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Do you already have experience with swinging? Or is this a new idea for you? If you are experienced share your experience. If you aren't tell us what experiences you'd like to have.

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I'm not sure if it would be considered having experience to have had an MFM a long time ago or not.

 

My wife is COMPLETELY new to swinging and we are fortunate enough to have a meet and greet (dinner) tomorrow with a lovely couple near us.

 

I'll have to post to let you know what happens. We don't expect to play on the first 'date' but the chemistry could be just right... you never know. :D

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I suppose you'd call us experienced. We've played with 10 or 11 couples. Mostly it's full swap same room play. Our next foray will likely be into MFM, or more precisely my wife playing with a guy while I watch. Not sure if that's cuckoldry or hotwife or what the term for it is. :rolleyes: I lose track of all the terminology. We'd also like to try a house party sometime. All of our party experience is off-premises so we always ended up one-on-one in a room.

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We are basically completely new. We joined SLS and had a date with one couple but they turned out to be pretty scary so we took ourselves off the sight . That's the extent of our swinging experience. In fact Mr. Cupl has never been with anyone but Mrs. Cupl. She hasn't been with anyone els in like 14 yrs. So we're very new.

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hi, my husband and i have been together 14 years and have been in the lifestyle from the beginning, off and on anyway..we both had experiences before we met, him w/ an ex girlfriend and me w/ another couple...

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We are new to the swinging scence but very willing to jump in. We have had 3 fmf exp and loved them and now looking to expand our horizions.

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Julie,

 

We started into the lifestyle last summer- went to a CF Estate pool party where clothing was optional. An Adonis, absolutely delicious (in Alex's words) guy kept eyeing her 36DD tits and bush. I suggested she enter the pool without me and see how long it took him to make his way to her. It was less than 60 seconds. He chatted her up and tried to impress her with his line and adoring puppy eyes.

 

I finally invited him to join us in the movie room. Alex was very scared but excited too. He started ravishing her body as I licked on her pussy. She stroked him and then asked me if she could suck him- I said yes. That was the beginning of our lifestyle involvement.

 

We have attended several parties and had a few couples over for soft swap. Haven't yet crossed the divide into full swap. We enjoy the playing but reserve full intercourse for each other. Would be interested in others' thoughts on the subject.

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Hi everyone, We consider ourselves new to the lifestyle although we did have one experience about 5 years ago. It was a date to meet another couple for dinner & drinks to basically get to know them and see if there was any chemistry. I was straight forward in my intention that it would be nothing more than that. Well, it turned into a little bit more but not in a positive way. They were very pushy and it was just a horrible introduction to the lifestyle. They weren't newbies and should have had better control IMO.

 

Needless to say, we hightailed it out of there and figured this wasn't for us. We eventually figured out it was the approach and actions of the other couple that turned us off and we're looking into it again. Going slowly and being very selective this time around!!

 

D&A

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We are still pretty new. We have had three dates (one intro, 2 full-swap play) with the first couple we met and it seems to be going well for all four of us (knock wood - I don't want to jinx it!). We met one other couple under less than ideal circumstances and will likely not pursue them anyway.

 

We are going through a very busy time right now and are unable to put for the time and energy to meet new folks. But if everything continues to go well with the couple we have been playing with, I am less inclined to go searching for others anyway. And if it does not work out over the next couple of months, we'll re-evaluate.

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I don't know if I can say I'm new to this or not, although I did experience a MFM 12 years ago, and although I really didnt feel comfortable at first, after a few drinks and great conversation...It was a great experience. Unfortunately I haven't since, as per my past experiences, couples tend to frown on single men..

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We've been playing with others for a little over two years now. We've played with 6 or 7 couples, two of those several times (and continuing) so I guess we're experienced...although not very. When we play it's full swap with the girls playing together as well. We don't play very often and the mrs. doesn't really like clubs, but when we do make it out, we always have a great time!

