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    Smile Second time

    Yah, we've been invited round to the couple we met last weekends house for a second night of fun!
    Although going to their home isn't neutral ground we're absolutely delighted to be asked for a second meeting. Most of meant we weren't that bad, which is amazing! lol
    Usually going round a friend's house for something we'd take a bottle of something and probably some flowers, I presume thats the same.....I mean standard gifts not anything more erotic?
    I think I'm actually more excited meeting them for a second time, although I guess we weren't actually planning on doing anything with anyone else last time?
    Also they've asked to sext, which I thought we'd be ok with, but wow I think we're out of our depth!!
    Any thoughts or advice like always gratefully appreciated.


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    Yes, a bottle of wine or such would be a nice touch.

    If you're not comfortable with sexting, or anything else, don't. You need to stat in your comfort zone to have a good time. And, as always, go at the slowest partner's speed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by adamgunn View Post
    Yes, a bottle of wine or such would be a nice touch.

    If you're not comfortable with sexting, or anything else, don't. You need to stat in your comfort zone to have a good time. And, as always, go at the slowest partner's speed.
    Oh no we're happy sexting, we have indulged together on numerous occasions....their just straight to the point and on a different level to us thats all.
    I guess usually I'd be the cautious one, but my god Saturday's a long way off! lol

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    Wine: yes!

    Sexting: Make sure that all four are involved in a group sext. One hard rule that we have always kept in order to prevent drama is that it's either all four of us or just the girls or just the guys. NEVER any girl/guy separate contact...it just eliminates any potential problems and/or misunderstandings.
    If you donít have to lie about sex, you donít have to lie about anything. - John Williamson

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoCouple View Post
    Wine: yes!

    Sexting: Make sure that all four are involved in a group sext. One hard rule that we have always kept in order to prevent drama is that it's either all four of us or just the girls or just the guys. NEVER any girl/guy separate contact...it just eliminates any potential problems and/or misunderstandings.
    Oh most definitely!
    We got a different phone for this sort of thing and we only use it together,although I reckon we could do with some help our end! lol

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    Everything stated here is spot-on!

    A nice bottle of wine doesn't have to be expensive. A true wine shop can help. Costco also has wines with ratings and explanations above each variety. So, if you don't know much about wine, I'd recommend those two places as a starting point. Just make sure you don't show up with Boone's Farm Strawberry Hill or some Mad Dog 20/20 and you should be fine.

    As things progress, it would also be acceptable to bring a toy as a gift. Make it something you know will be enjoyed by all. Unless discussed prior, you don't want to bring some wacky experimental stuff to find out whether or not they're into something. Maybe bring a vibe or blindfold. Save the chainmail and ratchet straps for your own bedroom unless they say they're into it!

    Another good idea is to bring snacks. Especially if it's going to be "a long night" and you'll need some replenishment. Just think about what a good "date night" snack would be. Stay away from the chips, brownies, garlic, anchovies, and other stuff that either stinks or will get stuck in your teeth. Maybe stick with fruit or salad wraps. It all depends on you and your hosts as well. If you're getting together in a trailer park, hack up a pineapple and be done with it. If you're going to a mansion, maybe try some fragrant herb sushi or jellied fruit tarts. Don't go heavy on carbs because they'll make you tired. I'm a fan of fruit because it's light and has plenty of sugar to boost the energy level.

    As for sexting/camming, it's one of our favorite things to do; however, I would strongly recommend a "no faces" policy. EVER. Those pictures hit hundreds of transmission nodes along the way and you never know who's going to be able to snag it from cyberspace. Maybe you don't care, but I'd rather have a thousand people see my dick than have just one see my face.

    P.S. Ripple is also not an acceptable beverage choice unless you're swinging in Compton.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Myzyri View Post
    Everything stated here is spot-on!

    A nice bottle of wine doesn't have to be expensive. A true wine shop can help. Costco also has wines with ratings and explanations above each variety. So, if you don't know much about wine, I'd recommend those two places as a starting point. Just make sure you don't show up with Boone's Farm Strawberry Hill or some Mad Dog 20/20 and you should be fine.

    As things progress, it would also be acceptable to bring a toy as a gift. Make it something you know will be enjoyed by all. Unless discussed prior, you don't want to bring some wacky experimental stuff to find out whether or not they're into something. Maybe bring a vibe or blindfold. Save the chainmail and ratchet straps for your own bedroom unless they say they're into it!

    Another good idea is to bring snacks. Especially if it's going to be "a long night" and you'll need some replenishment. Just think about what a good "date night" snack would be. Stay away from the chips, brownies, garlic, anchovies, and other stuff that either stinks or will get stuck in your teeth. Maybe stick with fruit or salad wraps. It all depends on you and your hosts as well. If you're getting together in a trailer park, hack up a pineapple and be done with it. If you're going to a mansion, maybe try some fragrant herb sushi or jellied fruit tarts. Don't go heavy on carbs because they'll make you tired. I'm a fan of fruit because it's light and has plenty of sugar to boost the energy level.

    As for sexting/camming, it's one of our favorite things to do; however, I would strongly recommend a "no faces" policy. EVER. Those pictures hit hundreds of transmission nodes along the way and you never know who's going to be able to snag it from cyberspace. Maybe you don't care, but I'd rather have a thousand people see my dick than have just one see my face.

