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    Default Who brought up the idea of swinging? OR has it been brought up?

    Are you here because you are researching and trying to work up the nerve to bring up the idea of swinging? Or have you alreaday brought it up and you are now both researching together? Which half of the couple (if a couple) are you and which one of you brought up the idea of swinging? If it hasn't been brought up yet, then share what you are hoping to discover.
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    My wife wanted to have a girl-girl experience, so I brought up the idea of a FMF and she thought that was great. When we discovered how difficult it is to find a F for casual FMF, we just slipped into couple swapping...and the rest is history.

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    My wife definitly brought it up... She was into swinging with her ex...

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    I had been around Swingers and the Lifestyle since I was old enough to have sex.

    When I met Laura I finally told her about my Lifestyle and she decided she wanted to check it out.

    That was Many, many years ago.

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    I think I was the first one to mention actually doing it (Mr. Cupl) but we'd been talking about it for years. She didn't want to at first but then she read Swing by Opal Carew and now she's the driving force behind us taking the next step.

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    I (Dory) brought it up first with my bi sexual curiosity. Andrew was more than happy to hear about my thoughts and fantasies of being with another woman! Like lakeluvrs, we have found it hard to find a whole lot of single females. But we haven't given up hope!!

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    My wife started us off by takeing some tantric classes.
    We learned alot about sex from a dikini and the threesomes and foursomes followed naturaly.
    Sex is so much better now.

    Thankyou hun.

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    Well, it is like this, after being married for ten years one day my wife came up to me and asked my opinion about "fantasies" after discusing the difference between tha fantasies that can and should be fulfilled; and the ones that should just remain in your imagination, we came down to the ones each of us wants to see come trough. Then she shocked my socks off by telling me that she had the fantasy of watching me having sex with another woman. As you might imagine, I jumped at the chance right away, at first, then I kind of went lead footted because I told her that it sounded to me like just half of the fantasy. That the second part of the fantasy it would be for her to try and have another partner, and that I was not too keen with the idea. After some exchanges of opinions and some ups and downs in the subject, we both agreed that we'd only try the first part of the fantasy and see what came out of it. If we agreed then we would have the second part fulfilled. Funny thing is, before any of this happened, I had to be on my toes so I would not slip and found myself called "a cheat" I thought I had covered the traditional role of the well behaved husband. Once the subject of "the swingging lifestyle" came up, then I found my beliefs and values shaken to the core. I had to face up to the true opinion that I have on some issues. I hate to be pointed at as a liar. But at the same time, I do want to learn about the life style, and deal with the issues of possessiveness on my part. I know that it involves a different type of mentality, that culturally speaking, latinos had been raised up to think only with the "self enjoyment" mentality. That's why I joined this site as well as a whole lotta other sites and clubes over the internet to see if I could find 'that intimate' friend to share my wife's fantasy, but at the same time feeling guilty for allowing this when it only looks selfish.
    I would like to hear your advise and opinions on the subject.
    Thanks for the help and the chance
    Juan

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    Quote Originally Posted by jccuevas-rivera View Post
    Well, it is like this, after being married for ten years one day my wife came up to me and asked my opinion about "fantasies" after discusing the difference between tha fantasies that can and should be fulfilled; and the ones that should just remain in your imagination, we came down to the ones each of us wants to see come trough. Then she shocked my socks off by telling me that she had the fantasy of watching me having sex with another woman. As you might imagine, I jumped at the chance right away, at first, then I kind of went lead footted because I told her that it sounded to me like just half of the fantasy. That the second part of the fantasy it would be for her to try and have another partner, and that I was not too keen with the idea. After some exchanges of opinions and some ups and downs in the subject, we both agreed that we'd only try the first part of the fantasy and see what came out of it. If we agreed then we would have the second part fulfilled. Funny thing is, before any of this happened, I had to be on my toes so I would not slip and found myself called "a cheat" I thought I had covered the traditional role of the well behaved husband. Once the subject of "the swingging lifestyle" came up, then I found my beliefs and values shaken to the core. I had to face up to the true opinion that I have on some issues.
    I am the female half of the couple here and my husband said he would like to have another woman in bed with us... i totally agreed, as I had a girlfriend when I was in college and had many a good time with her. I hadn't had that for ten years now (since I had been married) But hubby is getting cold feet and doe not want to meet people for fear that I have the thoughts of having another man and he thinks that I am being selfish. I told him that if I wanted another man I would have done that long ago and just had an affair... Sounds terrible I know, but honestly - I think an open marriage or swinging lifestyle is great for a relationship I think we can be more open and honest about things when it is all just out there...


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    when we were dating, mrs. was very young [20] and wanting to experiment, so mr. would encourage/arrange play.

    after a break for having kids, it was mrs. who said 'let's have some fun again'!

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    DH did years ago and I would joke with him maybe some day. We have had an awakening in our relationship after all these years and really enjoying one another. We talked about fantasies and from there we have been more interested in swinging.

