Body sizes for men & women

Hello ALL

About us : we are indian married couple, we are fit & lean, we both have similar structure, I am tall, she is slightly short.

Question : while we meet some couples from around the globe, they are all different stature, mostly on a healthier side (by this I don't mean fat or unfit), but yes the body structures are definitely more mass than we have. For my wife it's usually not a problem, but I have been feeling that during our sessions, with thicker thighs women have, it has become some sort of a botheration for me, may be just in my mind, whether I am all in or not, or is she having fun or not. I don't know, is it just me or ?

I am by no means small, but, once we had a BBC amongst us, he did steal the thunder (nothing new)...(how many times we hear that size does not matter, even then women mostly don't mins a bigger penis).

Any thoughts on this will also be welcome.

HOPE I AM ABLE TO PUT IT RIGHT WHAT MY QUERY IS!

Thanks in Advance

AmanD

I don’t see this as a problem. I’ve had a big one, embarrassed myself going a little crazy over it after years of saying size doesn’t matter. But, size or expected size is by no means a selection criteria. It is more about cleanliness, manners, respect, and personality. For me, and for many Americans, I think the idea of getting to know someone from India, or Argentina or from many, many other countries adds a degree of mystery or romance. The last time we were at Desires, there was a young Indian couple and everyone seemed quite welcoming to them.

I agree, there are many different factors that make up sexual chemistry, so I wouldn't get too hung up on worrying about any specific one of them.

In terms of your confidence when being with partners who may be shaped differently than your wife, that's just a practice thing. When you think about it, it takes a lot of coordination to make the deed happen gracefully, and when you are with someone for the first time, all of the pieces aren't going to fall into place and fit together from muscle memory alone like they do with your spouse. The first time you and your spouse had sex probably didn't go that smoothly either. Too, with someone new, you don't know all of their cues on what they like best, what they don't like, and so on. That does make it more difficult to know if you are really giving them everything they want, but you just pay attention to what feedback you are getting and do your best. The thrill of being with someone new can overcome any minor deficiencies in technique. I think most swingers are realistic enough they don't expect the sex to just be perfect with someone new since that takes practice.

I agree too...

It's just that during my last 3 session, one exclusively with a Dutch cpl and other two in groups (where this Dutch cpl was present as well) I just couldn't manage to do it with this Dutch lady, but was fine with other 2 ladies, but the whole thing affected my thinking and obviously my performance with other wives as well.

So then next time I noticed this Dutch lady stayed away from me. I did feel bad, but also thought that she must be feeling the same, that maybe it is her who doesn't excite me as much....and now they have stopped contacting us at all.

Undoubtedly with my wife and with other Indian wives that we have had sessions with, I never had this problem....so it made me think should I use any other methods like Cialis or cock rings.

Well, just writing what comes to my mind, not sure if I need these things.

amanD