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It was about 6 years ago that I sewed the seeds of the idea with my wife. It took a further two years spadework after that before she agreed to meet up with a couple we'd met online. We spent a day with them and their family which was interesting if anything. The couples wife was very hot to get in on but I was a bit reticent. Nothing happened but that night we ended up in a swingers club in the northern suburbs of Pretoria - full of nerves and excitement. We finally ended up in the voyeur room. I remember being pleasantly facinated watching two blue-rinse ladies in their sixties sharing husbands, riding them in long slow movements or blowing them at length in the most senusal manner. It was just so erotic. My wife didn't feel comfortable, so we didn't swing - I was also unsure of the ground I was on, so simply made out amongst the rest of the participants. It was wonderful. On that evening we met another couple whom we befriended and clubbed together a few times. But it didn't work out for my wife, cause the other husband would "pop" before he had even penetrated, But we still remain friends. In the last year we have found a couple closer to home who have been ideal that that there is enough allround chemistry. And we have had a few good parties together. Slowly my wife is shedding her inhibitions and slowly starting to enjoy herself - and that is really want turns me on - hearing her soft moans while enjoying another guy.

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While we are not new to the idea, we took sometime off, and now i am not sure that my wife is doing for her enjoyment also. any ideas on the subject would be greatly appericated.

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While we are not new to the idea, we took sometime off, and now i am not sure that my wife is doing for her enjoyment also. any ideas on the subject would be greatly appericated.

 

You might want to post a little more detail about what is going on so that you can get more response.

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I am thinking about swinging from last 2 years, when I heard the term 1st time. Actually , before swinging I heard the term Groupsex and Party Sex and I downloaded lots movies form the net. It was simply an amazing idea to have my partner gets done while I watch her closely reaching and feeling the thrust of some other man. Next, doing full swap in the same was much more exciting idea to me. I really wanted to join some Party Sex too but there are no parties like this in India :(

 

4 years ago, I had GF and she wanted to meet me in my room but I was never able to call her as Indians are pretty much conservative and my landlord simply said NO GIRL in your room, otherwise, vacant the room and go to hell, ouch! , now that hurts. At that time I did not know about Swinging but today I think she liked it and she must be shy enough to not to ask me. She was pretty much an attractive girl and from my memory, I recall the way she talked and I feel she wanted to have a foursome, me and her with a couple but now she is 3500 KM away from me and I am single at the moment. Regarding me, lets say I have a GF and I am sure I will pretty much aroused when she will have some other man satisfying her desires, that gives me a big turn-on and having the body of woman of that man, in front of my GF will be pretty much unforgettable experience for me.

 

I joined this forum because I want to do swinging and I think the way I want to do it with respect and appreciation for that couple. I respect if some couples trusts me enough to have his partner and I am sure I will never cross their personal boundaries that they have drawn. The links sent by JustAskJulie did impact me much and I was happy we have some rules and ethics to follow, otherwise I could not have joined.

 

I am 27 and single and living in Hyderabad, India and looking forward to have swinging and MFM experience.

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I am a single male, and I haven't had much experience lately, BUT, my first expereinces were with my friend and his several wives...serially that is! We "all" connected sexually with each of his wives, and his wives with me, sometimes the attractions between the three of us would be immediate, sometimes it took weeks to months, to "evolve", but "always" my relationships with my friend and his wives took a very strong sexual turn, and we "always" had a good time sensually and sexually, but that was "never" the cause for their marraige breakups. That was just the most often of causes, "money". So, my "first" time was with my friend and his first wife. I remember that so well even now, "fondly".

 

Michael

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Myself and my partner are completely new to singing. We've been openly polyamorous since we met, but (and we're having a problem with this at the moment) you don't meet many people who are actually open to the idea, people are generally far too posessive. So we've decided to check out the swingers scene, and see how it works out. The closest I've ever come to a swingers party were a few circuit parties, but I got completely out of that scene. Way too high risk for STDs, and no ladies.

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Myself and my partner are completely new to singing. We've been openly polyamorous since we met, but (and we're having a problem with this at the moment) you don't meet many people who are actually open to the idea, people are generally far too posessive. So we've decided to check out the swingers scene, and see how it works out. The closest I've ever come to a swingers party were a few circuit parties, but I got completely out of that scene. Way too high risk for STDs, and no ladies.

 

perhaps this forums will help. I think you can get to know some swingers here who have checked for VDs . STDs is a very big risk and though I fantasize and love swinging too much but nothing gonna happen before I have my VD test and the couple's too. You can have fixed a swinging night here by just asking and while explaining your intentions and conditions. Being a married couple, other swingers will trust you better than me :rolleyes: . I hope you will have a nice time here, the community is very co-operative and helpful as long as as you respect the people here :o and at last I will be more than happy if you post your swinging-experience here. I will really appreciate the time you will put in posting.

 

Good Luck..

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I first heard about the clubs when going to school in NYC and was dying to go. I've always had a sensual appetite that I think would intimidate most guys I know.

