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Hotwife/Swinging Challenges/Dares - Making it into a game

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Alright, so I'm not sure where else to post this one. We met with our play couple last weekend and had a great time, and have been on the constant-sex binge since. When I got done with work yesterday, we ended up on the couch and in the course of dirty talk, I started teasing her about something she said once about handjobs, and she started getting off on the fantasy of being told to find a man to jerk off. Really getting off on it. Then on finding a woman to jerk me off.

 

She's still thinking about it, and it feels like we may have had a little breakthrough on making her comfort zone into a game. We're going back on vacation in a week to Barcelona and the south of France. Last summer we managed to hook up with another male for MFM while we were in Europe and it was great fun, and it feels like we're having a little breakthrough here and getting back into that kind of mode where she's receptive to playing with others being far from home and away from the usual norms.

 

Has anyone been down this road and/or have any good ideas beyond the generic "flash the pizza delivery guy" trope? I'm trying to come up with a handful of exhibitionist/hotwife-type things to encourage her to try. I'm not sure if she's quite ready for a club but I'm also looking into "Oops" in Barcelona. Two weeks to play around with this.

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Swinging IS a game, EastinWest. A couple must know the difference between "making love" and "fun sex."

 

I think many couples make the mistake of trying to do the same thing with swing partners they do with their spouses. It doesn't work. It's better to laugh, joke, giggle and do (somewhat) crazy things while swinging.

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It really shouldn't be difficult for your wife to find a random guy who wants a hand job, however I'm not sure the guy would be totally happy with just a hand job, that he may expect / or even need kissing, blow job, probably to feel your wife's breasts or pussy ECT.

 

I mean personally I'd struggle to cum just by a hand job from someone else, either I'd struggle to cum or it would take ages. If I could kiss the women, maybe have her suck my dick a bit as well then I'd find it a bit easier to cum. I have toyed around with similar ideas, for example if me and my girlfriend went to a bar / small club then I kind of like the idea of her finding a sexy guy that wants some fun and either telling him that I'm here husband but we have an open relationship, or that I'm her brother and we are on holiday together and that she can sneak off for 30 to 60 minutes, and basically just letting her play with a random guy with the understanding that they have to be done within the hour because (Me) the husband or brother will be looking for her, or heading back to the hotel or whatever, that basically she is up for some fun but has a time limit meaning she can sneak off with him for an hour and have a fuck.

 

I sometimes like the idea of going on holiday and just buying about 20 condoms and challenging my girlfriend to see how many she can use with random guys whilst we are on holiday, go out to a bar and let her dance alone for a while, when a guy comes up hitting on her just let them take a walk, slip on a condom, and let him have a go. Then kind of like the idea of her coming back to the bar and having a small break and then just dancing / flirting again and meeting another guy and having a private walk with him, seeing if she can fuck 2 or 3 random guys in a single evening then us both head back to the hotel for lots of horny sex. If she is just kissing a random guy / giving him a hand job / putting on a condom for some pussy sex then the risk of STD'S or anything would be drastically low, that if she avoids giving him a blowjob and they use a condom as well then there should be hardly any risk of STD'S, so basically just a safe fuck, and obviously I'd pick the "Ultra Safe" type of condoms, the extra strong / think type so they don't break as easy.

 

Generally the thing that would worry me is simply the security of the situation, that if my girlfriend to agreed to flirt around with another guy in a bar / try and pull some random guy, then I'd need to know that bar had good security like fully working up to date CCTV and a team of security officers, or club bouncers ECT. If possible I'd probably want to capture the man on film,, like discreetly video him talking to my girlfriend using my mobile so if anything bad did happen I had a few clear face shots of the man. I'd also be tempted to ask my girlfriend to carry some kind of protection, maybe a discreet rape alarm in her pocket, maybe a small tin of self defence spray in her pocket, maybe just a sharp pencil in her pocket that could be used as a last resort weapon if needed.

 

If they are going back to our hotel room then I like the idea of the hotel also having good security such as CCTV. I have sometimes toyed with the idea of going on holiday and letting my girlfriend pull and random guy and take him back to our hotel room with me discreetly been near by. That they are upstairs in the room and I am sat downstairs in the beer garden / below our room so I can easily hear if she screamed or shouted. Either that or have some kind of listening device such as a hand held radio or something so I can hear if the man became rough or aggressive with her.

 

I think overall if we were going to explore this I'd want to make sure whatever man she picked had been captured on several CCTV cameras and on video using my phone, that I'd want a few clear pictures of his face and what he was wearing before he wondered off anywhere with my girlfriend.

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Swinging IS a game, EastinWest. A couple must know the difference between "making love" and "fun sex."

 

I think many couples make the mistake of trying to do the same thing with swing partners they do with their spouses. It doesn't work. It's better to laugh, joke, giggle and do (somewhat) crazy things while swinging.

 

I get that, but what I'm getting at is that we've trying to get over the hurdle of experimenting more beyond our familiar couples and doing it this way has actually sparked her interest.

 

It really shouldn't be difficult for your wife to find a random guy who wants a hand job, however I'm not sure the guy would be totally happy with just a hand job, that he may expect / or even need kissing, blow job, probably to feel your wife's breasts or pussy ECT.

 

Without a doubt, and I hammered that post out last night in a hurry but could have been clearer, that it's not specifically that, just that she got a lot of comfort out of it being my idea and giving her something specific to try - which I probably should have figured out two years ago, but whatever. The handjob scenario is incidental.

 

A 20 pack of condoms sounds like a great idea, but maybe a little advanced, especially considering we only have about 15 days and a lot of daytrips planned. :lol:

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Sun & Moon, all your protective advice is good, however, most of it is for after the fact identification of the perpetrator. My advice would be not to do it all if there is any question about the security of your SO.

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Dares and Games, we did this, not so much as a dare but more as part of a fantasy I developed after reading a book, actually a trilogy where the woman, in times of old and days gone by, was trained to be her Prince’s sex slave. My fantasy was to be so trained and the BF, now my hubby, did it. It involved a lot of me being exposed and then me exposing my self to men, first from afar, a table in a bar, to much closer, at the bar. We moved from fancy bars to dive bars, from down the bar to the guy sitting next to us and then while chatting with him or them. It caused me to become a exhibitionist, I was turned on by doing it. And, I’m sure it led to our first MFM and swinging.

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Sun & Moon, all your protective advice is good, however, most of it is for after the fact identification of the perpetrator. My advice would be not to do it all if there is any question about the security of your SO.

 

Yes obviously if you doubted the person for some reason I'd not attempt such things, sadly however if your meeting a stranger for a one night stand your not actually going to know much about them at all

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One of the things we did was a 'game' I called, 'Complete the story.' Since I'm the one who gets off on creating stories, I'd create a scenario, then let her fill in the blanks.

 

For example, "We meet a couple on the patio of a restaurant. What is he wearing?" She'd answer. I'd ask another question. "Are they both wearing wedding rings?" Again, she'd answer. I'd try to modify the following questions to match her responses. In other words, I would lead her along into creating a fantasy. It was hot for us, we'd wind up having some hot sex.

 

Then, when we'd get into a real situation, she'd be more willing to put herself out there.

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