere, how about I just take it all off and get a real tan.

 

My question for now, and keeping in mind that I'd absolutely be down for an MFM with him sometime in the future (keyword is future), is how should I approach this kind of nudity when I'm on the boat? Is it inappropriate, should I ask permission directly to him at the time, should I get my husband to tell/ask him, or should I just commit to my original idea and go for it anyway?

 

I guess you can say I want to take this opportunity to give him my "calling card" but have no plans of any other activity (at least this weekend). It's more of like a, "Hey, look at these goods I got." Maybe later my husband can kind of give him a sales pitch about our idea. We've always seemed to click at dinner parties and events (he's very charming) and I've discussed my fantasies of having an MFM with this guy to my husband a couple times in passing, but I (and we) really have no idea if this guy is into that lifestyle or how serious his new relationship is or even who his girlfriend is. For now, its just really a matter of having the perfect time to show off my tits and shaven pussy. Lol.

 

Guys and/or gals... thoughts?

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A lot would depend on everything leading up to the point you'd like to show off to him. The conversation, any flirting, the drinks, etc...

 

But when you feel the time might be right, I'd think you should smile, look at him and then your husband, and ask if either, and I repeat 'either', gentleman would object to a nude female getting a better tan.

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Maybe you should ask your husband what he thinks would be appropriate for you to wear while boating with his co worker. There is a considerable body of information on this site suggesting you should not start your LS experience with a friend.

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If you are set on doing this, which might not be the best idea as mentioned, I think the approach of asking both at the same time if they have any problems with it would be the way to go.

 

Of course he isn't going to have a problem with it but from a guy's perspective, if there is any flirting, teasing or sexual innuendo at all it may become awkward for him. He's not going to understand where it's coming from or where it's really going and he'll start to make shit up in his head. That could be good or bad depending on him.

 

Another thing to consider. You say you have no intentions of anything else happening but what if this really gets you turned on. It sounds like the thought already has you turned on. Will you change your mind and try to make something happen. My wife really gets turned on by exposing herself a little and that shy, good girl demeanor and inhibitions she might normally have go right out the window and she can become quite the seductress. I think it becomes a challenge for her, at that point, to see how far she can lead a guy without a rope.

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If you are set on doing this, which might not be the best idea as mentioned, I think the approach of asking both at the same time if they have any problems with it would be the way to go.

 

This is my opinion too. Proceed with extreme caution, but if you do, asking both would be the way to go about it. Suave bachelor or not, you are his guest, and before you do something that could make him uncomfortable, it's only polite to ask.

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We don't recommend 'playing' with friends or coworkers even if you are thinking about only doing it in the future. Too much of a chance of something going wrong and his work finding out...not a good career move. However, if you want to wear less than a micro bikini, you do need to ask first. Usually, any guy will allow you to take off your top, heck, they are usually hoping that someone will. Just say something about hating tan lines, do you mind? If he does say that you need to keep your clothes on, honor his request (then get on a plane, come to Nor Cal and we'll take you out on a boat where you can get naked). More than likely he'll be just fine with your request and I bet you will get lots of invites for future boat trips, but we would steer clear of including him in any play. Risk/reward is too high IOHO.

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We have a backyard pool, nothing fancy, but some of our friends come over and it's not unknown for the wives to sunbath topless. That seems like a totally ordinary thing to do - EXCEPT FOR - the fact that this is a work colleague and you are the only female attending. Get the husband's take on what is going to work for his needs, because fun threesome or not, professional drama is always bad.

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I think you've gotten great advice from others. I just wanted to say: I'd love to see your shaved pussy and tits, also your ass. Post some pics for us all. PLEASE!

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So you want to get naked on a boat, with your husband and a guy who likes like George Clooney and not have sex? No comment on that fact that he works with your husband, I have to go play with myself and finish this off. Will someone please rub in the oily sunscreen.

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This weekend the weather is supposed to be awesome in Seattle (High of 84 and pure sunshine) and an associate of my husband's (they used to work together in the same department) has offered to take us out on his boat in the Puget Sound. As far as I know, the guy is like a forever bachelor (think George Clooney before he got hitched) but he recently acquired a new girlfriend who will not be coming with us for some reason. He's handsome, maybe 7 or 8 years older than us.

 

Anyway, I've been getting in shape recently and I really want to dress to impress this guy. I have an incredibly sexy bikini I was thinking of wearing while on the boat (its a mini from SNS bikinis), but then I thought, we'll be in the middle of nowhere, how about I just take it all off and get a real tan.