 

I love meeting fun and interesting people and having great sex, but I am not interested in a relationship. Frankly, I don't have the time (read: patience) for it right now! I know what I want, but can be fairly shy about it. I like more confident and experienced people to bring it out of me.

 

I've always thought a swingers club would be a great way to meet people and have a good time. It seems like everyone is very friendly and the atmosphere is as comfortable and non-intimidating as possible. Hope I'm right, here's to first timers!

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We are coming in totally new, we tried meet a single gal a few years ago, had a bad experience in a bar picking her up. We are going to Desire Cancun this year to explore and get used to being nude, and hopefully visit with some couples. i am sure we will start out with some petting and soft swap. The curiosity has been fun, we both think it is time for the next step or maybe even a leap!!!

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We went to a swingers club for the first time about a month ago. I wanted to do something different on our 'date night' than the normal go to dinner thing so I approached my husband about going to a swingers club. We had reviewed the website and decided that we liked what we saw. We could do all the things we like there. Eat, drink, dance, spend time together, AND have sex. (This last becomes a challenge sometimes because we have 4 kids under the age of 8 at home.) The prospect of going to a swingers club also opened up a lot of fantasy talk between us.

 

K was nervous the night we decided to go but I reassured him that we were just going to check it out, we didn't have to participate in anything, and we could always say "No, thank you." if we were approached. Our first evening was wonderful. The night we went the club wasn't very full, we were early so we got the tour, and the staff went out of their way to make us feel comfortable. We watched the other patrons, danced, spent the whole night in "foreplay" before going into the back and seeing what the playrooms were like. We occupied one and...well you get the picture.

 

We enjoyed it so much that we joined the website for the club and started to network with people that we'd like to get to know better. We actually met with a couple this last weekend that we'd seen initially at the club on our visit and started talking with them on the website. They put together a "meet and greet" dinner with us and some other couples they were talking with. We and had really good time at dinner.

 

Afterward we all went to the club and this was when we had our first experimentation with others. We were invited into the "couples-only" room with our hosts and most of the others we had come with. K and I were uncertain about how we felt about group sex but we thought we'd just go with things as they were. We played around a little with the other new couple that was with us, watched some of the others play, and had sex with each other but we weren't real comfortable in the environment (too many people all at once) and so went someplace a little more private.

 

We plan on going again, although we've decided that the next time there is an opportunity to play we'll do it in a more intimate way. There are many things we'd like to try and do and we'll get there, in our own time.

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Technically as a couple we are coming in completely new. I was a little wild in my teenage years and watched one of my boyfriends with my best friend (which I couldn't handle at the time), and another time I had sex with my boyfriend in the same room as my (other) best friend and her boyfriend. That situation was way better and was the first time I ever had an orgasm without clitoral stimulation.

My husband has only been with a total of 4 women ever, so needless to say he had not had very many exciting experienced, until he met me that is ::P:.

We are going to a club this weekend. It will be the first time for us. We are so excited! It seems too good to be true right now, I don't think it will really sink inn until we get there.

I will definitely keep you guys posted! :cool:

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I was introduced to swinging several years ago with my then husband. I have always felt comfortable around others in an atmosphere that was playful and comfortable. Sexually I have always been uninhibited.

 

I always enjoyed playing alone and having my partner either choose to watch or play with me and someone he would want to play with.

 

I am now divorced and am still very happy in the lifestyle, I wouldn't change it for anything.

 

I am not looking for a relationship right now, just good friends, and an environment that is relaxed and fun in every aspect of the word.

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I"m completely new to swinging, and would love to get my wife involved, but am solo for now! There is just something about group sex that is so hot!:facelick:

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We've done full swap same and seperate rooms, MFM and one FMF. The FMF was HORRIBLE for us, due to the fact that the other woman LITERALLY kept cock-blocking me and if my hubby tried to show me attention, she did everything she could to get it back, including pulling us apart. We learned a lesson that night, make sure she REALLY wants to share...

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I (Him) have some experience...she has none...but we are both looking forward to exploring what the lifestyle has to offer...

 

J & S

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We had our first experience about 4 years ago.. Small party at the house with some friends and ended in the hottub. After an hour or so and several drinks, it got down to just the wife and I and guy from next door. She and I were playing a little and she said it didnt seem fair to leave him out. I suggested she show him her "talent" as she is a BJ queen.. Well, she did and it went on and on from there. Her favorite is MFM but we have recently experienced several very nice FMF and we both really enjoyed that as well. At this point we have had the pleasure of a few soft swaps but always in the same room (or hottub). She would like to try a 3 guy nite.. and I am game, so maybe soon.