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    i brought it up to my husband and he accepted the idea. now i'm looking into it for us so we can get started on it

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    Quote Originally Posted by JustAskJulie View Post
    Are you here because you are researching and trying to work up the nerve to bring up the idea of swinging? Or have you alreaday brought it up and you are now both researching together? Which half of the couple (if a couple) are you and which one of you brought up the idea of swinging? If it hasn't been brought up yet, then share what you are hoping to discover.
    Well like I stated in the intro thread, we are new to this. I broke up with my current girlfriend about a year ago. Then we got back together about a month ago when we discovered we liked being with each other, but just needed more sex with others. We want nsa sex and that's why I got on this site - to figure out the best and safest way to get it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VAswingcurious View Post
    I am the female half of the couple here and my husband said he would like to have another woman in bed with us... i totally agreed, as I had a girlfriend when I was in college and had many a good time with her. I hadn't had that for ten years now (since I had been married) But hubby is getting cold feet and doe not want to meet people for fear that I have the thoughts of having another man and he thinks that I am being selfish. I told him that if I wanted another man I would have done that long ago and just had an affair... Sounds terrible I know, but honestly - I think an open marriage or swinging lifestyle is great for a relationship I think we can be more open and honest about things when it is all just out there...
    I agree with VAswing. I truly feel that if a couple is open to each other on everything and both truly enjoy the swinging lifestyle, then swinging overall can enhance perhaps improve their sex life and relationship.

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    My lady was a exotic dancer (stripper) in Las Vegas. I saw her danceing at a club then I hired her. I been to only one so call swingers club and my feet stuck to the floor when I walk across it. We started dating and I fell in love with her. We was sitting around and talking about life when I told her about this crap hole of a swingers club. She been a swinger before and got out of it because of her x. A friend told me about the other swinger's club and we talk about it and we went and been going ever since. I guess it was both our ideal to go.

    Stop laughing or I WILL put my clothes back on.

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    I Am, And always , will be all for couples!!! That love each other enough to be completely, HONEST.

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    He brought it up a couple of years ago, as an alternative to divorce. We've been married 26 years and have issues like trust and college/high school kids.

    We've played twice (both times with unmarried couples), and experiences a mixed bag of positive and negative feelings from those adventures. We've only met one married couple, but were grossed out by their un-fun personalities (mousy and manic), and never got together again.

    We've learned a lot about how this works (and doesn't); and now realize our trust issues need more attention; and swinging again for now remains a fantasy.

    Tasting this lifestyle has been a positive springboard for opening our hearts and minds to each other again, and realizing the depth of our commitment. So we lurk here occasionally; curious, fascinated and trying to keep our minds open to possibilities.

    Dori


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    The idea may have been with us for years, but the right time, place and persons didn't happen or we didn't make it happen. We have close friends who are swingers back at home, but they hav never ask us to join them, mybe because they are close or we are too conservative for them, who knows. One evening at a hotel in your country we met a couple and over a long dinner they shared some of their swinging experiences, both likes and dislikes with us. They didn't know us and we didn't know them. The conversation had started about what NZ and Australia was like and after some time it turned to sport, family, then sex. Both my wife and I didn't find the conversation strannge. The evening was an non-event but we again bumped them the next day after doing a tour of a city. We had a standard room and they had a deluxe room with balcony. The normal thing happened, we all went to dinner together, then back to the hotel and parted company. Whilst we were talking about them before bed, they called and invited us to their room coffee, so we went.

    We talked and the subject of swinging came up and without any drink but coffee in our system, the night was our induction into this life style, but only while we are traveling, never at home at this stage.

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    Hey, who's idea was it to swing? Husband or Wife's idea?

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    Default Re: Who brought up the idea of swinging? OR has it been brought up?

    Quote Originally Posted by JustAskJulie View Post
    Are you here because you are researching and trying to work up the nerve to bring up the idea of swinging? Or have you alreaday brought it up and you are now both researching together? Which half of the couple (if a couple) are you and which one of you brought up the idea of swinging? If it hasn't been brought up yet, then share what you are hoping to discover.
    We are here together.We discuss everything about swinging to each other.We feel that we are now ready for the group parties.

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    my wife brought it up. she said she wanted to watch me with another female but, through talking, i suspect she wants a girl-girl.... which is fine with me... as long as i can watch.

    i don't think i'd ever be ok with her and another guy though... not even sure how i'd feel about us same room sex with another couple. i had a same room sex experience a long time ago with a high school girlfriend and it totally turned that girlfriend off.... didn't do much for me either.

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    its when my wife gets the horniest just her thinking or me talking about it

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    We've been married 25 years - together longer than that. It was probably the third or fourth year of our marriage when we started to discuss fantasies. One thing led to another and while on a trip we made the point of doing some 'showing' but not 'sharing'. Once home we talked about it constantly - it was so hot for both of us.

    So, the next trip (we don't 'play' at home ever) we took it further - and the rest is history. I can't really say it was 'him' or 'her' that brought it up. We always seem to come up with the same ideas at the same time!!

    We've also taken 'time off' from swinging - again, not something one or the other of us decided - we just seemed to agree we needed some time when it happened. When we reenter the Lifestyle - we seem to jump in with both feet!

    The fantasies continue....

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    Well,it just seemed to be the way to go.Never boring huh!

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    I'm not sure which one of us really brought it up first. I'm thinking me, lol!

    About a year ago, we joined AFF with the thoughts that we were going to live out a fantasy of mine. We loved to have webcam shows and show off and we got to know a few people that way.

    But true to life, life happens. So our activities died down bit and we never had the chance to engage in the swinger lifestyle. But now we're going to see about giving it another go.


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