Wife is frustrated with soft dicks

So we have played with three couples over the last year, and the wife is getting frustrated that only one time has the other male been able to get an erection to play.

One couple turned out to be a dud, and the good one for her, the wife was not good for me.

The other couple was fun and he took care of her in other ways, since he has yet to get an erection, we have played with them a few times, they are friends of ours.

I tried to tell her this is common in our age group, over 55. She has had a medical issue and put this on hold for about four months, but now that she's better she doesn't have any interest.

She was the one who said she wanted some friends with benefits. Any thoughts on how to get her interested again?

Try a club?

Good idea, but she doesn't want to go to a club.

Have you considered an MFM? Since there are a large number of single guys wanting to play with a couple, you can kinda 'customize' your experience by looking for a specific kind of guy. "stays hard, long lasting" is a good request.

I know this situation leaves you without your own play partner. If pleasing your wife turns you on though, you won't believe what 2 experienced lovers can do.

Thanks for your suggestion, will suggest this to her.

I agree with JandKinBoise...

Simply "Vet" the people your meeting a little better.

Men not been able to get hard is a very common thing and it happens for a large variety of reasons, to name just a few I'd say.

1. Smoking: Men who heavily smoke tobacco, or even Cannabis can suffer erection problems as a result.

2. Over Weight: Been over weight or generally in bad health can cause erection problems.

3. Heart Issues: Can cause erection problems.

4. Alcohol: Heavy drinkers can suffer erection problems.

5. Medications: Certain medications can cause erection problems.

6. Anti Anxiety / Anti Depression Medication: Can cause erection problems in some males.

HOWEVER.... Lets not forgot the classics, such as:

7. Anxiety: People simply been nervous of a new situation can cause erection problems.

8. Guilty: Feeling guilty, feeling like they are cheating, feeling like they might get into trouble can cause erection problems.

9. Depression: If they are feeling stressed, worried, concerned, or even self doubt then it can cause erection problems.

10. Tired: Simply been over worked, tired, run down, not sleeping well enough can all cause erection problems.

11. Food: Eating a large meal just before sex can cause erection problems.

There are lots of different reasons that men will suffer erection problems and if your more careful about "Who" you meet then you can avoid a lot of those problems from the start. For example don't meet heavy smokers, don't meet vastly over weight people, don't meet heavy drinkers and you will lower the chance of meeting someone who has erection issues.

However where couples are concerned I find it extremely common for the male to experience erectile problems during the first 5 to 10 meetings.

My personal opinion here is that often the man is to nervous about how his own wife will react.

His wife has agreed to try this swinging situation but the man knows that....

If his wife doesn't like the situation, if his wife somehow feels bad, used, dirty, about the situation then he will go home after and face an argument or even get "Told Off" and shouted at by an angry wife. That a lot of men can not let go and relax until they know their wife is really okay about the situation.

Yes the man wants sex, the man would like nothing better than to please a new women, explore a new women, but first he needs to assess how his wife feels, how his wife will react which can take some time.

VIAGRA:

One way to combat all these problems is to find someone who is taking / is willing to take Viagra or other erectile based drugs.

When you meet someone on line you can ask them directly....

"Do you use any erection drugs like Viagra? Have you got any erection drugs like Viagra? Would you be willing to get any erection drugs like Viagra if needed?"

Even if you meet someone who is older, larger, or even smokers or drinkers then using erectile drugs should solve all the problems.

HOWEVER, PLEASE NOTE - DON'T ever "Give" anyone Viagra or other erectile drugs.

If you meet someone who suffers erection problems then you can "Suggest" that they buy some Viagra from an online pharmacy, or that they see their doctor for a prescription. You are not a doctor, you are not a chemist or pharmacist and are not legally allowed to hand out medication.

If a person wants to use / try such erectile drugs make sure they order those drugs themselves, in which case if they suffer an adverse effect from them its not your fault.