The biggest issue we have is meeting others in the same general area we live. Hoping that will get better as we start to meet people on the board and in person.

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Me and My husband is very new to swinging, we have had one experience with his cousin, and OMG that was so awesome being the center of attention between two males. I loved it, but hubby still has issues wether or not he could handle another male having sex with me, other than just touching, Me on the other hand i am ready for it. any ideas HELP!!!!

I would love to be with more than one man at a time, i love my husband and I am not looking to replace him, Just want to have fun, Male or female, lol

:D

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Me and My husband is very new to swinging, we have had one experience with his cousin, and OMG that was so awesome being the center of attention between two males. I loved it, but hubby still has issues wether or not he could handle another male having sex with me, other than just touching, Me on the other hand i am ready for it. any ideas HELP!!!!

I would love to be with more than one man at a time, i love my husband and I am not looking to replace him, Just want to have fun, Male or female, lol

:D

 

LOL, you sound just like my wife. Like you, she thinks being in the middle is amazing. As for your hubby, take your time and just let him know it is double the fun for you and you are more then willing to return the favor for him. He will catch on to the idea I am sure. The big thing is dont push it, it is meant to be fun and if he feels like it is being pushed on him, he will not be as willing. I would also suggest some adult movies that are geared towards the type of play you want. Watch with him and see how he reacts.

Good luck and the key to everyone having a great time is communication.. !

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Right now I'm a single female and have never had any experience with swinging. I was with a boyfriend for 2 years and he had brought the subject up to me but we never put the thought into action. Now that I'm by myself I have started to think about being with a couple more and more... Is that weird that I'm single and I still would like to be involved in swinging? Could you even call it swinging if I'm single?

I guess I am so new at this I dont know the right questions to ask... But I feel if I was in a relationship that this would be something I would want to share with my partner. If anyone has any advice about this I would love some!

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We still consider ourselves new, but have had two experiences. They were good for us and according to our "friends" they enjoyed themselves as well. We took our time starting and it ws well worth the wait, we were very comfortable when the first time happened.

 

 

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We have not experienced anything yet. We went to a club, the problem is that I am shy. I was very nervous. We met a lot of nice people there. My nerves got the better of me though.

We will be returning to the club. The best thing is, my husband is not rushing me into anything. I love him so much.

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we have been in the lifestyle since last nov. I think we are past newbie status. lol. We have been with around 15 or so couples. We love it. IT has been for us. It hyas made are at home sex life better!!!

 

C&C

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I think we have you all beat. We have been married for 39 years and neither one of us had ever had sex with anyone else. When I say ever, I mean ever! But we have talked about it for a while and we decided to try it because, frankly, it looks like a whole lot of fun. We are on LL and AFF, we went to a non-play Meet & Greet, and we had dinner with a couple who contacted us from AFF. We are having dinner with again next week at their house (with hot tub) and we plan to take things as far as we feel like going. We are also going to a club in San Francisco for a No panties mini-skirt party on Saturday night where we plan on playing as circumstances allow. We are slightly nervous but also really happy to know that there are lots of other people just like us.

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Right now I'm a single female and have never had any experience with swinging. I was with a boyfriend for 2 years and he had brought the subject up to me but we never put the thought into action. Now that I'm by myself I have started to think about being with a couple more and more... Is that weird that I'm single and I still would like to be involved in swinging? Could you even call it swinging if I'm single?

I guess I am so new at this I dont know the right questions to ask... But I feel if I was in a relationship that this would be something I would want to share with my partner. If anyone has any advice about this I would love some!

No, I don't think its weird at all, you being single and wanting to be in the lifestyle. I've been at it for almost 15 years and its quite satisfying. Drop me a line if you have any questions or need some advice....

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I'd say we are fairly new, we have an exp. wiith another couple and been hooked every since, we enjoy it and love meeting new people, it's just been hard for us to meet females and couples due to the fact we are so busy and never in the scene ex. when we go out and meet people. we are very picky so we find it difficult to meet people. but i'm hoping we can continue to explore and have a helluva time.