    P.S. Ripple is also not an acceptable beverage choice unless you're swinging in Compton.
    Yeah a nice bottle of wine and no kinky stuff......yet!
    They've said that there going to do something to eat, which will be nice.
    We agree totally about faces, besides they haven't suggested camming and we won't be either! lol

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    I was always grateful for a plate of fruit and veggies pre-cut and ready to eat. Sometimes a group session can go on for hours. A snack break is very welcome. Plus it's awesome to go into the bathroom an hour after eating to see a chunk of broccoli on your teeth.
    Also a bucket filled with ice and bottles of water. This shows you mean business!

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    Quote Originally Posted by JandKinBoise View Post
    I was always grateful for a plate of fruit and veggies pre-cut and ready to eat. Sometimes a group session can go on for hours. A snack break is very welcome. Plus it's awesome to go into the bathroom an hour after eating to see a chunk of broccoli on your teeth.
    Also a bucket filled with ice and bottles of water. This shows you mean business!
    A bite to eat sounds great, but theres got to be a limit somewhere? I'm not sure what people are used to, but I was a little sore the next day last time!


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    I would treat it like any other dinner-date, get-together except... sex.
    So whatever you'd normally bring as a polite social gesture would still be proper etiquette.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoCouple View Post
    Wine: yes!

    Sexting: Make sure that all four are involved in a group sext. One hard rule that we have always kept in order to prevent drama is that it's either all four of us or just the girls or just the guys. NEVER any girl/guy separate contact...it just eliminates any potential problems and/or misunderstandings.
    We don't sext, per se, but we have a similar way of handling things: communications are male to male, female to female, or as a group. Its not so much a rule as a mor that flows from our implicit shared sensibilities. It keeps things delightfully uncomplicated. Of course, Ape is straight and Babe is "bi-pragmatical" (straight, but willing to go girl-on-girl if she's comfortable with the other woman, aroused by the four-in-a-bed play, and thinks it will grease the skids). If one of us were genuinely bi it might not work as well. Of course, thus far, the male-half of the couples we've been chatting with have all asked me if they can make a pass at Babe when we meet. An odd, but much appreciated courtesy!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BabeAndApe View Post
    I would treat it like any other dinner-date, get-together except... sex.
    So whatever you'd normally bring as a polite social gesture would still be proper etiquette.
    Yes polite.....until we get to the bedroom!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BabeAndApe View Post
    We don't sext, per se, but we have a similar way of handling things: communications are male to male, female to female, or as a group. Its not so much a rule as a mor that flows from our implicit shared sensibilities. It keeps things delightfully uncomplicated. Of course, Ape is straight and Babe is "bi-pragmatical" (straight, but willing to go girl-on-girl if she's comfortable with the other woman, aroused by the four-in-a-bed play, and thinks it will grease the skids). If one of us were genuinely bi it might not work as well. Of course, thus far, the male-half of the couples we've been chatting with have all asked me if they can make a pass at Babe when we meet. An odd, but much appreciated courtesy!
    Yes all contact with anyone else will only be done when we're together....no exceptions.

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    Remember that you don't need a corkscrew if the wine comes in a box...
    If you donít have to lie about sex, you donít have to lie about anything. - John Williamson

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoCouple View Post
    Remember that you don't need a corkscrew if the wine comes in a box...
    Cheeky!

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    Is normal to be more nervous on the run up to a second meeting with people you've already swapped with?
    I think he's a little bit more relaxed than me, but thats not saying much! lol
    I thought that I'd be pretty relaxed and unworried, but I'm starting to think that there might certian expectations this time, don't get me wrong I'm not saying that anything has been said....but am I wrong?
    I think I'm trying to fill the time before I get ready....

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoCouple View Post

    Sexting: Make sure that all four are involved in a group sext. One hard rule that we have always kept in order to prevent drama is that it's either all four of us or just the girls or just the guys. NEVER any girl/guy separate contact...it just eliminates any potential problems and/or misunderstandings.
    Interesting. That's a rule we don't have (can't think of a rule that we DO have). It's like foreplay in my mind.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Numex View Post
    Interesting. That's a rule we don't have (can't think of a rule that we DO have). It's like foreplay in my mind.
    Yes it is, thats why you have to play as a couple!

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    Our playmates once brought us a bottle of Mťnage a Trois brand wine. So appropriate!

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    We are with Numex. We give out our guy’s cell number only, unless we know a couple well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by njbm View Post
    We are with Numex. We give out our guy’s cell number only, unless we know a couple well.
    Ages ago when we first really decided to try and find another couple we bought a pay as you go phone.....finally we've got to use it!!
    Neither of us would be happy giving out either of our own numbers, not at this stage anyway.

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    You asked, "Is normal to be more nervous on the run up to a second meeting with people you've already swapped with?"

    That's not odd at all. Even though you had a successful first run, you're anticipating how the next one is going to go. It's normal to have butterflies.

    Enjoy yourself, good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by adamgunn View Post
    You asked, "Is normal to be more nervous on the run up to a second meeting with people you've already swapped with?"

    That's not odd at all. Even though you had a successful first run, you're anticipating how the next one is going to go. It's normal to have butterflies.

    Enjoy yourself, good luck!
    I guess everyone has certain preconceptions and expectations, so I think we were more nervous this time than last....although last time it just sort of happened, so there was little time to think.....or worry?

    We did thanks!

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    It becomes easier as the comfort level increases...so how did things go?
    If you donít have to lie about sex, you donít have to lie about anything. - John Williamson

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoCouple View Post
    It becomes easier as the comfort level increases...so how did things go?
    Extremely good, although I think I'd prefer to meet at hotels in future?
    Funnily it felt stranger at first, although once things progressed I definitely felt comfier and I guess more relaxed.....apart from a few surprises!
    Apart from the slightly awkward start, there weren't any problems this time.
    They've already said they want to meet again, so I suppose their happy??


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