Watching and being watched

It has been a few years for us and I still don’t like watching. I didn’t have a problem being on a nude beach with strangers and people we just met. That experience did lead us to our first swap. Looking back I still think it was a great romantic night with a man I had just met. I still question why it didn’t scare me and how I let myself give in. I wasn’t looking for something missing in my marriage, our home life is excellent including our sex life. My hang up is having sex in a room with other people. I say the experience changes completely. When we swap and go to separate rooms I am fully aware my husband is having fun. I don’t think much of what he is doing. I’m thinking it is everything I am doing with my partner. When we play in the same room I will look over but not watch. I also know I am a little inhibited in my fun. I have no problem telling my husband details of what I do and we are very open in our after talks. My husband says there is thrill watching me. He says he enjoys watching me have fun. He also like when I play with the other wife, something I am still hesitant to fully do.

I read of all the men who enjoy watching their wives. Do the wives enjoy being watched and how do they feel about watching?

You are not alone in feeling this way. I have very little interest in watching my wife have sex and she has very little interest in watching me have sex. Neither is trying to avoid the thought of the other having sex. It is simply that neither of us consider watching to be very entertaining. Possibly related, neither of us have been particularly drawn to porn. Evidence suggests that we in in the minority.

Watching is a massive part of the experience for us. I can't say I particularly like being watched, but I do appreciate that my husband enjoys it, so I try not to dwell on the fact at the time. I wasn't sure if I'd even like seeing my husband with someone else, let alone actually enjoy watching him. So I understand people who aren't in to it, but for both of us its most definitely same room or not at all.

I’m not big on porn, but in real life I enjoy watching and being watched. In the middle of an intense sexual act I tend to get pretty much into my partner(s).

I recall being at a party and fucking on the floor with a woman (it was a hotel suite and crowded) I’d met earlier that evening. As this partner and I were getting started I had noticed a few feet from us a couple chatting with a third guy (a host of the party). They didn’t even seem to notice us as I slipped into my partner’s pussy. We’d been fucking for some time and at one point I glanced over and noticed that the couple had stopped their conversation and were both languidly masturbating as they watched us. It was an incredible turn on and within a few seconds I began to orgasm.

Some couples enjoy both watching and being watched. It is part of the thrill. Have also noticed that some women don’t like to see their husband with another woman. The majority of the men we have met truly want to see their wife playing. To most couples who have been doing this for some time are less inhibited. We have met a number of couples that are new. Some wives hold back in front of others.

We are not swap swingers. but like to watch or being watched. Like to do sex in same room with many couple together

I mostly have sex without my husband nowadays. In the past, he did like to watch, but I always felt a little self-conscious. Curiously, I did not have a problem at clubs or parties, where It was a bit mor anonymous and I was having sex in a room full of strangers. I did not particularly like watching my husband when he was havin sex. I know that it is not fair, but I would feel a little jealous.

Just chiming in here. When my wife was a hotwife I always knew what she was doing and was present in the room with her about 90% of the time. I loved to watch. She enjoyed me being there, sharing in her pleasure, and yes, helping her by bringing water or snacks, putting pillows under her ass so the guy could screw her better, etc.

Now when we were in a foursome swap or orgy situation, I kept tabs on her, to make sure she was safe, but I was too busy having fun with the other woman to concentrate on watching her.