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Hello All We are not married Yet next year We have not had a couple experiance yet just MMF she likes the attension we are looking for friends in Denver area we are both in our 30s looking for friends in and out of Bedroomm

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well we started swinging a little over a yr ago.. he'd been working on getting me into for 8 yrs and i finally he asked to call a club... real swave of him.. heheh so we are outside and he's talking to her. and next thing i know he says we will see you friday night.. so i was almost pissed at first, then worry..hheh i was very body shy and didn't think anyone would like me. so we go and on the way we agreed that what happends doesn't matter.. and we'd take it as it goes. so the ladies there.. most my size by the way... where great and we discovered we loved the friends you can have and the 2 guys i went up with was nice too.heheh so after maybe 3 months of swinging i was finnally less shy.. and now i go out more then he does. i'm no longer a one man woman.... bi... and we are in it for life.. hehehe so that's our first experiance.

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Thanks, I'm new to this site but have had some experience with others. Just wanted to say Hi everybody.......

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Do you already have experience with swinging? Or is this a new idea for you? If you are experienced share your experience. If you aren't tell us what experiences you'd like to have.

 

I'd like to have my wife get interested in Swinging but she is so Straight & Religious. Yes, I have swung a few times but not in recent times. Almost wish she would get raped. But then maybe that would be the end of her beginning.

Have you any ideas or suggestions?

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I'd like to have my wife get interested in Swinging but she is so Straight & Religious. Yes, I have swung a few times but not in recent times. Almost wish she would get raped. But then maybe that would be the end of her beginning.

Have you any ideas or suggestions?

 

Do I have any suggestions, sure, she needs to find a new mate. Your role should be to protect her at all costs and yet you suggest she get raped so YOU can swing?

Get help!

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Do I have any suggestions, sure, she needs to find a new mate. Your role should be to protect her at all costs and yet you suggest she get raped so YOU can swing?

Get help!

 

Ditto!

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Yikes! I almost hate to follow that one! (wow, some people do say stupid things, don't they?)....

 

Mr. O and I are very new. We've joined a club and enjoyed our time there watching, being watched, having sex in the same room as other couples having sex. We haven't actually had sex around anyone we've actually spoken to beforehand. Right now we are getting to know two couples pretty well and a 3rd has entered the picture. We've gotten an invitation from one of the couples to "get together for a game night and see where it goes". So, now we are really getting a handle on our "boundaries" so we can pursue this evening with them. The nice part of it is that the female of the couple is very outgoing and aggressive (in a good way), which is probably just the thing we need to pull us out of our timidity. It'll probably be the girls that get the party started. They seem like the sort of people with whom we could experiment and wouldn't be offended if we had to pop out for a "discussion" or re-evaluation mid-stream. Besides, once we are out of our shells, you'd never believe we had ever been in them! So, we'll see where that goes. It's kind of like strip poker, we'll lose a sock here and a shirt there...eventually, we'll be naked and swapping like mad! someday...

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I'd like to have my wife get interested in Swinging but she is so Straight & Religious. Yes, I have swung a few times but not in recent times. Almost wish she would get raped. But then maybe that would be the end of her beginning.

Have you any ideas or suggestions?

 

Um wow I am at a loss for words. That is sad and sick.

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We dont consider ourselves "new", because we have had a few 3 somes in the past, but only 3 months of actually pursuing other couples for swapping. We have met a few really good couples so far.

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First off thank you for this site! Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year now and love each other very much. We are big time nymphos =D and are curious about trying new things. We both have fantacies of doing things with each other that include other people and have talked about shareing each other. I was just hopeing for some insite to our feelings and hope to meet some nice couples

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Do you already have experience with swinging? Or is this a new idea for you? If you are experienced share your experience. If you aren't tell us what experiences you'd like to have.

 

Yes, I already have some Swinging experience but it was several years ago. Now that I'm 70 I'm starting over but looking for much more Mature women this time.

Once I was invited to a Club orgy as a fill in for a Sick hubby. Wow the Sweet aroma of Sex was in the air that night. The place was a large ranch type home with large basement partitioned off by curtains Each cubicle had a Single bed with soft carpeting. The name of the Swing Club was called The Sand Castle and it was outside Vancouver, WA.

 

Now have moved to the mountains so I'm looking for Mature women in & around La Grande, OR.

 

Joe

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      I'm curious to see what everyone's initial experiences were in this respect. Perhaps this has been polled already, but I'll try it again. So did you start out slowly and gradually with much talk, or did you just decide one night, on a lark, to hit a club and the rest was history?
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