 

My question for now, and keeping in mind that I'd absolutely be down for an MFM with him sometime in the future (keyword is future), is how should I approach this kind of nudity when I'm on the boat? Is it inappropriate, should I ask permission directly to him at the time, should I get my husband to tell/ask him, or should I just commit to my original idea and go for it anyway?

 

I guess you can say I want to take this opportunity to give him my "calling card" but have no plans of any other activity (at least this weekend). It's more of like a, "Hey, look at these goods I got." Maybe later my husband can kind of give him a sales pitch about our idea. We've always seemed to click at dinner parties and events (he's very charming) and I've discussed my fantasies of having an MFM with this guy to my husband a couple times in passing, but I (and we) really have no idea if this guy is into that lifestyle or how serious his new relationship is or even who his girlfriend is. For now, its just really a matter of having the perfect time to show off my tits and shaven pussy. Lol.

 

Guys and/or gals... thoughts?

 

Just be original - simply do it as a matter-of-fact, strip naked and lie down on a towel. Put on some tan lotion - then spread yourself, face down or face up, that doesn't matter. Do it as if you've done it before.

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Just be original - simply do it as a matter-of-fact, strip naked and lie down on a towel. Put on some tan lotion - then spread yourself, face down or face up, that doesn't matter. Do it as if you've done it before.

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I agree that asking first is the best course of action, as well as with all the cautions of playing with friends or co-workers (which can get dodgy, but there are always rare exceptions).

 

There is a whole culture out there committed to simply doing normal, everyday activities... while naked (i.e. recreational nudity). Try looking up the AANR or TNS to find out more about the "Naturist" lifestyle (the current PC term for "nudist"). You might be surprised. Nude hiking sounds pretty normal, but I've seen stories about things like nude skydiving, etc. (My personal favorite is being out in nature while naked, especially on a beach or natural waterfront, or in a forest or meadow, or boating naked.)

 

I'm betting that your host is not unfamiliar with requests for nude sunbathing on his boat.

 

It is always good to be educated.... In a strictly Naturist setting, it is inappropriate to make a lot of sexual overtones (and in some clubs / facilities, that can get you tossed). ... So know what you are getting into.

 

When I was 18, and new to the real world, I was doing some traveling for a few months, and needed some work. (I believe the year was 1976.) I got a reference (friend of a family member) and did some work for a hippie couple on their farm in middle Tennessee. It was Fall, so the weather was mild, to cool.

 

The following event is burned into my memory.

 

I had been working for them for several weeks, so they had plenty of time to size me up. We were all getting along really well. They were about 20 years my senior. A weekend was approaching, and they were standing on the steps / deck to their house. I was puttering around at the bottom of the steps, working on something (I forget what). Out of nowhere, in a quite matter-of-fact way, he asked me, "Does nudity offend you?" (A simple, direct question usually does the trick.)

 

This stopped me dead in my tracks. They were both watching me carefully, judging my reaction. I gave it a quick think, and simply answered, "No". (I grew up in a very liberal household [though with no open nudity], and had done some skinny-dipping as a kid, mostly in rural settings, just with kids my own age.)

 

I ended up getting invited to a Native American style "Sweat" ceremony, which had a very profound effect on my young life at the time. At that point I'd never had an adult "Social Nudity" experience, especially with a bunch of strangers (about 15 people, using the sweat lodge in shifts). Years later I would return, and attend several more of these events. There was never anything sexual about it. About a decade later I would discover the above mentioned culture and organizations (another major milestone for me).

 

I have to say that my interest in social nudity did not spark my interest in non-monogamy, only paralleled it. My awakening to the Swing Lifestyle came about the same time as my introduction to the naturist culture (the early 90's, during my first real forays onto the internet). It has only been in the past 5 years or so that I discovered the term "Polyamory", which I believe describes me best. (Unfortunately I'm a bit if a late bloomer... but all that has helped explain a lot for me.)

 

HTH (Hope This Helps)

Be Well... Have Fun!

 

(I get that this post may be a bit late, but just wanted to add my 2-cants.)

 

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Peekaboo...so tell us. What happened? Other s can learn for your experience and the details never hurt.

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Just an update on my boat trip last weekend.

 

First off, I should have mentioned earlier that my husband no longer works with this guy. They WERE associates, but he has since moved to a different department and they no longer work around each other. I know there were some words of advice regarding that.

 

Overall, it was quite an enjoyable trip and I had a fun time. I don't know if people have paid any attention to the news, but Seattle has been very smokey lately with all of the wildfires. Its pretty bad, but fortunately last weekend the weather was clear and nice.

 

And, yes, I stripped down when I was on the boat. I read the advice you all gave and I appreciate it, but I decided to just go for it and take my bikini off when the time was right. I just took the top off but the thong I wore was pretty much dental floss anyway. My husband ended up putting tanning lotion on me in front of his friend and I think they both got a kick out of seeing me nude. I even walked around the boat with my top off - no problem.

 

I achieved exactly what I set out to do: to show off my goods and give him my calling card. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

Later on, when my husband and I were driving back home, he told me that his friend told him that he was a lucky man and that my breasts were perfect. Before saying that, he had said something like "What a view" and my husband responded by saying, "Yeah, its a nice day", and he said back "That's not what I'm talking about." That made me smile. I think he liked what he saw and I got a nice tan out of the experience. Win, win.

 

Needless to say, I rode my hubby's cock nice and good when we got home. :)

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We don't recommend 'playing' with friends or coworkers even if you are thinking about only doing it in the future. Too much of a chance of something going wrong and his work finding out...

 

I've been to off-site retreats (Austria, Denmark) with European (mostly German) work colleagues, and guess what? There were nude spas/saunas at the places. About half of the group went on any given day. The only thing that surprised anyone is that an American would take all her clothes off and join in. There was no "playing;" although like anywhere, however, workplace romances happen. It was actually boring and I don't like over-heating, but I did find myself checking out the women more than the men. Perhaps it got mentioned by someone afterwards, but no one there cares.

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I've been to off-site retreats (Austria, Denmark) with European (mostly German) work colleagues, and guess what? There were nude spas/saunas at the places. About half of the group went on any given day. The only thing that surprised anyone is that an American would take all her clothes off and join in. There was no "playing;" although like anywhere, however, workplace romances happen. It was actually boring and I don't like over-heating, but I did find myself checking out the women more than the men. Perhaps it got mentioned by someone afterwards, but no one there cares.

 

The Europeans are so much more comfortable with nudity. It seems that it's just a natural part of life. My experience is mostly Germany and France. There's been nothing sexual about it at all unless you visit the spas and clubs set up for it(of which there are plenty). Munich now has urban naked zones which have become quite popular.

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Peek: I never said that there was anything wrong with you taking your top off on the boat. In fact, we highly recommend it (and did the same thing last weekend).

 

One thing we do wish is that nudity was more accepted in the U.S. You can show an endless stream of people shot and killed on TV, but don't let any of them show a nipple while it is happening... Violence on TV has been accepted as common place, but nudity is still considered 'dirty'...something is wrong here. We are all nude under our clothes, but we are not all violent. The body is a thing of great beauty, too bad it is treated as something that needs to be covered (and yet so much of advertising deals with sexual themes). The U.S. pretends that we are so open and tolerant of others beliefs/race/sexual orientation/etc but in reality, we can't handle seeing something that has so much beauty. Take away the designer clothes and how do you tell who is privileged and who isn't? And we wonder why so many people have body issues...sorry, but it's just sad. Rant over...

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The Europeans are so much more comfortable with nudity. It seems that it's just a natural part of life. My experience is mostly Germany and France. There's been nothing sexual about it at all unless you visit the spas and clubs set up for it(of which there are plenty). Munich now has urban naked zones which have become quite popular.

 

At the family resorts one will see, well, families with children of all ages. That's what seems a bit weird to me. Except that listening in to my European colleagues talk about it, their teenagers seem to be much better adjusted having seen most of their classmates naked at one time or another. Like drinking in Europe, the mystery and hyper-fascination with nudity is removed because it starts with the family under adult supervision in small steps at a young age.

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Boats are tricky insofar that someone who gets pushed outside their comfort zone has no ability to exit. The choice of nudity should be done explicitly in front of all parties. I remember my first hot tub dip with a couple. I simply asked if we are using suits. "no, we skip that," was the answer. Boats are tricky, though.

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This thread brought to mind a quote, which I only remembered the first part. I'm glad that I looked it up.

"Being in a ship is being in a jail, with the chance of being drowned. A man in a jail has more room, better food, and commonly better company." – Samuel Johnson

 

Having never been in jail, however, I can't say if it is true.

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